movingforward2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 (edited) I was recently dumped by my son's father who I was in a relationship for almost 5 years. He had to relocate for work and ended up meeting someone in his new location. Unfortunately it was a few weeks before our wedding and he wasn't a man to come out and tell me exactly what happened. I found out about a week ago that after he ended our relationship 12/10, he slept with her numerous times. After a few days of sleeping with her unbeknowst to me, he started contacting me again and saying we should try to give our relationship another shot as we do have a family. I went to his city with our son to spend Christmas with him but snooped through his phone and found out the infomation above. I texted the girlfriend from his phone because I was upset he had me come to spend Christmas with him (and sleep with him) while she was away for Christmas and I felt we all needed to know the truth. Well through out this entire time I have had a friend that has ONLY been a friend. He had told me months ago that he was interested in me but since I was due to be married and in a relationship, he wouldn't get in between that. He has periodically checked on me, texting Happy Birthday and Mother's Day, etc. and given me advice so naturally when this situation started going down, I turned to him and he was there for me. Now that the relationship ended almost 3 weeks ago, my friend has been such an emotional support, literally listening to me rant and cry for hours. Every single day he has been there, calling me, texting, checking in. We have spend so much time together that I am now looking at him differently. I always liked him however I was in a relationship and to be married. Now I am not---- but I am emotionally fragile. I don't want a full blown relationship at this point, but I am feeling differently to him and I really appreciate him being there for me. We have discussed it and he told me that he always liked me and would definitely want to give it a shot but he believes I may try to work things out with my ex because of our history and son. Well ex has been keeping contact with me daily since d-day. He is sorry, trying to figure out how to fix things but feels we need time apart and to talk again in few weeks to figure out direction of our relationship. I would be lying if I said I don't want to work things out--- but I am not sure if I can. The man I was suppose to be married to and the father of our child met someone else and literally ended our relationship for a woman he barely knows. He blames it on being lonely in a new location but I was suppose to relocated to him late 2013 after I was done with school. My friend is showing me how a woman is suppose to be treated and has been a saint through out all my mood swings and emotional outbursts. He has made getting past this broken heart easier. I am still sad but I definitely feel much better than I have in previous break ups. So my question is, any advice? Does the dumpee's rebound result in a true relationship? I don't want to lose this man as a friend but I am definitely wanting to see where things can go. He has to be one of the most selfless, considerate and caring people I ever met to help ME get over my broken heart and receive nothing in return. We have been friends for almost 2 years and he has never over stepped his boundary. Edited January 2, 2013 by movingforward2013
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