Clep Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Roomate 1: Guy that we have rented a room to for about two years. We knew he had a son when we rented to him and it wasn't an issue. He isn't here all that often. His girlfriend moved to our city and is apparently staying with us half the time. We have a door code so a key isn't required to get in, just the code. I am not completely comfortable with her deciding to stay with us whenever she chooses without discussing it with my husband and I. Roomate 2: Let her move in to escape an abusive relationship. We let her live with us free for the first month along with her friend. The friend had to leave after that month. (Dana) stayed on and we gave her a reduced rate in rent (only 50% of the regular rate) in exchange for sitting services to help her out. We didn't use the services and just didn't worry about it. She is still talking with the ex and just accepted a van from him that she sold for the money. She also just received a laptop from his mom for Christmas that she sold as well. She is now getting EI and money for other things. We let her know the day before she received all of this money that she has to start paying regular rent in Feb as she is also not pulling her weight around the house either. She was doing nothing at all so we told her that wasn't acceptable. We were charging her a minimal amount for food but that mean I wanted to cook for her and clean up after her either. Her cat is here and the litter box always stinks. We are leaning towards giving her notice to move since she is dishonest with us and the people she is getting the money from. At no point has she offered full rent to us even when it is obvious she has the money to do so. We are also leaning towards giving the other renter notice. What would you do?
Keenly Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Roomate 1: Guy that we have rented a room to for about two years. We knew he had a son when we rented to him and it wasn't an issue. He isn't here all that often. His girlfriend moved to our city and is apparently staying with us half the time. We have a door code so a key isn't required to get in, just the code. I am not completely comfortable with her deciding to stay with us whenever she chooses without discussing it with my husband and I. Roomate 2: Let her move in to escape an abusive relationship. We let her live with us free for the first month along with her friend. The friend had to leave after that month. (Dana) stayed on and we gave her a reduced rate in rent (only 50% of the regular rate) in exchange for sitting services to help her out. We didn't use the services and just didn't worry about it. She is still talking with the ex and just accepted a van from him that she sold for the money. She also just received a laptop from his mom for Christmas that she sold as well. She is now getting EI and money for other things. We let her know the day before she received all of this money that she has to start paying regular rent in Feb as she is also not pulling her weight around the house either. She was doing nothing at all so we told her that wasn't acceptable. We were charging her a minimal amount for food but that mean I wanted to cook for her and clean up after her either. Her cat is here and the litter box always stinks. We are leaning towards giving her notice to move since she is dishonest with us and the people she is getting the money from. At no point has she offered full rent to us even when it is obvious she has the money to do so. We are also leaning towards giving the other renter notice. What would you do? What you have here is the scourge of american society. An entitled bum. Cannot be changed and it isn't your responsibility to change them. Give her the BOOT. As for roommate 1, a simple reaffirming of the ground rules sounds in order.
MacdonaldNancy Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Roomate is a huge problem for everyone. which have come from different countires and cities for study or for the job. Every person have different nature even you cannot manage with brothers and sisters as well. They have different thinking from you.
CarrieT Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Evict both of them and rent to people with full, signed contracts that stipulate rent and visitors specifications.
Author Clep Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 Evict both of them and rent to people with full, signed contracts that stipulate rent and visitors specifications. Should we evict, we won't be renting to anyone else. I will make an office for myself and we will have a spare room.
CarrieT Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Should we evict, we won't be renting to anyone else. I will make an office for myself and we will have a spare room. Sounds like that would be the best thing for you and your partner. Free yourself from all the headaches and hassles these people have brought you.
Author Clep Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 What you have here is the scourge of american society. An entitled bum. Cannot be changed and it isn't your responsibility to change them. Give her the BOOT. As for roommate 1, a simple reaffirming of the ground rules sounds in order. Yes, my husband and I were thinking the same way. I don't feel like playing mommy to this girl nor do I feel like teaching her morals that I can't do. I just have to tell her today that she needs to find a new place after 30 days. Not sure about roomate 1 yet. We will think about that in the coming month. Thanks for the input.
Author Clep Posted January 15, 2013 Author Posted January 15, 2013 So we gave notice to Roomate 1...the freeloading girl. She was provided 30 days notice. She took it well and here were no issues. Since then it has gotten much worse. My young son asked her what was wrong the other day after we spoke with her again days before, about taking care of her cat and responsibilities, leaving dishes in the sink for us to clean and just being a general slob. She tells my son she is upset cause mom is mad at her. I was irate with her filling the shoes of the victim role for my son to see. She has found a new boyfriend and is at his place lots of the time. The problem with that is she has left her cat for us to care for and clean up after. The smell of the litter box was so overwhelming I just put it in her room and cleaned up the litter on the floor. The cat is without food most of the time. Of course it is meowing all the time for food. There is currently a large amount of dirt on my living room floor from another plant the cat knocked over. We have to clean up after this cat all the time or live in filth. I have to vacuum upstairs so I can workout later. Now I am just frustrated and upset. We have spoken with her about it and she just comes up with more excuses as to her irresponsibility, and then finally admits she is being irresponsible when I debunk all of her excuses. She will literally say she just hasn't grown up yet. My husband and I are both upset often. I am sick of living with this crap in my own house. I am thinking of just telling her to get out now. She has two weeks left according to our verbal notice. Would anyone else do that?
darkmoon Posted January 15, 2013 Posted January 15, 2013 So we gave notice to Roomate 1...the freeloading girl. She was provided 30 days notice. She took it well and here were no issues. Since then it has gotten much worse. My young son asked her what was wrong the other day after we spoke with her again days before, about taking care of her cat and responsibilities, leaving dishes in the sink for us to clean and just being a general slob. She tells my son she is upset cause mom is mad at her. I was irate with her filling the shoes of the victim role for my son to see. She has found a new boyfriend and is at his place lots of the time. The problem with that is she has left her cat for us to care for and clean up after. The smell of the litter box was so overwhelming I just put it in her room and cleaned up the litter on the floor. The cat is without food most of the time. Of course it is meowing all the time for food. There is currently a large amount of dirt on my living room floor from another plant the cat knocked over. We have to clean up after this cat all the time or live in filth. I have to vacuum upstairs so I can workout later. Now I am just frustrated and upset. We have spoken with her about it and she just comes up with more excuses as to her irresponsibility, and then finally admits she is being irresponsible when I debunk all of her excuses. She will literally say she just hasn't grown up yet. My husband and I are both upset often. I am sick of living with this crap in my own house. I am thinking of just telling her to get out now. She has two weeks left according to our verbal notice. Would anyone else do that? have the cat delivered to her boyf, a 10 year old can look after a cat ffs, too bad if she get pissed, cats stink, she is out alot which makes for a good room-mate, or yes, ask her to leave
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