Cam116 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I thought I was doing great. I'm crashing today I so badly want to ask him how he is, but I know I can't. Just went through all of our pictures on Facebook. I tried to delete them but I just can't yet. It's too hard, this hurts so bad Any encouragement would be really helpful, today is not a good day.
sangel07 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Hey, I don't have much wisdom to share but I just wanted to say that I'm there too, like who knows how many other people. I assume it took a lot of courage to choose NC, so just think of all the efforts you have already taken. Are you really convinced this is the best option for you? If you are, then stick to your decision - if you reach that place where you feel like you don't have any other options, you won't even feel that much tempted anymore. But maybe you still have hope or doubts?
nsteen87 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I think I'm around Day 20 or so. The fact that I've stopped counting and dont know the exact day is a testament to how much NC really works...I'm at the point now where I don't even care and have taken notice of and begun talking to several other women. If you read my posts 4 weeks ago, you would have thought my world was coming to an end. Stick the course and fight the urge. You will have bad days but I promise you it gets better! 1
Author Cam116 Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 Welp, NC was broken again. I just got a call from him, and he sounded distressed. He told me that he just had to admit his dad to a crisis center because he tried to drink himself to death. My ex has been trying to snap him out of it all week with no luck. He just became a grandfather on Christmas and hasn't even attempted to see his grandson. My heart is breaking for him, on top of all this his grandmother has been very sick. I love his family dearly and I want to extend a nice gesture. I was thinking of leaving a food platter for him to give to his stepmom. I know were not together any more, but I still have love for him and his family and want to try to help somehow. I'm very worried
crashvector Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I thought I was doing great. I'm crashing today I so badly want to ask him how he is, but I know I can't. Just went through all of our pictures on Facebook. I tried to delete them but I just can't yet. It's too hard, this hurts so bad Any encouragement would be really helpful, today is not a good day. do yourself a favor: get rid of EVERYTHING that reminds you of him. As broken as I am...less than 2 hours after my fiance dumped me, I had already piled everything that reminded me of her in a box and set it on fire. At least while I am trying to get over this, I wont have to go back later and do it.
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