crashvector Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I finally worked up the courage to send the text asking her if I can go get my bike. the text I sent says this: "May I please just get my bike if you are going to be gone for a little while today? I wont/cant go inside yet..but please...I need my bike. I can't jus stay inside crying all day and night. I won't linger, I promise...just being there to get it will hurt SO bad..but I NEED my bike...please?"
geegirl Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I finally worked up the courage to send the text asking her if I can go get my bike. the text I sent says this: "May I please just get my bike if you are going to be gone for a little while today? I wont/cant go inside yet..but please...I need my bike. I can't jus stay inside crying all day and night. I won't linger, I promise...just being there to get it will hurt SO bad..but I NEED my bike...please?" I wouldn't have worded it that way with the emotional stuff but I hope she responds and you can get what you need.
Keenly Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I would have gone with "I'm getting my bike at this time on this day"
na49 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Yuck! You shouldn't have shown your hand. She doesn't need to know how miserable you are. She's not going to feel sorry for you. Good luck getting your stuff back though.
denxnis Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I would have gone with "I'm getting my bike at this time on this day" This ^^ I think now is probably the most important time for you to act like an alpha male. You won't get much sympathy/response from her saying "pretty please" and "I'm crying". Just my 2 cents...
Author crashvector Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 I wouldn't have worded it that way with the emotional stuff but I hope she responds and you can get what you need. She replied: "Yes. there is a box by the coffee pot dance shoes on the freezer. I would like you to take the ham in inside freezer and deer in the deep freeze. Busy now." I replied " Please understand...I CANT go inside right now. Please understand..it would hurt me far, FAR too much to go inside just yet. I can't just let go so easily...and it would be more than I am capable of handling right now."
geegirl Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 She replied: "Yes. there is a box by the coffee pot dance shoes on the freezer. I would like you to take the ham in inside freezer and deer in the deep freeze. Busy now." I replied " Please understand...I CANT go inside right now. Please understand..it would hurt me far, FAR too much to go inside just yet. I can't just let go so easily...and it would be more than I am capable of handling right now." Just tell her you want the bike and she can pitch the meats or whatever. Refrain from being emotional. You want to show her you're vulnerable in hopes she will feel the same way, but she won't.
Author crashvector Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Just tell her you want the bike and she can pitch the meats or whatever. Refrain from being emotional. You want to show her you're vulnerable in hopes she will feel the same way, but she won't. I know she wont and I'm not trying to be vulnerable...just honest with what I can handle...and I know I can't handle being in her house.
Author crashvector Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Screw it...I'm going to go and TRY to get my things. If I can't make myself do it..then I can't....but I will try. No use in trying to drag things out....as much as it absolutely crushes me to do it. Please...if I am able to do this...I will need lots of support when I get back
TaraMaiden Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Oh for goodness' sake...... I'm sorry, her respect levels for you just hurtled through the floor. She doesn't care to read those things, she doesn't care at all. if she did her response would have been more sympathetic. God, you look a real spineless mess in her eyes right now. What were you hoping to achieve with that little hyper-emotional display?
Author crashvector Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Oh for goodness' sake...... I'm sorry, her respect levels for you just hurtled through the floor. She doesn't care to read those things, she doesn't care at all. if she did her response would have been more sympathetic. God, you look a real spineless mess in her eyes right now. What were you hoping to achieve with that little hyper-emotional display? yeah...I know. Its pathetic.
geegirl Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Screw it...I'm going to go and TRY to get my things. If I can't make myself do it..then I can't....but I will try. No use in trying to drag things out....as much as it absolutely crushes me to do it. Please...if I am able to do this...I will need lots of support when I get back Go get what you need. The board will still be here.
Divasu Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'm not sure if I would have worded it like that but I have been guilty of what (I think people refer to as) 'emotional vomit' when I've written things like that, just in a different way. I hope you get your bike, and your ham/deer.
FailedFirstLove Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Goodluck! I hope the bike helps you cope a Little better.
na49 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 When we're feeling emotional, it's hard for us not to do write texts like you did. We want the other person who made us feel this way, to know we're hurt and to apologize or see that we're hurt and come back. They don't though. They laugh it off, or think nothing of it. Everyone here is very helpful and if you post here, you'll feel much better.
cavalier99 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 PLEASE post here before sending texts ecetera. We will write them for you. 1
MyAngel Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Crash I know you're hurting big time but the way you worded your texts to we was too much. You're probably aware of this now. You told her how much you've been crying/hurting and she replies so heartless an uncaring. It would have made you feel like crap. She KNOWS you're hurting. Don't tell her again.
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