trevjim Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Ill try and keep it short. Was with my ex for 2 and half years, she has a 3 year old (was 1 when i met him) he was calling me daddy before we split. About her... she is very sexy and used to getting her own way, if she doesnt she will tantrum, suffered a messy parents divorce when she was around 6. also suffered physical and mental abuse from the father of the boy when they where togeather, he is now in jail and off the scene. We where friends from work before we started dating, she was very paranoid about me cheating etc, quite obsessive and very loving towards me. she even locked me in the house to stop me leaving, thats how much she cared about me, i know its not good behaviour but the point im trying to get is that, she was at that extreme about me, we where engadged at one point and even trying for a baby and planning our wedding. Now our relationship was rocky, without trying to blame it all on her, she was affected by her parents divorce and the abuse etc and it made her hard work. we broke up a few times and she slept with person A (ill come back to that) one time, and two others on periods where we split, why? because she hates to be alone and uses others etc. (i know not good). We lived together for nearly a year, and we decided to split up and i moved out, i feel it was a rash decision. anyhow, here is how it is now... the day i moved out she messaged person A (a guy she had dated around 6 years ago, she cheated on him) and they started seeing each other, at the same time we where still sleeping togeather. Then literaly overnight, she hates me, says she hasnt loved me for months, wont let me see the boy i helped raise, says she is in love with person A, wants him to be the boys dad, says horrible stuff to me. I did unfortuanly fight for her for a few weeks and to see the person i see as my son, i didnt get anywhere, i have now initiated no contact and around a week is up ( we split around 6 weeks ago) Now im not stupid to want her back, she is essentially a slut and a user, id love to have the boy in my life but thats out my hands. Yes i still love her but i am trying to move on, we had some great times together and i, unlike her, cant get over that in the matter of weeks. My question is, for the sake of curiosity and my ego, do you think she does love person A, I didnt think she did, i thought he was a rebound and she was using him as he will literaly do anything for her. he is really ugly and i know looks mean alot to her, but the do seem to be moving fast in their relationship, lots of meeting family and relatives and things like that judging by hear say and photos on facebook. Also how can she go from being crazy about me to not caring literaly over night?
Axee Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Trevjim, 3 things : 1.You really need to understand whats wrong with you that you are in love with this lady. Looks like you have some self esteem issues .. and you like drama in your relationships.Just because a woman is sexy you are letting her walk all over you. Every other thread here screams "dont go for looks alone, you will pay for it later" 2.No one can speculate on what she feels, she is inconsistent in every angle.. 3.so went from caring to hating overnight.. I dont think so,else she wouldnt have said that she hasnt loved you for months.. Care is different than control and possessivness.
Author trevjim Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 Trevjim, 3 things : 1.You really need to understand whats wrong with you that you are in love with this lady. Looks like you have some self esteem issues .. and you like drama in your relationships.Just because a woman is sexy you are letting her walk all over you. Every other thread here screams "dont go for looks alone, you will pay for it later" 2.No one can speculate on what she feels, she is inconsistent in every angle.. 3.so went from caring to hating overnight.. I dont think so,else she wouldnt have said that she hasnt loved you for months.. Care is different than control and possessivness. 1)Yes i love her still, those feelings, for me are not going to go away quick, but I dont want her back, there was a time a few weeks ago where i would off taken her back, but she is bad news. I do have self esteem issues, who wouldnt when you have essentialy been replaced on every level by someone else. I just want answers i guess. 2) very true 3) I dont fully understand your answer. I know she was controling and possesive, but she definatly cared and loved me, i dont doubt that for a second, i think she only said that she hasnt loved me for ages, one to hurt me and two to maybe convince herself thats the truth
Axee Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I dont fully understand your answer. I know she was controling and possesive, but she definatly cared and loved me, i dont doubt that for a second, i think she only said that she hasnt loved me for ages, one to hurt me and two to maybe convince herself thats the truth Trevjim, no one says I havent loved you for months to convince herself, yes she might have said that to hurt you.. but she might have meant it..isnt it? You gotta be strong , and start looking at the situation clearly without distorting it with your perceptions of what it should be or was.
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