Mme. Chaucer Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 . News Flash I am a man it's not posturing. I said what I thought that kind of honesty should be commended not bashed by a thought ending sensitive PC individual like yourself. What do you think about the fact that this thread is overrun with people who are actually having fulfilling relationships (sexually and otherwise) who do not commend your point of view and, in fact, would consider it a deal breaker? Have you had a long term sexual relationship? I bring more table than you'd be able to comprehend. I don't know any women who are interested in the quantity of table that a man can provide … is it anything like "more cowbell"? You've made it apparent you lack the intellect to hold a rational conversation. Oh, the sublime irony ...
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 What do you think about the fact that this thread is overrun with people who are actually having fulfilling relationships (sexually and otherwise) who do not commend your point of view and, in fact, would consider it a deal breaker? Have you had a long term sexual relationship? I don't know any women who are interested in the quantity of table that a man can provide … is it anything like "more cowbell"? Oh, the sublime irony ... The comment about the relationship is not a fact. It shows your lack of logic to even assume that kind of thing as it hasn't even been said. In fact the only person who really brought up relationship experience was agreeing with me. than another person was talking about how they were always cheated on. Yes I've had long term sexual relationships.
mesmerized Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 no offence but you sound like a horrible lover. Men who are good in bed want a woman who wants sex cause she enjoys it not because she has to.
movingon12 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I really can't be bothered with most of your points because you haven't said anything worth responding to but a couple of things really stood out: Thats right I want a woman who doesn't have the though process "do I feel like having sex today" but rather "We have sex _________ number of times a week I have to keep it regular." That's your idea of a good sex life??? Oh, it's Monday, it's sex night. Jeez. Actually I had a specific target audience in mind and for them it was earth shattering. Could you please name the people who considered your post earth shattering? I don't have problems getting dates you silly fool. I find that basically impossible to believe. Or at least, I find it impossible to believe you could get a 2nd date. Please, I have a presence and a way with words that drive the ladies mad. I can make a woman orgasm just from the things I'd whisper in her ear if I felt like. Oh please, please, PLEASE give us some more advice on this. I would really love to hear some examples of what you say to these ladies. "Honey....it's 7.45pm...you know what that means..." 1
xxoo Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Obviously enthusiasm can fade if a woman has a "he must seduce me attitude.". Just as obviously, enthusiasm can fade if a man has a "sex is a wifely duty" attitude. 1
Els Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I can make a woman orgasm just from the things I'd whisper in her ear if I felt like. Okay, I think this right here answers everything we need to know about the OP's RL experience. :lmao::lmao::lmao:
Els Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I don't know any women who are interested in the quantity of table that a man can provide … is it anything like "more cowbell"? A... furniture dealer perhaps?
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 no offence but you sound like a horrible lover. Men who are good in bed want a woman who wants sex cause she enjoys it not because she has to. No offence taken, as I'd be worried if you said anything positive about me. excuse me where did I ever say I don't want a woman to enjoy sex? I said I want regular sex regardless. I never said I didn't want her enjoying it. I was talking about her being in the mood to have it. I've explained this over and over again but people here are just so dense. I mean it really is a marvel. I really can't be bothered with most of your points because you haven't said anything worth responding to but a couple of things really stood out: I agree I can't really be bothered to respond to any of the things you write either. It's all personal attacks anyways as you seem to lack the dimension to argue the things I say with out making it personal. Is the reason you find it hard to believe I have no trouble dating because you have so much trouble dating. Yes, it would make a lot of sense you'd have trouble as you clearly seem very insecure with all personal attacks you've made on me. Just as obviously, enthusiasm can fade if a man has a "sex is a wifely duty" attitude. Excuse me I wanted the woman to see it as her duty. Where did you not understand this concept that was in my original OP and hammered over and over again? Okay, I think this right here answers everything we need to know about the OP's RL experience. :lmao::lmao::lmao: Yes and I wrote that as humor lmao lmao lmao ho ho ho. I was only half kidding though.
movingon12 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I agree I can't really be bothered to respond to any of the things you write either. It's all personal attacks anyways as you seem to lack the dimension to argue the things I say with out making it personal. I just asked you to clarify your points: who said it was earth shattering and what do you say to women to make them orgasm? It's unfortunate that you aren't willing to back up your claims. Is the reason you find it hard to believe I have no trouble dating because you have so much trouble dating. Yes, it would make a lot of sense you'd have trouble as you clearly seem very insecure with all personal attacks you've made on me.Dammit you caught me, you're right - being very happily married has wreaked havoc on my dating prospects
Els Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Since you're clearly convinced that you are absolutely fine and women love you and you can drive the ladies mad and literally into mind-blowing orgasms with just a whisper in their ear ... what I don't understand is why you're not already having amazing sex at 9.32 pm everyday with a wonderfully dutiful woman. What's up with that? Got a sore throat so the whispers aren't going so well?
veggirl Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 b) the idea that women should "have regular sex even if they're not in the mood". NO ONE should have sex if they're not in the mood. They shouldn't do it out of a sense of 'duty' or just in order to 'please their boyfriend' or for any other reason. Furthermore, most men (and women) would not be able to enjoy themselves if they knew their partner had agreed to sex simply out of a sense of 'duty'. However, the 'less interested person' definitely should be willing to let themselves be seduced/put down the remote/come home early sometimes and make an effort to try to get themselves in the mood. But that's not what the OP said - he wanted a woman who will "have sex" even when she's "not in the mood". c) "wifely duty"? What decade is he living in? Well i do think even if someone isn't necessarily in the mood they should WANT to try to get in the mood if their partner wants sex. You're totally missing the point btw, and it has been clarified like 5x in this thread. No one was referring to someone laying there lifeless while their partner hammers away. And I don't really see anything wrong with the term "wifely duty", I guess I am living in another decade. I would consider my future husband to have "husband duties" to me. Now, imagine me saying something like, "That means having regular date nights out even if he isn't in the mood because he lives in the reality that it is one of his boyfriend/husband duties." I would have no problem with saying that my bf needs to put effort into having regular date nights with me, and if he is not in the mood one night for that I would hope he would try to get in the mood for my sake. I see nothing wrong with your quote tbh. Doesn't sound bitchy or entitled to me, but I'm willing to give my man what I want in return so maybe that is why....maybe I have higher expectations than some other people do or something, I don't know, but I'm willing to give back the same so it's all good.
xxoo Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Excuse me I wanted the woman to see it as her duty. Where did you not understand this concept that was in my original OP and hammered over and over again? Yes, I understand. And that attitude can affect her enthusiasm over time.
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 Yes, I understand. And that attitude can affect her enthusiasm over time. So her own attitude that she likes to please her man and that she should be having regular sex with him regardless of if her libido is high will affect her enthusiasm. Your mental math has led you astray. Good luck with that.
Els Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I would have no problem with saying that my bf needs to put effort into having regular date nights with me, and if he is not in the mood one night for that I would hope he would try to get in the mood for my sake. I see nothing wrong with your quote tbh. Doesn't sound bitchy or entitled to me, but I'm willing to give my man what I want in return so maybe that is why....maybe I have higher expectations than some other people do or something, I don't know, but I'm willing to give back the same so it's all good. It is most certainly not about having higher expectations. Your posts are the exact opposite of both my quote and the OP's post, by the way. When someone has mutual satisfaction on their mind, they are not going to make one-sided posts about all the things they expect their partner to dutifully do.
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 It is most certainly not about having higher expectations. Your posts are the exact opposite of both my quote and the OP's post, by the way. When someone has mutual satisfaction on their mind, they are not going to make one-sided posts about all the things they expect their partner to dutifully do. It's only one sided if you care nothing about your partners happiness. Good luck with that.
xxoo Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 So her own attitude that she likes to please her man and that she should be having regular sex with him regardless of if her libido is high will affect her enthusiasm. Your mental math has led you astray. Good luck with that. Yes, it can, if it leads to her having sex frequently when she isn't into it. Feeling it is her duty doesn't mean she enjoys it. Also, enjoying pleasing her man is related to how she feels about her man.....which goes back to what I've been saying about the importance of how he treats her. Just because you choose a woman who enjoys to please her man doesn't mean she will always enjoy pleasing you. It is less a personality trait and more a reflection of how she feels about you--which can change. I don't need luck. I've got a track record of success! 1
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 I don't need luck. I've got a track record of success! I don't want to brag but just trust me when I say in my mind your success doesn't even stack up to the dumps I take.
Els Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 It's only one sided if you care nothing about your partners happiness. Good luck with that. I would certainly need a lot of luck if I were that way, as you are. Fortunately neither I nor most of the people here who disagree with you are. The bf and I both focus on each other's pleasure during sex, and sex is meaningless to us if one of us were not enjoying it and only doing it out of a sense of duty. Would you care to answer my post, please? Here it is again, in case you have trouble reading: Since you're clearly convinced that you are absolutely fine and women love you and you can drive the ladies mad and literally into mind-blowing orgasms with just a whisper in their ear ... what I don't understand is why you're not already having amazing sex at 9.32 pm everyday with a wonderfully dutiful woman. What's up with that? Got a sore throat so the whispers aren't going so well?
xxoo Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I don't want to brag but just trust me when I say in my mind your success doesn't even stack up to the dumps I take. Personally, I prefer hot sex, but there is no accounting for taste..... 1
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 I would certainly need a lot of luck if I were that way, as you are. Fortunately neither I nor most of the people here who disagree with you are. The bf and I both focus on each other's pleasure during sex, and sex is meaningless to us if one of us were not enjoying it and only doing it out of a sense of duty. Would you care to answer my post, please? Here it is again, in case you have trouble reading: Since you're clearly convinced that you are absolutely fine and women love you and you can drive the ladies mad and literally into mind-blowing orgasms with just a whisper in their ear ... what I don't understand is why you're not already having amazing sex at 9.32 pm everyday with a wonderfully dutiful woman. What's up with that? Got a sore throat so the whispers aren't going so well? You're a girl, I'm a guy. You see we're different. We should have different mind sets. I know cultural marxism has led you to believe I should be all "let us have a relationship that is mutually beneficial" and talk like some gay woman, and led you to believe you're more like a man. This was advice meant for men's ears and for them to relate to. Now I understand some of the baby boys have been coming out of the wood work to argue with me on this thread but I'd rather be talking to them than you and your warped prospective on relationships. Also making it personal by attacking me as you have is completely devoid of logic. Who says I don't have amazing sex at 9:32 pm every day or couldn't. I'm so confused at what you're trying to get at. I mean is this the point where I say "you're right at 9:32 I'm not having sex" and than you say "aha everything you said is wrong because you are not having amazing sex at 9:32 pm" seriously you need to have the water you drink tested because you've gone mad.
Author Nightsky Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 Personally, I prefer hot sex, but there is no accounting for taste..... I'm pretty confident I've taken pisses more enjoyable than the sex you've experienced.
Els Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 You're a girl, I'm a guy. You see we're different. We should have different mind sets. I know cultural marxism has led you to believe I should be all "let us have a relationship that is mutually beneficial" and talk like some gay woman, and led you to believe you're more like a man. This was advice meant for men's ears and for them to relate to. Now I understand some of the baby boys have been coming out of the wood work to argue with me on this thread but I'd rather be talking to them than you and your warped prospective on relationships. Also making it personal by attacking me as you have is completely devoid of logic. Who says I don't have amazing sex at 9:32 pm every day or couldn't. I'm so confused at what you're trying to get at. I mean is this the point where I say "you're right at 9:32 I'm not having sex" and than you say "aha everything you said is wrong because you are not having amazing sex at 9:32 pm" seriously you need to have the water you drink tested because you've gone mad. Ah, so you mean that you think men should have the mindset of 'me me me' while women should have a mindset of mutual benefit? That's excellent advice, as I'm sure all your fellow Bitter Brigadiers will agree. We are all still waiting with bated breath for you to regale us with tales of the amazing relationships and sexual experiences that this mindset has led you to. Oh, and don't miss out the bit about what exactly you whisper to the ladies to get them to orgasm on the spot. I'm sure all the 'baby boys' here are way more interested in knowing that than your theories on duty.
anne1707 Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Who says I don't have amazing sex at 9:32 pm every day or couldn't. I'm so confused at what you're trying to get at. I mean is this the point where I say "you're right at 9:32 I'm not having sex" and than you say "aha everything you said is wrong because you are not having amazing sex at 9:32 pm" seriously you need to have the water you drink tested because you've gone mad. You might be having amazing sex at 9.32pm but doesn't mean the woman you're with is. Or that it's not all over by 9.33pm. 1
veggirl Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 It is most certainly not about having higher expectations. Your posts are the exact opposite of both my quote and the OP's post, by the way. When someone has mutual satisfaction on their mind, they are not going to make one-sided posts about all the things they expect their partner to dutifully do. different expectations then, I guess. Not sure how my posts are the opposite, when I said like 5x that I expect the same thing the OP does lol. Are you saying it's the opposite because I would also offer what I expect?
xxoo Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I'm pretty confident I've taken pisses more enjoyable than the sex you've experienced. Doth thou protest too much?
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