cat girl Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 Dating and Sex Acceptability I met a man on a vacation, we had a wonderful night of talking, drinking, kissing, and some fondling. (is that considered sex?) We Slept together fully clothed under the stars and a FULL MOON. It was wonderfully romantic, and extremely passionate. When we talked it seems as tho everything and anything was possible, he told me he thought I was beautiful right before we fell asleep. It took him a week to call me. He had gone to his home town for a week and when he did call he apologized for not calling sooner preceded to ask me for a 2nd date. The 2nd date went well, Drinks and a movie, we re missed blissfully over our first encounter, tho he asked me to go back to his place. I told him I couldn't because I was afraid. He wanted to know what I was afraid of and i told him i thought we may go too far, he wanted to know what would be so bad about that, i preceded to tell him I'd love to go back to his place, but not that night. In other words maybe another night or further into the relationship. He said OK, but seemed confused, and a bit upset. I'm not sure if he was upset, that I felt disrespect-ed or more upset he wasn't getting his way. It's been 3 days since our date. I just can't help wondering if he is only interested in sex, or he just wanted to cuddle again? I've only been in long term relationships and this dating/calling game is really nerve racking. Part of me just wants to wait and see if he calls, the other part feels I've rejected him and should call him for the next date. I would really like to see him again and wonder what you think of this situation and if you think the first night might have gone to fast too soon. We are adults here, both over 26, I'm 5 years older then him and I sometimes think younger men only want sex... do you think I should call him if he doesn't call me? I hate the game!
faux Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 You need to do what YOU want to do and what YOU think is right. If you are interested in seeing this man again, then call him. If not, then don't call him. If you are wondering if he just wants sex, or he wants to cuddle, perhaps you can go out on a few more dates. On these dates, don't do anything you aren't comfortable with, and maybe try to involve more public places. Do what is going to give you the assurance and answers you need.
Author cat girl Posted August 17, 2004 Author Posted August 17, 2004 Thanks Faux, I actually will call and see what the deal is , actaully i went away for the weekend and told him I'd call him when i got back, so , I'm just being silly. I'll call and I'll find my answers!
Author cat girl Posted August 18, 2004 Author Posted August 18, 2004 called spoke breifly he was on his way into a meeting and it actually sounded like the meeting had already started, he said he'd call me back and it has been 24 hours. I'm not going to hold my breath. Thanks for the advice.
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