foreveralone1 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I met a girl a few months back, I really like and I know she likes me too, but she wants to stay single because "she dose not want to be strapped down to one guy, and she likes flirting" and "she dose not want to lose me as a friend". We tried being "just friends" and it didnt work at all, we both caved in after about three days and liked each other again. But I want a relationship that means something.. I feel like she just likes flirting with me the most, and its bull****. Is there any why I could get her to actually start to cave in and start to want a relationship of should I just give up and accepted the fact that she likes being single, which would be really hard to do because she means a lot to me...... Please Help ASAP!!
PogoStick Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 She's going to break your heart if you keep chasing a relationship. She already said she likes you as a friend. Listen to her. 1
KathyM Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 She's not interested in a relationship. Don't waste your time trying to change her mind. There are plenty of women who ARE interested in a relationship. Life is too short to waste it pursuing someone who is not available for the kind of relationship you are wanting.
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Have you done anything with her that friends don't normally do?
Fondue Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 To put it very bluntly, Would you be satisfied with committing to her in any way knowing full well she is out there sucking dicks? THat's pretty much it. She may like your "emotional intimacy," but she wants to the freedom to go out and do what she pleases. I would say disconnect yourself from her and find someone whom is worth your time and commitment. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 To put it very bluntly, Would you be satisfied with committing to her in any way knowing full well she is out there sucking dicks? THat's pretty much it. She may like your "emotional intimacy," but she wants to the freedom to go out and do what she pleases. I would say disconnect yourself from her and find someone whom is worth your time and commitment. I rarely agree with Fondue, but THIS. ^
crude Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Wow, you guys are harsh on a woman who simply doesn't want a relationship, or maybe not marriage. I don't think exclusivity and marriage is what every person wants. 2
Casablanca Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Listen, she doesnt want a relationship, and there is nothing you can do to change that. I'd just forget about her and move on
mortensorchid Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Move on. She doesn't want to be with you for whatever reason and she's not all that interested in being friends either.
todreaminblue Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 (edited) I met a girl a few months back, I really like and I know she likes me too, but she wants to stay single because "she dose not want to be strapped down to one guy, and she likes flirting" and "she dose not want to lose me as a friend". We tried being "just friends" and it didnt work at all, we both caved in after about three days and liked each other again. But I want a relationship that means something.. I feel like she just likes flirting with me the most, and its bull****. Is there any why I could get her to actually start to cave in and start to want a relationship of should I just give up and accepted the fact that she likes being single, which would be really hard to do because she means a lot to me...... Please Help ASAP!! I dont know about caving, I dont think its fair she strings you along .....tell her you dont want to be "just friends" thats the truth and go from there, you cant just be friends with her and have this push pull thing happen...it doesnt work....groan.......i can explain why i am groaning but yeah listen to my advice because i sure dont listen to it...this guy is attracted to me probably more than friends has given me the signals as such, but i am not attracted to him, as i am attracted to someone else...i dont want to suck his dick as someone crassly put it that you friend would be (you dont know that for sure) and flirting with other guys is not a really good reason to stay single she might not be attracted to you in that way6.....and i dont really flirt...charming him maybe through making him smile and laugh and feel at ease isnt flirting is it????..i was just hoping to have a friendship with him he is a musician....he can write music and lyrics and i am a a poet i thought that might make a good friendship....he is a sweet guy with a few issues that make it impossible for me to date him..lifestyle choices is one.i am also not attracted to him so it cant really go further than friendship....for this reason ....i think you should be honest with your girl on what you want.....dont hide it....because it isnt fair on you she just gets to have what she wants....i gave you my story as an example only......a possible reason why your girl might not be interested in dating you.....there are many possibilities......i feel guilty now for my potential "friend"....slinks off............deb Edited January 1, 2013 by todreaminblue
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