sedona Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Background: Am in a short NC phase. Will soon meet up with my BF to see whether we will go on with our 4-year relationship or not. I have written about this in a thread called "Do ultimatums ever work" in the Breaks + Breaking up section. My question here is about FB. I use FB a lot, but am restrictive in that I only accept people I know in real life as friends, and then sort them ASAP into groups so not everyone can see everything. I have never shared details about my relationship on FB. ...Until now, when I hurt so much. I changed my relationship status to 'It's complicated'. And then two posts: one about being sad because of relationship problems and one saying that my New Year's Eve plans were changing, asking for suggestions. Only my "Friends" see the relationship status, but anyone could see the posts, both of which I deleted later on the same day. My BF and I are not FB friends, and he hardly ever uses FB anyways. I wrote the posts because I wanted sympathy and yes- I'll admit it - I wanted a few of his friends to know we were having problems and to ask him about it, just talk to him. At the same time, I don't want the BF to think I've been broadcasting lots of personal details to the world. I would never do that (except here, of course!!) So what is the FB etiquette for the 40+ age range? I feel bad about it on the one hand, because I am a fan of actually talking to people instead of sending out blanket messages. On the other hand, I won't have to spend my New Year's Eve alone now- my neighbor has said that I could join them. That is just perfect for me! Good company, close to home.
TaraMaiden Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 "Measure it twice lad; ye'll only be cuttin' it the once...." Read, re-read and yet again a third time, read what you intend to post: Then think: "How will I feel about this in two days' time? Is this a good idea?" If it ticks all the boxes, post. if there's a doubt - 'measure it twice'. This advice is applicable in almost every given situation I can think of. (You have nooo idea how many 'carefully thought-out posts' I've written on here - that I've immediately consigned to the 'delete' button....) 3
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