kourix Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 okay so l met this guy, and we've been out a few times so far. each time we've connected really well. initially though, i wasn't that into him, since i knew he was leaving in a month (though he might be back). however, as "cocky" as it sounds, and this doesn't happen often to me btw, i somehow knew he was quite into me, by his actions and words. like, he'd text me right after saying what a good time he had, he'd make dates a week in advance, he'd send flirty messages to which i would reply with a words and smilies. so anyway, on the 3rd date, he had to work till midnight, but came to meet me even though he had 9am work the next day and ws flying off right after. i thought that was sweet. before this, i've never suggested that i would kiss him, that i liked him etc at this point. but that night, after some drinks, we did make out, and we ended up at his place, not having sex, but it was late so i slept over. he wanted to have sex and i simply said no, we just messed around. the next morning, he was still nice, he would kiss me on the forehead etc, and because he was leaving that night, he said he'd text me later and when he had wifi while on holiday. true enough, he did text me the first day on holiday, and he was still his usual self. then came the next few days, when he started becoming cold. him being on holiday, i waited for him to initiate conservation as i didn't wanna impose. but i realised he would be online but not text me. he texted me when he came back on wed, so i suggested we meet on thurs, though we had initial plans for fri. (i missed him) also, he was back but he would leaving for good next wednesday. so on thursday, he said it should be fine but later in the afternoon, said he couldn't make it due to work and stuff to settle at home, but friday was still on. fine. then on friday, we were making plans throughout the day, and in the last min, he said something cropped up at home and he needs to move blah blah and he was sorry he couldn't make it, maybe sat? he had blown me off twice now, and even the way he texted was different, no more flirty texts, no more kisses, he didn't even seem that apologetic to be honest. so i know something's changed. my suspicion is that he met someone else on holiday. also, he previously asked me to join him at an NYE's party, i had been thinking about it, but now, he stopped asking, and he didn't bother to ask me what my plans even were. so call it an ego thing, but i'm really curious to know what happened. i am supposed to meet him tmr (new year's day), but it's been nagging at me. i had to literally ask him to make time for me, because after one point he just said he had too much stuff and would TRY to meet me before he leaves but it would be difficult. is it rude/weird to ask/confront him about what went wrong? i'm guessing it might make things a little awkward, but we had a good thing going, and theres also that part of me that's wondering, "wow, another douchebag. made out and he decided to move on", and i'm also pretty upset by that coz' he seemed decent initially. i mean, worse case scenario, i would just delete him, coz' seriously the way he's been treating me... ugh.
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Don't bother asking. No one is completely honest when put on the spot like this, and quite frankly it's completely irrelevant why. What matters is that he's no longer interested. Disappointing, I know, but it's part of dating. Have a good cry if you wish, then focus on finding someone new. A better match is out there.
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