Teknoe Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I went out with some girls 1 on 1... but they were hang outs more than dates. Heck, some of them had BFs so they definitely weren't dates (even though they might have felt that way). Thing is... I didn't ask anyone out either! I am just super content being a bachelor right now... whereas in 2010 I was looking like crazy. I'm actually way happier now than I was 2 years ago when I must have been reeking of desperation... even all my guy friends at the time told me that I was known as the "woman hunter." It was on my mind and I talked about "relationships" so much that that's all they thought of me... the guy who was out to find a GF. lol Now I'm on the other extreme end of the spectrum. In 2013... I hope to strike a better balance. In fact... hell... I might even ask a girl out in 2013. What about you guys?
Phoe Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Ehh, I've never had an actual date. I've had 2 boyfriends and one **** buddy, none of which ever actually took me out or even wanted to be seen in public with me, but I figure it still counts somewhat. Been single for 6 years though. No sex for almost 3 years. Getting a bit old...
Ross MwcFan Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Not only have I had no dates in 2012, I've had no dates in, 1975, 1976, 1977, 1978, 1979, 1980, 1981, 1982, 1983, 1984, 1985, 1986, 1987, 1988, 1989, 1990, 1991, 1992, 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 1997, 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011. Here's looking to a dateless 2013!
Alexanda Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Not only have I had no dates in 2012, I've had no dates in, 1975, 1976, 1977, 1978, 1979, 1980, 1981, 1982, 1983, 1984, 1985, 1986, 1987, 1988, 1989, 1990, 1991, 1992, 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 1997, 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011. Here's looking to a dateless 2013! Wow, really???
carhill Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 The last time I went on an official 'date' was in April of 2010; that is by choice. In the interim there have been various associations but no official dates and various expressions of intimacy but no exclusive and monogamous relations. It's been pretty peaceful. I like.
Ross MwcFan Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Wow, really??? Yup, I'm that sexually unattractive to women.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I'm 29 and I don't think I've ever been on a real date. Or maybe I'm just unsure about the definition of a date and what falls into that category. I have an ex but I think it was more of a FWB arrangement from his perspective.
El Brujo Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 No dates for me since 2010, but then again I haven't been trying very hard. But the ball is definitely in my court. I didn't date in 2011 or 2012 because I'm not ready for it... I need to get a better job, clean up my house some more, and have a lot of work done on my truck. I can get a date whenever I put a little effort into it.
carhill Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Perhaps the OP can clarify; my definition of a date is where one party asks the other party to join them for social interaction which does not revolve around any particular common interest but rather with the other person and getting to know them being the focus of the interaction. Hence, if I'm a football fan and take a 'date' to the game and spend the whole game quoting stats and yelling at the players, that's not a date. If I'm sharing the excitement of the event and my pleasure of sharing it with my companion and feeding her a steamy hot dog while we're huddling together in the cold, that's a date.
El Brujo Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 ...is it because of something outside your control? The #1 reason I haven't had a date since 2010 is because I haven't wanted one that much... I don't want to invite a woman over to my house until I've had time to clean it out, I don't want to drive her around in my truck if this doesn't work and that doesn't work, and I'd be embarrassed to tell her I'm working in a dead-end clerical job by day. Those are things I can control. My biggest obstacle has been laziness. OTOH you might be dealing with things that are beyond your control... maybe you're the only hot-looking woman in a tiny hillbilly town, or maybe you're a man who looks like Milton in Office Space. But even then, you shouldn't feel like getting down on your knees and begging into your laptop's camera. I know I wouldn't.
Marek Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I went out with some girls 1 on 1... but they were hang outs more than dates. Heck, some of them had BFs so they definitely weren't dates (even though they might have felt that way). Thing is... I didn't ask anyone out either! I am just super content being a bachelor right now... whereas in 2010 I was looking like crazy. I'm actually way happier now than I was 2 years ago when I must have been reeking of desperation... even all my guy friends at the time told me that I was known as the "woman hunter." It was on my mind and I talked about "relationships" so much that that's all they thought of me... the guy who was out to find a GF. lol Now I'm on the other extreme end of the spectrum. In 2013... I hope to strike a better balance. In fact... hell... I might even ask a girl out in 2013. What about you guys? I've had five one-off dates this year. They didn't want to see me again after knowing me for all of an hour and a half. Prejudiced females.
mammasita Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Yup, I'm that sexually unattractive to women. Meh, it's your attitude that's the turn off. Not your looks.
Ross MwcFan Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Meh, it's your attitude that's the turn off. Not your looks. How do you think I got that attitude? Go on, take a wild guess.
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Lets see. Obviously no dates in 2012. Though I did ask out three girls. Ashley, Megan and Michele Mexican, White, Asian. I'll need to increase that this year by at least three times. I think I'll start by going to the the actual Salsa dance club more often and try to meet girls there as well as the ones I'll meet in School. Last week I almost had a hangout that could have turned into a date but she "woke up with her mothers cold" the day we were going to meet up. Haven't talked to her since and now back home. 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Lets see. Obviously no dates in 2012. Though I did ask out three girls. Ashley, Megan and Michele Mexican, White, Asian. I'll need to increase that this year by at least three times. I think I'll start by going to the the actual Salsa dance club more often and try to meet girls there as well as the ones I'll meet in School. Last week I almost had a hangout that could have turned into a date but she "woke up with her mothers cold" the day we were going to meet up. Haven't talked to her since and now back home. Increase that by 10 times you mean 2
somedude81 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Increase that by 10 times you mean Baby steps. If I got 30 rejections I'd probably be completely devastated.
Anela Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Not only have I had no dates in 2012, I've had no dates in, 1975, 1976, 1977, 1978, 1979, 1980, 1981, 1982, 1983, 1984, 1985, 1986, 1987, 1988, 1989, 1990, 1991, 1992, 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 1997, 1998, 1999, 2000, 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011. Here's looking to a dateless 2013! Pretty much the same for me. I've messaged guys, but I know my shortcomings, so whether I knew someone "IRL" or tried contacting them on a dating site, I've been more surprised when someone showed an interest in me. I expect to be rejected.
Anela Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Baby steps. If I got 30 rejections I'd probably be completely devastated. So would I. Baby steps are good. 1
NoMoreJerks Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 (edited) The reason I didn't have any dates: well, no guys, until fairly recently, really paid much attention to me. The reason they pay more attention now is that I tend to dress up more often (I'm guessing). Or maybe I've been giving more of an air of self-confidence of late (in the past year). I don't know. I've been chatted up by a few men, all of this happened in bars though, so I don't know what their intentions were (if it went beyond ONS). One guy invited me to join him and his (male) friend at their table. I declined. At the time, I was just out of a break-up with my ex, and wasn't emotionally ready / felt guilty because I was still holding on to hope that we'd get back together (which we did). The second guy, also at a bar, we talked all night long, exchanged numbers, he didn't call for 3 days. I texted him and asked if he wanted to go on a date. He said, sure. We set up a date, with all the details, then the morning of, he cancelled on me. That was like, 3 months ago. The third guy, also at a bar, omg, he was so creepy. He wouldn't stop talking, wouldn't stop putting himself down and heaping compliments onto me, wouldn't stop touching my arms and shoulders.. and on top of that, he sounded really effeminate when he talked! I just chugged my beer and left the bar. Haven't been chatted up since then. But not because I've gone out of my way not to look friendly. Usually, I don't do the initiating anyway. Aside from that, I don't have much of a social life -- my circle of friends is really small (and my friends' friends are of an ethnicity that doesn't really turn me on much), and there aren't that many non-bar hangouts where I can meet men in my city. Edited January 1, 2013 by NoMoreJerks
Thatguy9 Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I've had no dates since 2009 but thats because i'm not very confident and i rarely make eye contact with girls so asking them on a date is a step too far for me at the moment.
todreaminblue Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 woot woot lol no dates, i ate some though...yum love dates, pitted dates though, nearly choked to death on a pit once........i am accident prone....lucky for the non dates i have had this year....i make others accident prone especially when they like me, one way i can tell they do.....they end up just like me..accident prone and dropping things......smilin...poor dates.....deb 2
IT Geek Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I may as well have had 0. I think all 4 of mine just wanted a free meal and saw a big SUCKER on my forehead. NC after all 4.
mn311601 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Never been on a date, ever. 2013 isn't going to be any different.
Imajerk17 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Baby steps. If I got 30 rejections I'd probably be completely devastated. If you also got 5 yeses you'd probably be completely stoked.
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