Author ZxExD Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 I hear you hayewils, it all seems to come crashing down. There is so many things that I didn't post because I didn't want to whine about all of it. Just getting rid of the baggage is enough, but then having to deal with the rest of the detours take a toll on you. Sounds like my situation the past year, although I was doing pretty good until January 1st. After that, it was all down hill. Well, I made it. And now it is time to pick myself up and go get what I had and then alot more. Seems that is the way it works. Hopefully things will turn around for you too. Will check out your posts to see what is going on, and may say a few things to help out. Keep your chin up, its easier to hit it. LOL Take care and see you soon. ZeD
Downtown Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Congratulations, Michael -- I am very happy for you! You must feel like the storm clouds are parting and like you've just walked out of a long, dark tunnel. It sounds like you did as well in the settlement as could be expected. Now you are free to get on with your life. Thanks so much for coming back to tell us the outcome of your divorce.
M30USA Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 It didn't turn out like I wanted it to, but under the circumstances, it is the best I could do for now and keep my son most of the time. I am sure she will mess up and then I can go back to court and get Full Custody. As of last Friday It Is Final...... FREEDOM!!!!!!!!DIVORCED!!!!!!!!!FREEDOM Now that I had a couple of days to recouperate from everything that happened last week, here are the details involving the divorce. After being up for 3 straight days, and so tired, out of money, and didn't want to take the chance of losing Mikey completely, my lawyer talked me into settling. I think both lawyers got together and discussed this option because neither of us had money to pay them. Come to find out, My Ex took out a $5,000.00 loan to pay for her lawyer, and it was all gone. If we did go to trial, it would have cost me another $5,000 minimum. Settled on 50/50 which probably would have been what the judge would have done anyways. -She gets him every Monday, Tuesday and every other weekend. -I get him every Wednesday,Thursday and every other weekend. Even though she has done nothing for Mikey in the past 5 years. I believe I got the best out of it however, and she was mad about a few things. -I had to give up next 2 years of taxes, which is ok because I claimed Mikey the past 4, it was something to reach the settlement. -I had to let her other son, the low life, be able to see Mikey with restrictions that another adult must be present and he is not to get arrested or cause a major problem for the next to years. -No child support What I got from her, and she was mad. -She has to keep full Health, vision and dental insurance on Mikey. -She now has to pay Half of everything he does, child care, school, lunches, fieldtrips, school suplies, all after school activities (Baseball, sports, etc.) -I also have have first rights, meaning, that if she can't take care of Mikey, she has to give me the option to get him before she can let anyone else including daycare. I also get to pick Mikey up from school so he isn't waiting there for hours for her to pick him up. -She also wanted me to pay for her lawyer and court cost, LMAO. That wasn't going to happen. -Mikey is not to be removed from the shcool he is attending for the next 3 years. So, if she moves, its her problem. -She is responsible for all her past debts, which is a good thing because she didn't realize, I would have been liable for her $5,000 loan and her credit cards that are maxed. duh -We got co- Primary Residence because I was not going to give that up. My lawyer typed up everything and worded it in my favor for the future. She has given me advice to which I need to follow and when My ex or her son messes up, we will be back in court to where I can get full custody and child support. All evidence that would have been allowed in court has been wiped clean and can no longer be used, therefore, it is what happens from here out. If I have any other thing I remember, I will add to post. Thanks for being there through these rough times for me, I greatly appreciate all of you. Michael Congrats! Who gets to declare geographic location, school, and who gets most of the medical/legal decision power?
Author ZxExD Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Congrats! Who gets to declare geographic location, school, and who gets most of the medical/legal decision power? Since niether of us would give up PR, the Judge gave Co PR. Decisions are joint. -As far as School and location, I thought it was posted above. Mikey is to stay in his curent school for the next 3 years, it is written in the decree. -Geographic location? He is with me when I have him, which is most of the time because my work is flexible enough to keep him. Kind of did that in reverse. Anyways, thanks Downtown, sorry to leave everyone hanging so long. Been playing PS3 and now a game called Evony the past couple months to get My mind off things. Probablem was, I got my mind off it until I went to bed, then I laid there and couldn't go to seep because everything running through my head over and over. And it didn't even come to that. Will talk to you soon, and I will be around. ZeD
M30USA Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 (edited) Since niether of us would give up PR, the Judge gave Co PR. Decisions are joint. -As far as School and location, I thought it was posted above. Mikey is to stay in his curent school for the next 3 years, it is written in the decree. -Geographic location? He is with me when I have him, which is most of the time because my work is flexible enough to keep him. Kind of did that in reverse. Anyways, thanks Downtown, sorry to leave everyone hanging so long. Been playing PS3 and now a game called Evony the past couple months to get My mind off things. Probablem was, I got my mind off it until I went to bed, then I laid there and couldn't go to seep because everything running through my head over and over. And it didn't even come to that. Will talk to you soon, and I will be around. ZeD Even with "joint custody" one parent STILL gets to determine "primary residence" (or domicile) in addition to determining where they attend school. Judges however usually put restrictions on this--such as preventing one parent from leaving the county (not country). But still one parent almost always gets these rights even in joint custody. Either you really lucked out OR your state has different statutes. My ex wife was SAHM for my kids for 4 years prior to divorce. Plus she had family nearby while I didn't. Plus they harped on my "long work hours". The judge didn't give me primary for these reasons. Edited June 25, 2013 by M30USA
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