minajes Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 And, I am so pissed and hurt and a mixture of different emotions. And he apparently met her a few days ago! He already jumped ships that fast?! I guess one of his friends brought her over to his friends house and she instantly liked him, he told me about it, of course, but he said she was trying to get touchy feely with him he took off in his car from his friend's house. A few days later he told me that he wanted us to take a break for a week and then after that week we'd meet back up and talk about it, but instead a couple days later he tells me it's over completely and all he said is that we argued too much and I've brought too much sadness into his life when in reality he treated me much worse than I did him. Oh, and he also got together with that girl later that day which was like yesterday. I texted him a lot throughout the day and he was just like you need to calm down. I'm just trying to make him understand how I feel. How he fu**ing tore my heart out and stomped on it. So, I texted him a couple of hours ago after I said I would leave him alone and that I wouldn't try to mess up their relationship because I care about him and his happiness, but I had to, I can't stop thinking about him and I told him that. At first he was being nice and told me he was sorry and whatnot and I need to talk to my mom about it or something, then he's just like you need to quit texting me and blah blah blah you're f***** stuff up between me and her. And I'm just like what am I doing? And he says cause she sees that I'm all on his nuts or whatever. Does she think this is okay? That he just left me for her and I am miserable? I wish she knew how it would feel if this happened to her. And him as well, what if I had left him for another guy? He would want to jump off a damn building, you know? Alright, well before this had happened we had been going through A LOT of problems and stuff and we both were trying to work it out! He was so sad during the time too and so was I. But, I tried and tried to make it work but he just kept being an a**hole to me. Which caused me to be mean back, how can you treat someone good if you're trying and they're not being nice back?? And he still kept telling me he wanted to work things out. We were only together for a year+ but over that time we both spent a lot of time on each other and he was very very emotionally attached on me, like really clingy, but I was okay with that for the most part. I just don't get how he could just get up and leave me for some other girl like that. Someone he just met. Me and him had this connection that I'd never had with anyone before and neither had he. We weren't each others first relationships either, definitely not at all. I'm sorry this message is so long but I just need someone to talk to. I need help. I've talked to friends about it but that just isn't enough. I hope someone will reach out to me... cause I need it. Bad. Please.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 That is a horrible experience and of corse you would be hurt I think you should stop everything with the two of them. It hurts more to know what his up to. You have to see that your way better than him and its hard because you still love him. He might regret oneday he left you and that day you will be way better without him and u won't even look back. just cry it out and talk it out as much as u can even type it out here! It really helps I reckon
Author minajes Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 Thank you so much for writing me back. I'm not ready to just cut contact with him though, you know? He said we could still be friends but I know I will not be able to just talk to him as a friend and that'll just anger him further. And I sit here and think I hope she does the same thing to him that he did to me... but that's immature and spiteful. I don't wish that at all. I care about him and would never want that for him. Ughhh I just don't know what to do.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Oh no my ex said he can talk to me as friends. In times of weakness I almost agree cause any contact is better than none BUT u know u will get more hurt and end up starting the healing process again... I have into anger and spammed him with texts. Worst idea ever and now I regret it more than anything. I miss him so much as well. But I know I keep going around in circles if I do. Contact doesn't so anything right now. Since they don't want to be contacted. They will just ignore and make things even worse days go by so slowly and I wish he wud contact himself. But it doesn't happen since I give in first. Think about it tho. Wud u want to hear him talking about that girl?
FailedFirstLove Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 I completely get why u wud wish that on him! I go through mixed emotions every hour! Sometimes cry y eyes out missing him. Sometimes so angry at why he left when I tried so hard to keep it together.!! for me anger makes me stay strong and not contact him and makes me motivated to move on with my Life. I love him. For sure. But there are times I wish he wud experience what he did to me. Cause it's more painful than anything
Author minajes Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 How long ago did your ex leave you?? I guess I just feel like if I make him understand how I feel he'll come back to me, but I think if he left me like that y'know does he even deserve me?? I'm no prize but that was cold what he did. Think about it tho. Wud u want to hear him talking about that girl? No I guess I wouldn't, why would anyone? I'd probably end up saying terrible things about her when I know nothing about her and he'd stop talking to me. But there are times I wish he wud experience what he did to me. Cause it's more painful than anything yeah totally, I may not have been always happy cheery with him and hurt his feelings a few times in the past, but s***, this is much worse than anything I've ever done to him. Ugh, he makes me just want to text him out of rage soooo bad.
TaraMaiden Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 Thank you so much for writing me back. I'm not ready to just cut contact with him though, you know? I hate to be harsh, honey, but - Tough luck, You have to. Completely. Otherwise you'll become the obsessive "nut-job" ex-GF/stalker he will come to hate, resent and steer clear of. He said we could still be friends but I know I will not be able to just talk to him as a friend and that'll just anger him further. The reason he suggested that was to make himself feel better about dumping you. He didn't say it for your benefit. Basically, the thought was "If I tell her we can still be friends, that lets her down gently, and I don't look like such a callous barsterd...." Read the All-New Caliguy No-Contact Guide link in my signature. It's all in there. You would be doing yourself the best favour in the world if you took it to heart and followed it. How old are you, BTW? And I sit here and think I hope she does the same thing to him that he did to me... but that's immature and spiteful. I don't wish that at all. I care about him and would never want that for him. Ughhh I just don't know what to do. Chances are this is not the be-all and end-all of his life. Chances are he may well break up with her. but it won't be for you, and it won't be to get back with you. You need to move on. Read the guide, and follow it. Your broken heart will mend more quickly. Honest.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 OMG don't text him out of rage. About 2 hours ago I just did. And 2 hours later I majorly regret it!!!!!!!!!! he left me about 3 weeks ago. But because I keep breaking no contact. I'm constantly Going around in circles and still can't get over him. I had so much hope as well. Thinking if I kept reminding him of all the good times an how much I love him he wud come back ... But his not I think my only hope now is that if I leave him. He misses me he will contact me. But that's not gonna be for a long time... And maybe In a few months he may regret his decision. But if their set their mind I don't think it's gonna be changed easily. Yours has moved on with another girl and ur only hope is he will REALISE he screwed up. But wud u want h back after that. His gonna have to work damn hard to try get u back otherwise he will just do it again
Author minajes Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 I hate to be harsh, honey, but - Tough luck, You have to. Completely. Otherwise you'll become the obsessive "nut-job" ex-GF/stalker he will come to hate, resent and steer clear of. I know, and I already feel like I'm becoming that nut job ex gf. The reason he suggested that was to make himself feel better about dumping you. He didn't say it for your benefit. Basically, the thought was "If I tell her we can still be friends, that lets her down gently, and I don't look like such a callous barsterd...." Read the All-New Caliguy No-Contact Guide link in my signature. It's all in there. You would be doing yourself the best favour in the world if you took it to heart and followed it. How old are you, BTW? I guess that makes sense, why would he really care? He did leave me for someone else. I'll definitely take the time and read it. I'm only 18, young I know, but it still happened and it still hurt. I know it's not the end of my life and I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me. Chances are this is not the be-all and end-all of his life. Chances are he may well break up with her. but it won't be for you, and it won't be to get back with you. You need to move on. Read the guide, and follow it. Your broken heart will mend more quickly. Honest. Thank you so much for your input. I honestly do appreciate it. Thanks for being blunt and not giving me any false hope. I just need to take it like it is. I will read your guide.
Author minajes Posted January 1, 2013 Author Posted January 1, 2013 OMG don't text him out of rage. About 2 hours ago I just did. And 2 hours later I majorly regret it!!!!!!!!!! he left me about 3 weeks ago. But because I keep breaking no contact. I'm constantly Going around in circles and still can't get over him. I won't do that, it'll just be pointless to do so. But wud u want h back after that. His gonna have to work damn hard to try get u back otherwise he will just do it again No, I don't think I'd want him after that. And if it ever comes down to it, I know I shouldn't get back together with him. That'd be the worst thing I could do. Thanks a bunch for talking to me. I hope you stay strong with your situation as well.
MyAngel Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 What the hell? What a complete arsehole. I'm so sorry you have had to go through that, I can't imagine the hurt and confusion you'd feel right now, hugs to you sweetie. But please, don't be his friend. I know you're hurting and do not want to let him go but the guy is a complete JERK. He is SO not worth your time.
TaraMaiden Posted January 1, 2013 Posted January 1, 2013 ... I'm only 18, young I know, but it still happened and it still hurt. I know it's not the end of my life and I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me. I asked, because you sounded 'young' in your post. I ask it often, because sadly, some people a lot older than you - sound even younger! You're absolutely right to take the attitude that it's not the end of your life, and you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. Wise words. But I also know a heart has no age, and can still hurt. So no lecture here, on that. Besides, I may be blunt, but I'm not patronising... Thank you so much for your input. I honestly do appreciate it. Thanks for being blunt and not giving me any false hope. I just need to take it like it is. I will read your guide. Yeah... the guide is good. Hope it helps. Take care, and take this website as an exceptionally great place to vent. It really helps to get it all out, however foolish you think it may be. "Better out than in" and better here than elsewhere....
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