Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I got a kiss from the guy I have a crush on yesterday. That was nice. However I deleted his phone number a while back so I wouldn't be tempted to call, I believe that's a guy's job to make the fist step. He asked me if he could come in, I said no, my house was a mess. Excuse, but I know better Just sharing, it was nice, I feel like a teenager lol 2
carhill Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 That he didn't follow up his asking to come in with asking you on a date is telling.
Author Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 That he didn't follow up his asking to come in with asking you on a date is telling. The kiss was a nice change to my routine, I'm also "proud' for not caving in. I'm just not into one night stands.
carhill Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I presumed that you wished to date him/have a relationship with him. If other, please disregard.
todreaminblue Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I got a kiss from the guy I have a crush on yesterday. That was nice. However I deleted his phone number a while back so I wouldn't be tempted to call, I believe that's a guy's job to make the fist step. He asked me if he could come in, I said no, my house was a mess. Excuse, but I know better Just sharing, it was nice, I feel like a teenager lol Kewwwt.....smilin...nice post.happy for you....woot woot.....and yes it is a guys place to make the first step...it shows spunk....and effort......determination....strength....stick to that ideal....then you know they truly like you if they can actually make that initial effort instead of being scared of rejection...i kamikaze myself normally....but for a change i want a kamikaze guy..so gonna wait for someone to crash into me and ill be the band aider.......smilin...cheers to ya......deb
Author Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 Yes Id like to date this guy however I don't want to push the issue. It's not something I'm going to lose sleep over, if anything it will help me date somebody else. And yes Deb, I agree with you 2
zebracolors Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Yes Id like to date this guy however I don't want to push the issue. It's not something I'm going to lose sleep over, if anything it will help me date somebody else. And yes Deb, I agree with you That sounds like advice I need to follow regarding someone I have been crushing on. He works at a restaurant I go to a lot, so he's pretty familiar with me and smiles back at me. but we usually can't talk much so I don't know how he really feels about me. I'd have loved to get a kiss from him last night at midnight, but I was still happy to get a hug from him:o
Author Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 Do you guys have common interests you talk about?
zebracolors Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Like you I'd like to date this guy, find out more about him. But the issue I have is that his English is limited, and I don't know how much he understands of what I say. And I still don't know very much conversational Spanish. So Id love to find out what his interests are and if I shared any. And I know and agree if you're thinking its probably going to be extremely difficult to find out much about each other unless we have a translator. I have only just started trying to learn Spanish, not just for this but for my community. Im not letting it worry me though, and I need to see how he is really feeling so Im going to play it by ear.
Author Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 Bring a Spanish fluent friend along with you next time
IT Geek Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I got two kisses from two women last night....but they were just New Years Kisses. LOL
zebracolors Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I got two kisses from two women last night....but they were just New Years Kisses. LOL Can't cheek kisses on New Years be for camaraderie of welcoming in the new year? Samilla I have actually been considering that, as it'd really be the only way to find out anything. and I would not mind having a kind and generous translator, but in that scenario I would want him to be comfortable with it also.
IT Geek Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Can't cheek kisses on New Years be for camaraderie of welcoming in the new year? Well, these were lips pecks and yes, they were just a symbolic gesture. Hence, the face.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 and yes it is a guys place to make the first step... K. So is it also the woman's place to be barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen? As long as we are keeping old, stupid gender stereotypes as rules.
Author Samilia Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 K. So is it also the woman's place to be barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen? As long as we are keeping old, stupid gender stereotypes as rules. No you're right, once a woman showed her interest, she should jump at the guy and drag him to her bed. When a guy knows he has a shot, he should be making the first step, it's not a women's job. Now go back to the kitchen, I'm hungry.
deintrib Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 The answer to this depends a lot on the scenario. For instance, you and him are hanging out with friends. He walked you to your car and gave you a kiss. He asked to go back to your place. You made up an excuse (you both know it's an excuse) and left. If I was the guy in this scenario, I DID show my interest, and she rebuffed me. To avoid creating drama in the group, I would back off and pretend it was just a harmless, meaningless kiss. If she has any interest she has to show it, otherwise it isn't worth the hassle. Have you shown any interest in this guy? Because if you haven't, there's no reason for him to chase you.
Author Samilia Posted January 2, 2013 Author Posted January 2, 2013 The answer to this depends a lot on the scenario. For instance, you and him are hanging out with friends. He walked you to your car and gave you a kiss. He asked to go back to your place. You made up an excuse (you both know it's an excuse) and left. If I was the guy in this scenario, I DID show my interest, and she rebuffed me. To avoid creating drama in the group, I would back off and pretend it was just a harmless, meaningless kiss. If she has any interest she has to show it, otherwise it isn't worth the hassle. Have you shown any interest in this guy? Because if you haven't, there's no reason for him to chase you. Of course he knows. I agree with carhill, he could have asked me on a date. I know the guy, I see him quite often. What I didn't say is that he just got out of a 3 years relationship and atm is looking for sex, i know he has a few "fwb" girls lined up. Hence me saying no to the invitation. I really think the ball is in his camp.
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