marie1990 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 So, my bf and I have been together for 10 months now and everything seems ok. But, recently he has been acting a little weird. He is constantly on his cell phone texting, and if im sitting next to him while he is texting, he will angle the phone so i cant see the screen. Also, a few weeks ago, one of his ex's messaged me on Facebook asking me how he is doing? When I confronted him about it, he just said it was his stalker and to not talk to her. He wouldnt tell me anything else. I didnt press the issue any further. So, i guess my question is, should i be worried that our relationship is coming to a close or should i just brush it off my shoulder and deal with it?
Misslovely Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Sounds just like my ex bf. We recently broke up and were togther for almost 10months too. He started acting all weird and **** so when i checked his phone, no suprise he was txting and fbing other chicks. Im not saying your man is doing the same but if this is bothering you than maybe you should talk to him
Author marie1990 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 I did check his phone once. There was no texts to other girls, but there was one fb message to some girl and he was asking her if she had found a bf yet. She had said no and he replied, "oh, sucks no penis for you." I didn't even confront him about it because I didn't want him knowing I went through his phone. Should I have confronted him about that?
Misslovely Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Well i personally don't think that fb msg is worth confronting your bf. Either his a really good liar or his simply not cheating on you. I would leave things be atm, don't stress about it cause you're just going to drive yourself nuts. Ps whats a relationship without trust? think about it I guess being in a relationship is kinda like being on a plane and trusting someone else (the pilot) 100% not to hurt you, you trust them with your life
Author marie1990 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Thanks, that's really good advice. I need to trust him more, so I'm going to start. I'm going to let it go because I gave been driving myself crazy. Thanks again
veggirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Okay well there is trust and then there is purposely turning a blind eye. Have you asked him who he is texting? Have you asked him to put his phone away? and yes you should have asked him about that FB message, that is totally inappropriate and gross. What made you go through his phone that time? 2
KraftDinner Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I don't think the fb thing is that big a deal. But the secrecy around texting and the ex contacting you... Years ago, my then-bf's ex called me pretending to be someone else (she was pretty immature). She was asking questions about him. Anyway, ended up they'd gotten back together and she was trying to see if I was out of the picture like he'd said I was (I wasn't).
Author marie1990 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 I have asked him who he is texting and he always says his dad, but I never ask to see the messages. I just have this feeling that he could possibly be talking to other girls on FB or other websites. We met online, so I'm always thinking he could be talking to other girls online.
veggirl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I have asked him who he is texting and he always says his dad, but I never ask to see the messages. I just have this feeling that he could possibly be talking to other girls on FB or other websites. We met online, so I'm always thinking he could be talking to other girls online. Why would he randomly be suddenly texting his dad non stop? Next time he says that, ask if you can see.
Author marie1990 Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 Why would he randomly be suddenly texting his dad non stop? Next time he says that, ask if you can see. Ok I'll do that, thanks
shakedown Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Personally, I would confront him rationally - don't shout or get mad, just let him know you care and you are worried about his change in personality all of a sudden. If he reacts kindly and understands your concerns then I wouldn't worry, but if he gets angry and accusatory and tries to put any blame on you - I would take that as a warning sign that he is doing something wrong, and if I were you - move on and get out.
Author marie1990 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Ok, here's an update on this situation. So the girl he was talking to on fb, the one where I went through his phone and found the message, is no longer friends with him on fb. What does that mean? And no, I didn't confront him about the message yet. I don't think I should now, since he is no longer friends with her.
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