fishfingers Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 disclaimer: English isn't my native language so please don't mind spelling mistakes or dodgy word order. Once every week I (M, 26) go to a Danish language course. I want to learn basic Danish for fun, not planning to do anything else with it except 'speak' it when I'm on holidays there. In Danish class I sit next to E (F,23). She has been flirting a lot for the last 2 months. I haven't really flirted back because I wasn't interested in her, until few weeks ago. Because of her constant flirting she appeared on my radar and I became interested in her. About 1,5 week ago I decided to make my move and asked her out for a drink. I waited till after class and asked her if she had any plans for the weekend. She said she already has made plans but that didn't keep me from asking her out anyway. She said she likes me a lot and that she felt flattered that I've asked her out but she didn't have the time and that she isn't interested in relationships atm. Final thing she said that she would let me know if she wants to date with me. I’m not entirely sure if ‘not have time’ is a cheap excuse. Hour before I asked her out she mentioned that she has a lot to do at her job and at home. But what kept me puzzled is that she said she isn’t interested in relationships right now. I'm absolutely positive that her flirty body language was genuine so why say that she isn’t into relationships?.. I don’t get it.
CptSaveAho Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 (edited) Doesnt matter why she declined The point is she declined... move on to the next one Anything after a Yes or a No... is usually an excuse Just listen to the Yes or No part Edited December 31, 2012 by CptSaveAho
ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 She sounds like bitch, who doesn't have time to go out on 1 date?!
CarrieT Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I'm absolutely positive that her flirty body language was genuine so why say that she isn’t into relationships?.. I don’t get it. Well, you were obviously wrong reading the "body language" and now you get it - she's not interested. Move on.
movingon12 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 She has been flirting a lot for the last 2 months. I haven't really flirted back because I wasn't interested in her, until few weeks ago. Some women flirt. A lot. I know a woman who flirts with EVERYONE - including her gay cousin, his boyfriend, her own uncle, my husband, any man she ever sees, ever. It's just her way. The fact that she was flirting with you for months even though you weren't flirting back makes me think she's just a flirty girl - not that she was after you. She's not interested, that's why she said no, the 'I'm not ready for a relationship' stuff was just her trying to sugar coat it to be polite.
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