Stew_1985 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Hi guys and girls, This is quite a long story. I work internationally, and while working in Africa I met a french girl who I was working with and we started going out. She was great and made my life so much better. But after some time the work I was doing was really getting to me, and I sank into a deep depression. Needless to say that she got the raw end of the deal. I would sleep all the time, never had any energy and was easily irritated. Despite all this she stayed with me. It got to a point however, that I couldn't take it anymore and quit my job to go back to university for a year. So I left and she came and visit me, and I was still miserable and we broke up. I continued to be miserable for around year, until i started to feel better. Anyway, a couple of months ago I found out that she was currently working near where I am at the moment. So I gave her a call to see if she wanted to meet up for a drink. I wanted to meet up with her to tell her how sorry I was for being so terrible to her and for wasting a year of her life. I did this, but what I didn't expect was how I would feel once I saw her again. When we broke up I didn't feel anything, but seeing her again has made me realise how amazing this girl is. We continued to see each other and we end up talking about how things were, and I tell her how I feel about it all. I don;t want t get into specifics, but I was not a nice person, and it is the biggest regret of my life, but it means that we have a lot to talk about. Anyway, we meet up a few times a week for drinks and dinner, and these are the highlights of my week. I can't stop thinking about her, and I am an emotional wreck. I get the impression that she still has some feelings for me despite all this, however she has a boyfriend. I know some people are going to say just to move on, but it's not that easy. We had some very bad times, but the good times were amazing. I'm not the same person I was back then, and I wish I could show her that, and make her trust me again. I'm so confused right now, I just don't know what to do.
Game Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Hi guys and girls, This is quite a long story. I work internationally, and while working in Africa I met a french girl who I was working with and we started going out. She was great and made my life so much better. But after some time the work I was doing was really getting to me, and I sank into a deep depression. Needless to say that she got the raw end of the deal. I would sleep all the time, never had any energy and was easily irritated. Despite all this she stayed with me. It got to a point however, that I couldn't take it anymore and quit my job to go back to university for a year. So I left and she came and visit me, and I was still miserable and we broke up. I continued to be miserable for around year, until i started to feel better. Anyway, a couple of months ago I found out that she was currently working near where I am at the moment. So I gave her a call to see if she wanted to meet up for a drink. I wanted to meet up with her to tell her how sorry I was for being so terrible to her and for wasting a year of her life. I did this, but what I didn't expect was how I would feel once I saw her again. When we broke up I didn't feel anything, but seeing her again has made me realise how amazing this girl is. We continued to see each other and we end up talking about how things were, and I tell her how I feel about it all. I don;t want t get into specifics, but I was not a nice person, and it is the biggest regret of my life, but it means that we have a lot to talk about. Anyway, we meet up a few times a week for drinks and dinner, and these are the highlights of my week. I can't stop thinking about her, and I am an emotional wreck. I get the impression that she still has some feelings for me despite all this, however she has a boyfriend. I know some people are going to say just to move on, but it's not that easy. We had some very bad times, but the good times were amazing. I'm not the same person I was back then, and I wish I could show her that, and make her trust me again. I'm so confused right now, I just don't know what to do. That's how it usually goes..you don't know what you have until it's gone. The fact that she stayed with you for that long in your most miserable moments means that she either really loved you or that she is an amazing girl (could be both). Anyhow, it seems that she is happy with her new boyfriend now so it wouldn't be fair to her for you to take that chance away from her. If you truly love her you would want her to be happy rather than trying to get her back into something to make you happy. We all make mistakes in life, you live and you learn. Sometimes you only get one chance at things in life and you did get your chance. You could wait around for her, but who knows - you might be waiting forever. I would say move on with your life right now and continue on getting better..if you were that miserable a year ago and you feel that you are an emotional wreck right now, it doesn't sound like things are going to be suddenly amazing by getting back with her.
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