TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Don't be melodramatic. You knew this all along. Don't set yourself up for failure - just move on. This is no big surprise, is it? So - what else is new?
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I might take pride back, email him and tell him what I think. I want my stuff back that I gave him.
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 If they were gifts, you have no right to them, and asking for them back just extends your contact and deepens the pain. The loss of any money you spent on him is more than compensated by the fact that unquestionably, he is history and out of your life. Priceless.
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I don't wanna lose him. I want my stuff back as I don't want him to have it.
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 (edited) One: You've lost him, so stop clinging to the impossible. It's like trying to climb a mountain of marbles, with oil on your hands.... Secondly - It's not 'your stuff'. It's his. He has no obligation to return it to you, and you have no right to ask for it. You wanted him to have it when you gave it to him. If you don't want to lose him - why don't you want him to have the stuff you gave him? You're not making any sense - and you know it. I've already advised you - quit dramatising the situation. Get it through your head, that it's over, finished, done and dusted, and that the best thing now, is to seriously engage in NC and let him go. Edited January 6, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Civility and respect
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Well, my post got edited - but understandably so. I did rather slap you upside the head with a bit of a hammering, and it was over the mark..... But honestly, Amelie, you have to try to see your way through this, because it's doing you no good at all. And I would hate to see other members abandon this discussion, because really, your persistence in seeing the negative HAS to be overcome....
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 What you said was uncalled for....... There is being harsh to be kind and there is being a b**ch. you crossed the line.
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 If it made you angry, that's a positive. If it made you angry with me - that's even better.... I'm trying to get you fiery. But you should also be very angry with him - with the way he thinks he can keep swanning into your life, only to tell you it's really over - and leaving you a wreck.
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 I sent him a text now having the last word. civil wishing him.well.and telling him I don't love him anymore as he isn't the man I thought he was and he isn't. now that's it.
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 No it upset me.and made me.wonder why you get so angry and personal about a steamer.
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Personal about a stranger sorry.
TaraMaiden Posted January 6, 2013 Posted January 6, 2013 Because - and I know it's a cliché, so I'm sorry - "A stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet." I have a lot of 'friends' on here I have never even met, but I hold them in very high regard, and love engaging with them on so many different levels and in different ways. It's a great way to socialise on the internet.... see, I know I'm blunt. it gets me in to trouble, I know - but it's my way. But it doesn't mean I don't care. Tell me - would you rather have a friend that pats your back and says 'there there' - or one who when perhaps they feel it might be appropriate, tells you not to be a darned fool? "Yes-men" and soft-and-gentle is one approach - but sometimes we need to 'cut the mustard' and get a bit spicy, a bit punchy. I never intentionally set out to hurt and offend. Never, ever ever. I do set out to stimulate and agitate. And sometimes - it's the right medicine. That's all.....
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 6, 2013 Author Posted January 6, 2013 Well I took my pride back and emailed him to tell him I didn't love him either and he wasn't what I expected...... I still can't believe I'll never see him again. he said he felt sick to the stomach at the thought of never seeing me sgsin so hopefully he'll regret it one day. I hope his next gf is a bitch. Kinder friends are preferable.....my best friend texted two words: I'm sorry. I would never speak to friends as you do or I wouldn't have any
TaraMaiden Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 The sad thing is Amelie, no matter how anyone approaches you, it seems you won't listen, follow advice or counsel, or go for the most suitable options.....whatever anyone says, or how.... Why do you think it might be, that it's been just you and me for the past 16 posts?
Author Amelie1980 Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I know. I see it now and wish I had just let it go a long time ago. I'm not normally like this....I am rational sorted and strong willed. my friends have never seen me like this. He was truly special and I didn't wanna let him go. I wsdnt this bad with other break ups.
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