living_life Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 My life partner of one year has just told me he can't live with me any longer. He wants us to continue dating but live in separate homes. He is much older then I. I have children that are not his. We work together. We have a wonderful relationship. We spend all of our time together between work and home and never tire of one another. The issue is my children are having a hard time accepting him. I wish I could fix this as the idea of us living separately saddens me. I have finally met the man of my dreams and want to cherish every possible moment with him. He says I can't change his mind and he doesn't want the stresses my children cause him. That hopefully over time with us living separately they will accept him. I can't help but feel this is taking a step back. Has anyone experienced this situation before? Trying to seek the positive in this but failing.
jcrew11 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Are you married or engaged? That might force a change in acceptance from your children. Maybe he'll move back in when the children are older and better behaved.
spiderowl Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 He doesn't want the stresses of children, he just wants an easy relationship. Is he really the kind of guy you need? He doesn't sound very dedicated or determined. Sounds to me like he wants to go back to singledom with the option of having you to sleep with on a regular basis. Some guys just want an easy-going relationship with a woman to have sex with. They are not looking for a family because they know for sure they don't have the patience or interest in children. It's up to you what you choose to accept, but he is setting down rules. Do you want to live by his rules or share your life with a partner?
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