Imlikethesun Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Trying to figure a short way to put this. I've known this guy that I'm dating for years. I never considered him as a potential lover, until now. We were good friends and have a few mutual friends. We'd go out for coffee, chat it up, my two male friends woul tell me their dating woes and I'd listen and give advice. As I said I never really considered this one friend romantically, so I had no problem listening and talking. Anyway, he had a day of fun with this one girl at a local amusement park, 15 years old, we've all had some encounter like this. They kept in contact for a while but lost touch over the years, he married and divorced and had been solo for the past 7 years. Anyway, she apparently looked him up and found him on Fakebook (I mean Facebook) and they started talking about a year ago. He latched onto this, I don't blame him, it was fun and cool that someone you used to talk to eons ago found you. Anyway, he'd tell me all about it and at first I was like cool, but as it progressed I realized that she was with someone, unhappy but staying there. She'd have Lin conversations with him, and I'd hear from him that maybe this was meant to be, and maybe he'd fly out to see her etc. I saw him at times being frustrated that she wouldn't make a move and in my opinion used him when her current situation (living with her baby daddy) got crappy, my friend would make her feel good blah blah. I tried telling him this but as I said, exciting, Hopeing he'd found someone, and lonely or companionship. Ok fast forward, we had been spending more time together, and something clicked, we started to get a little serious. A few months went by and he said you are the best thing that has happened to me, and I'm afrai I'm falling in love with you. I too was feeling this and it has been sweet. He said he was done playing this game with this girl and he should have stopped it long ago. He tells me that he loves me, but I know he is still living in the past. He's a passionate guy, and I think hard for him to disconnect. I usually don't snoop, but saw he still has a bunch of pics of her on his Ipod, as she sent them over the year. New Year's Eve she called him to I assume say happy new year, and this morning New Year's Day, he ha been texting her. I hate this, I don't have the emotional time for this, I'm so confused. Should I call him out, tell the truth that I snooped on my suspicion? I'm not comfortable with any of this. I keep guys that are barking up my tree away, I don't text call etc out of respect, that's the way it should be right? I have too much to lose, and I have 2 kids to show the right way to be and be loved, not my kind of game. This guy isn't a bad guy, maybe he's keeping her in the wings in case I leave? Still not cool. Thank you soooo much for reading if you made it this far I need as much advice/insight as I can get I need to figure out what to do :-(
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