Graduate Posted December 31, 2012 Share Posted December 31, 2012 I started dating a guy 5 weeks ago and then went on a month-long vacation 2 weeks ago. Since then he has not contacted me once, not even for Christmas or New Years. Does that mean he is no longer interested or would you also not text a girl you just met while she is on vacation? Btw, he is not a big texter when I am home either. I barely hear a word from him between dates other than to confirm the details of our next meeting. Oh, and he knows I can send and receive emails and texts here because I texted him when I arrived. To which he replied straight away, but have not heard anything since. Thank you for your thoughts! Link to post Share on other sites
ooglesnboogles Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 I suppose it would depend on whether or not it seems like something he would do. If he's not a big texter, he might just not know how or what to say when he knows you'll be away for a while. And if I read your post correctly, you had only been dating 3 weeks when you left on this vacation? So maybe he's trying to not be needy or whathaveyou. I have a friend who I think is dead every semester cause I don't hear a thing from him, but he reappears when he's got free time. He doesn't like texting in general and if it's not to set up a time to hang out, he doesn't really care for text conversations. Personally, I would probably restrain myself a bit if I had a girlfriend who was on a vacation, just so she wouldn't spend her time texting instead of enjoying the vacation. You can enjoy a nice text-message conversation from a pitch black hallway in a basement, why do that while you're on vacation? But I also wouldn't drop off the map because I'd be afraid she'd feel like I was ignoring/neglecting/forgetting/cheating on/etc her. Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 (edited) since the relationship is so new he's probably expecting you're enjoying your vacay and not concentrating on hearing from him. if he likes you he'll be around when you get back. i go on lots of vacays and my bf will generally cool it with texts and calls because he wants me to have a good time. usually only hear from him 2 times total over 7 days. it's not a big thing to not hear from someone Edited January 1, 2013 by newmoon Link to post Share on other sites
Author Graduate Posted January 1, 2013 Author Share Posted January 1, 2013 Thank you guys, I appreciate your posts. I guess I am just disappointed that he did not even text me for Christmas or New Years Eve. But you are right, we have just started dating and he is not a big texter when we are in the same town too. I'll just send him a message when I get back and see if he replies and suggests another date. If he does not, than I have my answer and he is just no longer interested, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Axee Posted January 1, 2013 Share Posted January 1, 2013 Thank you guys, I appreciate your posts. I guess I am just disappointed that he did not even text me for Christmas or New Years Eve. But you are right, we have just started dating and he is not a big texter when we are in the same town too. I'll just send him a message when I get back and see if he replies and suggests another date. If he does not, than I have my answer and he is just no longer interested, right? Yes, thats your answer.... Link to post Share on other sites
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