Would you be bothered if the guy you're dating is also pursuing someone else?

[musemaj11]

Men are buyers and free to shop as many as they can afford.

[phineas]

I appreciate all of your opinions. I'd like to bring it up to him, but I don't know how I should do it.

 

How would you guys go about it?

 

How about you tell him you have been together long enough & you aren't going to have sex with him anymore until he agree's to stop seeing other women.

 

The fact that you are afraid to confront him tells us you are WAY more into him than he is into you.

 

Both genders will walk all over someone if they know their partner is afraid of losing them.

 

Show him you are not afraid to walk away if you are not shown the respect you want.

[Samilia]

For sure I wouldn't start with "I heard that.. " or "I was told that..". jcrew's answer is pretty much what I would go for.

[MoreThanThat]

I never ever got in this kind of issue. must be a US thing. or maybe when youre younger the person wants to still shop around. I never had that whether I was young or older now. and I dated a LOT of women. a lot. I wont get into it that most times i'd walk away and the relationships were short. but I always tell the women im loyal and a 1 woman man and if they say the same, its done. nothing more to talk about.

 

but every single woman I dated was the same. we knew it was exclusive. no need to ask or talk. you can feel it. I dated only her and she only me. those being exclusive talks are so pathetic. I laugh when people talk about it. wanna go steady? get the F outta here with that crap.

 

and yes it would piss me off but OTOH it would never happen to me.

 

That's been my experience too. With a few exceptions, every date I've been on has led to an exclusive relationship without ever needing to discuss it. Honestly, if it came to the point I even had to wonder about the possibility of someone even seeing someone else, I'd KNOW he was the wrong guy for me.