kristi628 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I had a feeling new years eve was going to be difficult. I was all ready to spend the night with friends and family. Everything was going okay. And then I get a text from the ex. Mind you it's been 1 month and a few days since the breakup and he has another girlfriend for about a month. I told him the day he told me he cheated that I never wanted to hear from him ever again. I have heard from a trap of 4 times. Each time initiated by him. First was to tell me he picked up stuff from the apt we share. Second was to ask if his laptop was at the apt (he knew very well it wasnt). Third was when we got into a fight bc he wanted to move into the apt and have me move back to my hometown. I didn't hear from him on Christmas. Then yesterday he texts. Since we still have that apt, he is still paying his half in rent. He transfers money to my account sometime before the 3rd of each month. He text yesterday to ask if it was alright if he transferred money on the 2nd and then went to details about his new job. I would've liked to maintain NC but since it had to do w rent I replied. Just simply said yes. No more no less. My delimna is this. Why text me at all? It was unnecessary. He didn't care enough last month after he told me he cheated to see if it was alright to pay me late. So why ask this time? Especially if he's not going to be late this time. He could've just transferred it normally and be done w it. All he said in response was thank you. I didn't hear from him again. Do exes make up things to text about? He's not apologizing or cheking up on me. He's just contacti g me after I asked him not to. Anybody else have experience w this? He ha a new gf and they are supposedly very happy. So why text me?
Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I wish I had an answer for you but it's hard to tell. Could be that he has second thoughts, could be that he saw you were mad when he paid you late and wanted to make sure you knew he had transferred the money. Could also be that he's a cheater but not really a heartless jerk? Who knows? It's easy to imagine the answers to our questions, but he's a grown man, if he wants to have "the talk", he will. I wouldn't dwell on it too much. Happy new year though!
carhill Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Yes, they do, but not necessarily for the reasons we'd like to think they do. 1
na49 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Threads like this make me wish I hadn't blocked my ex's number. I love that drama. His text doesn't mean anything, and he didn't put as much thought into sending it as you are analyzing what it means. 1
Samilia Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Threads like this make me wish I hadn't blocked my ex's number. I love that drama. His text doesn't mean anything, and he didn't put as much thought into sending it as you are analyzing what it means. Getting rid of an ex's number is the best decision ever. No calling, no drama.
cavalier99 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Threads like this make me wish I hadn't blocked my ex's number. I love that drama. His text doesn't mean anything, and he didn't put as much thought into sending it as you are analyzing what it means. I know you love the drama. Now time for you to get used to stone cold silence and like it! Lol To the OP. My ex texted me about logistical things the 1st 2 weeks after the BU even though i said not to communicate with me EVER. Money she deposited in my bank etcetera. In my case it meant nothing and ended when theses things were wrapped up. Don't answer anymore. Even to respond something as simple as i deposited the rent etcetera. When will these loose ends be wrapped up? The sooner the better.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Unfortunately he was probably drunk and wanted sex. New Years is that time.. Continue to ignore him. Block his number already sweetie lol
FailedFirstLove Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Yes people do I'm guilty of that! but mines cause I miss him do I find excuse just to hear from him sometimes. when Iose control I go too far tho so he just ignores. Not a good feeling
Author kristi628 Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 I am not over analyzing what they mean. I just don't get the point. I know when he deposits money, wasn't mad before bc I knew it would get paid eventually. There was just no point in texting me at all. I get a text from my bank when deposits have been made. He knows this. And he wasn't alone and drunk. Sadly he was at dinner w her in my hometown bc my friend saw him. He's sitting across from his gf and texting me. We move out in February. Just gotta get through this month. To make things worse his mom text me a little while ago. She wanted to say happy new year and to make sure I was okay. He kept apologizing for his behavior which just made me cry bc I miss his family. I would sooner I understand his texts if they had a point. Like a date an time to move his stuff out. Not to tell me when he's transferring money or if he left something at apt. Those are unnecessary texts. It was like he wanted to make sure he was on his mind, offer no sympathy and then leve me again.
cavalier99 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 This is why i blocked my EX. You should do it. It is very liberating and you can start to heal. 1
na49 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I am not over analyzing what they mean. I just don't get the point. I know when he deposits money, wasn't mad before bc I knew it would get paid eventually. There was just no point in texting me at all. I get a text from my bank when deposits have been made. He knows this. And he wasn't alone and drunk. Sadly he was at dinner w her in my hometown bc my friend saw him. He's sitting across from his gf and texting me. We move out in February. Just gotta get through this month. To make things worse his mom text me a little while ago. She wanted to say happy new year and to make sure I was okay. He kept apologizing for his behavior which just made me cry bc I miss his family. I would sooner I understand his texts if they had a point. Like a date an time to move his stuff out. Not to tell me when he's transferring money or if he left something at apt. Those are unnecessary texts. It was like he wanted to make sure he was on his mind, offer no sympathy and then leve me again. I'm afraid this is over analyzing. Playing twenty questions with yourself.
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