paras1te Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Hey Y'all, Posting after a long time again. To let you know how things go and for some opinions from you guys. So we broke up after 6 years and years of living together at a young age (23) at breakup. It's now 6 months after the break and we had very limited contact for a couple of months. (Never initiated) We're now into a little more contact, but still I don't initiate, she told me I can just do so, but she doesn't initiate that much herself as well. So on my bday she brought me a present. And we talked for a bit. But I know I don't want to be just "friends" with her thats just impossible for me. (She obviously wants that) So here's my question (taking into account that girls make decisions emotionally and not logically) Should I tell her that I don't want to meet with her until she knows she's ready to leave the past behind and try for a new relationship with me. Or Should I just meet up with her and try to win her? (Like anyone who would start a new relation would do) Thanks in advance !
Treasa Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 First of all, thanks for identifying a single gender as being emotional and not logical. Secondly, as a woman who is very logical most of the time, I think you should leave her alone. She's using you for when she wants support. A "friend." You do not want to be friends. You are the one acting emotionally. Man up and let her find another doormat.
ATR Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I agree with the butthurt reply above. You need to and should have gone NC long ago. You can't be friends, you can't be together = you must be strangers. All the best.
Treasa Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 No, if I were butthurt I wouldn't even reply. I was more amused that someone so young thinks he has women all figured out.
Game Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Well it is true...women generally make decisions based on emotions. And your post did have a hint of butthurtness, bc firstly, you did address his statement that was bothering you the most, followed directly by referring to yourself in a manner that is designed to negate his statement to which you took offense. Finally, you accused the op of being the emotional one thus further amplifying your distaste for his original statement (by inferring that a male, in this case, is the emotional gender) LAWYERED!
eyeful Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I have a question: have either of you been involved, romantically with other people over the 6 months since your break-up?
Sav Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I can tell you men make decisions emotionally whereas women make them logically. I'm a guy btw. Guys tend to break up and immediately regret the decision whereas women will think and think and think for a crapload time before making the decision. (a lil bit selfish tho) However, this is just from what I have seen. I have seen more mature men or more mature women but who's to say what
Author paras1te Posted February 22, 2013 Author Posted February 22, 2013 I have a question: have either of you been involved, romantically with other people over the 6 months since your break-up? Yes I have. But I have a new more relevant post just up. But this still applies Thanks
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