thenmollysaid Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 My boyfriend and I have known each other since high school. We reconnected in May, and started a friends with benefits relationship. We would have sex all night, several times in a row to start off with. We'd plan to see each other frequently, and after a few months of doing this and being pretty much faithful to one another we realized we were in love. He's had a rough life and I have been trying to be supportive of him and the stress he's going through. He signed up for the Air Force before we reconnected and after falling in love we agreed the relationship could get through the distance. He left and was gone for a month - I used my vibrator a lot during that time. He got sent home due to medical issues and that was a big change that seems to have rocked our relationship for both good and bad ways. Pretty much didn't make the money he was counting on and is struggling to find a job. My boyfriend is unemployed and lives with me for the time being. I support him for the most part - I put dinner on the table. I feel like I am beginning to resent him, because our sex life is plummeting. Every time I initiate sex he turns me down and it is so humiliating and hurtful. I've tried everything, touching myself, getting dressed up, being romantic, being kinky - he's not interested in anything. And when he does initiate I have trouble getting in the mood because I am so thankful he's touching me and I am afraid I'm not doing things right. He says his sex drive is lower since he came back from the Air Force and that our relationship is more than just sex to him. I honestly don't know what to do anymore and I am really resenting him for not financially holding up his end AND the sex issue on top of it. I love him so much but I just feel like this relationships coming to an end and there's not much more I can do about it. Advice?
sweetkiwi Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Honey i have been in your shoes. It doesn't get better. You just get sad. Then resentful. Then pissed. Then finally dump the guy for someone who WANTS to sleep with you. I have an extremely high sex drive and i wear my men out. I tried everything just like you. And when that doesn't work i silently stewed and masturbated. And got fed up. Especially since they didn't try to help the situation. I wish you luck. If i could go back the only thing id do different is NOT try so hard. I would take care of myself infront of him If need be. But i wouldn't demand anything of him. When you show no sexual interest that's when they want you for some f-ed up reason. Also I've noticed men bored with their lives also have low libidos.
Nightsky Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Why are you selling yourself short like this?
sweetkiwi Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Why are you selling yourself short like this? When a woman is really into a man she'll try anything and everything to make it work. No sex is a fundamental problem and one i wont handle. Not without a doctors note. OP just needs to get fed up and tired of it. But first comes insecurity and self questioning and ALL the other men who pay loads of compliments.
Nightsky Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 When a woman is really into a man she'll try anything and everything to make it work. No sex is a fundamental problem and one i wont handle. Not without a doctors note. OP just needs to get fed up and tired of it. But first comes insecurity and self questioning and ALL the other men who pay loads of compliments. No sex thing is more a man problem. Hard to find a women willing to please her man even when she's not in the mood. buttttttt with porn/masturbation problems I'm sure its a growing concern to women. Not to mention this guy is jobless and depressed so might not be able to get it up. He could still eat her out though.
sweetkiwi Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 No sex thing is more a man problem. Hard to find a women willing to please her man even when she's not in the mood. buttttttt with porn/masturbation problems I'm sure its a growing concern to women. Not to mention this guy is jobless and depressed so might not be able to get it up. He could still eat her out though. Not in my world or OP's world. I think most men are used to rejection. I am still not used to being rejected sexually. I am ALWAYS in the mood. Even while sleeping. Fighting. On my period. OP is missing sex from her life. She will get it. Even If its not with him. Sad but true for any gender. I've experienced this in three relationships now so i know the cycle that has already begun.
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