shywidow Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 There is a guy who has asked me out, suggested we go to a certain place, spoken about making me dinner, said that he'd really like to take me out. I told him that I'd love to, we exchanged numbers a little over 2 weeks ago, but we still have no definite plans, we've spoken on the phone, and he will take it upon himself to text me. I saw him the other day where he works and made mention of getting together, he said that he still most definitely wants to and soon. He's always super polite, the people he works with said he's a really nice guy, etc. I don't understand what's going on. When I run into him, we'll talk and talk, he'll smile at me, flirt with me, look at me, pretty much everything, but what could possibly be going on with this guy? I've never had to wait sooo long for an actual date. He is single, when I first met him a number of months ago, he made a point to tell me; then once we actually started speaking more, he told me again that he was single. He is a single dad, so maybe that's what's going on. We are in our late 30's, so it's not like he's some young kid. Any other advice, possibilities? I really don't want to waste my time, but I really like this guy and he seems like he really likes me, but I can't figure this out. Am I missing something obvious? Thanks!
weee111 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Next time you see him just ask him when you are going to get together. Or if you feel like being more direct ask him to meet you for a drink or something on x day at y time. If he can't take a hint after that, move on...
Cutiepie1976 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Might be the holidays. Honestly though, given that you've told him twice that you'd love to go out, and he's not said anything concrete despite different conversations, I'm inclined to think he's just not that into you. Sorry. Might have been idle chatter...similar to those "we must do lunch" type comments between casual acquaintances when neither has any intention of any such thing. Who knows? Or possibly someone else came along. A million possibilities. At any rate, he clearly has your number, knows how to contact you, and has been informed of your interest in having a date with him. If he's actually interested in a date with you, he'll follow through. In the meanwhile, I'd focus on other guys and not worry about him.
mortensorchid Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I am with CP on this. Many people will say to others "let's do lunch" or "let's do something together sometime", but few if any will let it happen. I'm sure he's a good guy (not knowing anything about him save for what you have said), but if he said "We'll go to (place) on (date/time)", then you have a plan. If not, then he should follow up with you. In the meantime, do other things and not sweat it.
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