Sarah89 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I've gone and told this guy that I like him, and only just found out he thinks of himself as a player. He knows he's got me now, what do I do?! I feel so stupid, I'm going to meet him tomorrow. He told me he liked me too, but what? What do I say, how do I react?
todreaminblue Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I've gone and told this guy that I like him, and only just found out he thinks of himself as a player. He knows he's got me now, what do I do?! I feel so stupid, I'm going to meet him tomorrow. He told me he liked me too, but what? What do I say, how do I react? He only has you if you want him to have you ......Doesnt sound like you do want him....How did you find out he was a player....break it down for me ...and also why you still like the guy......did he play you or people you know?
Author Sarah89 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 He only has you if you want him to have you ......Doesnt sound like you do want him....How did you find out he was a player....break it down for me ...and also why you still like the guy......did he play you or people you know? We'll call him Q. I do want him though. He's been telling me things like "I don't want you speaking to other guys, I want you" and "I haven't got with anyone else since you" and "I don't know why you like me, I'm a dick" and "I remember the first time I ever met you, I liked you ever since" etc. He told my friend that he still has feelings for her, but one of Q's boy friends told me that Q only likes me and Q really likes me. Also Q was drunk at told my friend "I enjoy being a bit like a player".
Fondue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Anyone who refers to themselves as a player, is most definitely not a player. 3
Author Sarah89 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Anyone who refers to themselves as a player, is most definitely not a player. You see, I thought that. I just thought maybe he wanted to sound "cool" and make us jealous?
Author Sarah89 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 What do you find attractive about him? Let's just say I haven't felt like this towards a guy in a while.
jcrew11 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Just be careful. Find out if he is seeing or talking to other girls on his radar. If he's really charming and charismatic, and flirtatious with women then other women are going to chase after him as well. Ask him if he is seeing other girls. See what he says.
Author Sarah89 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Just be careful. Find out if he is seeing or talking to other girls on his radar. If he's really charming and charismatic, and flirtatious with women then other women are going to chase after him as well. Ask him if he is seeing other girls. See what he says. Thank you, will do!
Author Sarah89 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 I think you should have sex with him as soon as possible and make a topic in 10-14 days about how you can't believe you were used for sex and how there aren't any good men to be found these days. To be honest I don't think that would make the situation better, only worse. He wants to though, but I'm not like that.
crude Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 He sounds powerful, determined, in charge, aggressive, confident, and all the manly characteristics that women like todreaminblue think is attractive. He's a keeper, you don't want a shy, nice guy.
Author Sarah89 Posted January 3, 2013 Author Posted January 3, 2013 He sounds powerful, determined, in charge, aggressive, confident, and all the manly characteristics that women like todreaminblue think is attractive. He's a keeper, you don't want a shy, nice guy. Hmm haha! We shall see.
Radu Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 When ppl tell you things about themselves, you should listen. He told you he is not good for you; i think you will find out for yourself how true he is. Keep also in mind a few things : - women love guys who seem in charge, determined, strong, independent ... these are indeed good qualities, but they are also found in the jerk/******* - he sounds very immature, i'm guessing you are both early college ? - some ppl [men and women] like to play the victim; it makes their target feel paternal/maternal, protective of them. Women have the fantasy of changing them, and helping them. Men want to become the white knight who helps her out. The ppl who like to play this victim role, are actually predators ... from an emotional pov.
GLDheart Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 The Best way to learn a good lesson... is to jump right in with both feet!! p.s. and totally unrelated... tell Q he owes me one.
Author Sarah89 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 The Best way to learn a good lesson... is to jump right in with both feet!! p.s. and totally unrelated... tell Q he owes me one. Well, yeah you never know until you try. Ha, hmm okay.
Maneater Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 I feel you. I hate when guys try to play mr player when maybe they're not. since you haven't been told for sure if he is seeing anyone else yet I guess just play it out. Did you post earlier that he told your friend that he still likes HER or YOU?
sagetalk Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 What do I say, how do I react? Tell him you want a real man, then walk away and never look back.
nessaaa Posted January 4, 2013 Posted January 4, 2013 Players are boring once they only want you. Once that bad boy player image is squashed their like regular guys.. Needy puppy dogs.
Author Sarah89 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 When ppl tell you things about themselves, you should listen. He told you he is not good for you; i think you will find out for yourself how true he is. Keep also in mind a few things : - women love guys who seem in charge, determined, strong, independent ... these are indeed good qualities, but they are also found in the jerk/******* - he sounds very immature, i'm guessing you are both early college ? - some ppl [men and women] like to play the victim; it makes their target feel paternal/maternal, protective of them. Women have the fantasy of changing them, and helping them. Men want to become the white knight who helps her out. The ppl who like to play this victim role, are actually predators ... from an emotional pov. I think it's better to take things with a pinch of salt to be honest, just don't be too naive about things. I do get what you mean though, and thank you.
Author Sarah89 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 I feel you. I hate when guys try to play mr player when maybe they're not. since you haven't been told for sure if he is seeing anyone else yet I guess just play it out. Did you post earlier that he told your friend that he still likes HER or YOU? Yeah, it's rather annoying to be fair. I went to see this guy the other day and he made me dinner, told me that he thinks I'm beautiful etc. We had a deep 1 hour + convo about him and me and things went well, I honestly wasn't being naive about anything. He was drunk when he told my friend that he still liked her, alcohol makes you incredibly emotional? Not making excuses for him/myself but I think it does.
Author Sarah89 Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 Players are boring once they only want you. Once that bad boy player image is squashed their like regular guys.. Needy puppy dogs. I don't know, I'd rather have a needy puppy dog than a want to be player. I just don't know.
GLDheart Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 ...He was drunk when he told my friend that he still liked her, alcohol makes you incredibly emotional?... No. Please, refer to the layman's use of Ockham's Razor. He was telling your friend he likes her. It is what it is. There is no need to overcomplicate things. The booze is irrelevant. As a self described player, wether he said that to get her to open up at that moment or if he really likes her remains to be seen. BUT, at the very least, it challenges the credibility of when he says these same things to YOU.
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