KungFuJoe Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Im attracted to women 35 my age... So far my OLD i have received emails from Women age 20 to 26... I guess my title post should have been Do i look to youthfull to date women my own age. Why the hell would you want wrinkles and acne? I mean, wtf?
KungFuJoe Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 How old are you anyways? You look to be in your late 30s early 40s. You wanna talk looking young? I'm 38 and if I shaved could probably pass for early 20s. True story, I did shave once right before I picked up my seven year old daughter from school. Her friend asked her if I was her brother. If you are young looking for your age...consider yourself lucky.
Author charlietheginger Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Why the hell would you want wrinkles and acne? I mean, wtf? so i can look " less pretty " i think womenmight be turned off my men with clear Wrinkless skin... Maybe it makes a 35yr old women upset If they are with a 35yr old man with hardly Any wrinkles? Makes them feel old? I dunno?
Author charlietheginger Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 How old are you anyways? You look to be in your late 30s early 40s. You wanna talk looking young? I'm 38 and if I shaved could probably pass for early 20s. True story, I did shave once right before I picked up my seven year old daughter from school. Her friend asked her if I was her brother. If you are young looking for your age...consider yourself lucky. Ill be 36 I think i look 36...i have no grey hair one wrinkle On my forehead..some say i look around 30 inperson With a clean shave i wear jeans and tshirts so That makes me look young at times.. Its becomming a problem with dating now i ether attract young ones or older ones no one around my age
MoreThanThat Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Finding people around your age is an issue for both men and women over 30. Personally, I'd have guessed you were late 30's to early 40's based on the photos shown.
Vercetti Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'm having a real hard time taking op seriously. Given the amount of drag-queen and trans-gender friends I have do find the insistent "I'm to pretty to date " to be a bit...well to be a bit. Add in failure to take near common sense advice for a presentable image ( guess keep throwing deer in headlights at the wall till works ) and really don't know what to say. If the OP could be secure enough to provide a workable image ( i.e a basic bloody head-shot suitable for a portfolio ) and not sway with the breeze of some random ladys comment would be much better off. Worried about looking to young, perhaps a five o'clock shadow. Only don't expect any advice to be followed as the delusional poster that's mid 30s that everyone thinks is late 30s early 40s somehow feels he comes off mid 20s to women his age. Maybe he should take someones supposed gripe of being wrinkle free as a complement and move on...or maybe wrinkle free was a nice way of saying emotionless mannequin that creeps the hell out of me. Anyhow pretty / age might not be the problem. Beyond that want to say google golden ratio...but that's more so advice for anyone reading that's not the OP.....lol cause posting a picture with balance and symmetry would be the last thing he would want to do.
PogoStick Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Sir, you need to have a photo taken by friends, not by yourself! Hell it's the holidays, you must have ended up in a group photo right? Then you need to realize it doesn't matter because you shouldn't be trying to meet people from OLD. You need to socialize and meet people by doing things that interest you. Meeting women becomes a side-effect of you having fun with life. Personality and/or self-esteem is definitely the real problem.
sydneysider1978 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'd say you look your age. Good for your age, but mid 30s. I've a fair few friends (nice, attractive, intelligent, no-baggage) who've had success online. They are out there. There are a few things you've mentioned that I would say be a real turn-off in your profile if you're looking for someone genuine in their 30s. Firstly, lose the blue-steel and topless shots. Maybe you look good, but it also looks vain. How about some nice smiling shots and you out and about. Ones that a friend has taken, rather than yourself in a basement. Maybe doing the sport you love, or on a day trip. A "seven" with a nice, genuine smile is more appealing than a "ten" pouting, posing or in a bad self-photo. You also said your profile mentions you are no-kids, no-baggage. This makes you sound a bit jaded. Talk about the cool stuff you are, not the things you aren't. There have been a few digs at grammar. Perhaps the text of your profile could use some work if you'd like to attract a intelligent 30-something. All of my buddies are grammar snobs and it really is used to weed out profiles. Also, you're putting a lot of importance on the opinion of one person you've never met. (I think you quite like the idea of being "too pretty")
monicaelise Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Quick little reality check... 1. You do not have a baby face and you most certainly do have wrinkles in the pics you've shown us. You have almost as many as me, especially around your mouth and between your brows (all of your pics are too small for me to tell which one of us would win in the crow's feet dept). I'll be 43 in March and I look my age. Initially, I thought you were my age in fact. So, don't worry about your "baby face", you have the face of a man in his mid to late thirties. 2. Insisting on childless and baggage-less may be a bit unreasonable for your target demographic. Women your age very often have kids, simply as a result of having lived their lives. 20- to 26-year-olds haven't yet started reproducing. By 36, a good many women are long done having babies. You've definitely got baggage of your own or you wouldn't be going through all of this silliness. Clearly you had a bad stretch of your own there for a few years, that's baggage. Again, you've done a nice job of cleaning yourself up, but "baggage" is the stuff you carry with you as a result of life's ups and downs. You may have lost the junk in your trunk, but you're still carrying around the psychological baggage that got you into that mess. You can't reasonably ask for something you yourself can't offer. This isn't about lowering your standards, it's about being objective enough to know what you can or should be looking for. 3
Divasu Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 It may have more to do with this: Be OLD for any reason but sex. She's probably sniffing you out. Try not to dwell on it, plenty of babes in the sea. And yes, smile more.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I also want to add that just going by your face, you still have some way to go before you can call yourself "thin".
phineas Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'd say you look your age. Good for your age, but mid 30s. I've a fair few friends (nice, attractive, intelligent, no-baggage) who've had success online. They are out there. There are a few things you've mentioned that I would say be a real turn-off in your profile if you're looking for someone genuine in their 30s. Firstly, lose the blue-steel and topless shots. Maybe you look good, but it also looks vain. How about some nice smiling shots and you out and about. Ones that a friend has taken, rather than yourself in a basement. Maybe doing the sport you love, or on a day trip. A "seven" with a nice, genuine smile is more appealing than a "ten" pouting, posing or in a bad self-photo. You also said your profile mentions you are no-kids, no-baggage. This makes you sound a bit jaded. Talk about the cool stuff you are, not the things you aren't. There have been a few digs at grammar. Perhaps the text of your profile could use some work if you'd like to attract a intelligent 30-something. All of my buddies are grammar snobs and it really is used to weed out profiles. Also, you're putting a lot of importance on the opinion of one person you've never met. (I think you quite like the idea of being "too pretty") This. OP's pic's & profile is set to ONS with shallow women just looking to hook up. Basically, it has d-bag written all over it. If he wants a quality women for a relationship he isn't going to do it with that profile. I really don't see much of a difference between his & the scores of stupid hot chicks that rant about knowing what they want in their profile & complaining about all the guys who don't meet her standards contacting her. Tone it down OP, shorten it up. No need to go over data points covered in other parts of the profile. although I do mention in my profile that I do work out & watch what I eat & looking for someone who lives the same type of lifestyle.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Quick little reality check... 1. You do not have a baby face and you most certainly do have wrinkles in the pics you've shown us. You have almost as many as me, especially around your mouth and between your brows (all of your pics are too small for me to tell which one of us would win in the crow's feet dept). I'll be 43 in March and I look my age. Initially, I thought you were my age in fact. So, don't worry about your "baby face", you have the face of a man in his mid to late thirties. 2. Insisting on childless and baggage-less may be a bit unreasonable for your target demographic. Women your age very often have kids, simply as a result of having lived their lives. 20- to 26-year-olds haven't yet started reproducing. By 36, a good many women are long done having babies. You've definitely got baggage of your own or you wouldn't be going through all of this silliness. Clearly you had a bad stretch of your own there for a few years, that's baggage. Again, you've done a nice job of cleaning yourself up, but "baggage" is the stuff you carry with you as a result of life's ups and downs. You may have lost the junk in your trunk, but you're still carrying around the psychological baggage that got you into that mess. You can't reasonably ask for something you yourself can't offer. This isn't about lowering your standards, it's about being objective enough to know what you can or should be looking for. To add what Monica said, because I agree with it, I have to say that when you put negative requests in your dating profile, it's a turn off no matter what the request is. It's one thing to not want to date women with children. That is a lifestyle choice. It's another to say you don't want someone with baggage. Instead, how about saying something like: Unfortunately, due to my own lifestyle choices, I am not prepared or ready to be in a relationship with women that already have kids. This will come across a lot better then "No children!" Negative comment or requests of any kind, even when they are about putting down what we are looking for, are unattractive and get you off to a bad start. Also, everyone has baggage. SO many men make the mistake of saying that on their profiles when they fail to recongnize their own baggage. When a man says he wants someone with no baggage, it actually says something about his lack of maturity to a woman.
Taramere Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 (edited) Image - TinyPic - Free Image Hosting, Photo Sharing & Video Hosting She said." You are way to pretty no wrinkles No lines you look like your no where near 35 I cant date a guy thats more prettier then i am unless Your wearing make up or your pics are retouched" I don't know what was going through her mind or what sort of a state of repair she's in, but "youthful" or "babyfaced" aren't words that come to my mind when I see your picture. When I think people look young, it's generally because of the energy they radiate. Mischievous and fun-loving looking. I think you look uncomfortable and indignant in your picture. I empathise, because I loathe the camera and the feeling is generally mutual. I almost always look uncomfortable in pictures - like I need a good dose of fibre in my diet. I would never guess you at 30 or younger from that pic (like I say, I don't know what was going on in that woman's head for her to say you look too young) but you're a reasonable enough looking guy. It's just that somewhat outraged expression that lets you down. On the other hand, a fake and uncomfortable smile could be worse. Best thing you can do is go with that picture and say something like "the camera and I don't really see eye to eye. I promise you that despite the indignant expression in the picture I'm actually a pretty good-natured and easygoing kind of guy." Well, if you are that is. Edited December 30, 2012 by Taramere 1
Ghisop Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'm not trying to be mean. But I really don't find you attractive. Maybe its the ginger thing And this post is kind of off putting- its good to have confidence but to ask a group of strangers if you are to pretty really only comes off as arrogant.
GirlontheLam Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Finding people around your age is an issue for both men and women over 30. /QUOTE] So true. I am mid 30s, and I get approached most online and off by people over 40 or under 30. Rarely someone right around my age. I tend to look a little younger. I dress my age, I have grey hairs, but I have a youthful face. 1
Author charlietheginger Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 I also want to add that just going by your face, you still have some way to go before you can call yourself "thin". Mybody fat is is 8% bf i dont want to get much Thinner... these pics were taken around 9 %bf Image - TinyPic - Free Image Hosting, Photo Sharing & Video Hosting Image - TinyPic - Free Image Hosting, Photo Sharing & Video Hosting I think you telling me i have aways to go To the point anorexia Before i can be "thin" is rather harsh Considering i have a 30inch waiste with visible 6 pack abdominals Not everyone can be supermodel thin Sorry it aint happening Everyone else thanks for the advice. I have a friend at the gym that does Some athletic clothing modeling He told me this morning his Photographer can do a couple head Shots for me next week.... So ill have some prof pics taken. Better lighting better shadowing Ill post a new OLD profile I guess looking for a women age 35 That does not have kids might be A bit unrealistic and ill have to consider 22~27 range. Plus a non drinker non smoker might be To much to ask as well.
TaraMaiden Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Honestly? That's such a huge turn-off for me. Mr Muscles always care more about catching themselves in a reflection than I do.... sorry - that's just ruined it completely for me. And you still look gay to me. Especially after those....
Author charlietheginger Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 As far as grammer grammar shammer. Im on a cellphone texting When u text u grammer grammar shammer Goes out the door I will pull my behonk to a chair and type out a profile. Lol u guys are silly to think chatroom jibber Jabber is writing to be graded by a english Professor to be graded.
MoreThanThat Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I guess looking for a women age 35 That does not have kids might be A bit unrealistic and ill have to consider 22~27 range. Why is it unrealistic to have standards or preferences? FWIW, I'm in mid 40's with a marriage that ended 8 years ago. I've only been involved with men since ~12-15 years younger because most men around my age seem to ONLY be interested in younger women or there is a reason they are single. That said, even if you can attract younger people, that doesn't mean it won't come without it's own set of issues.
TaraMaiden Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'm texting from a 'phone... If I can do it, so can you......
Author charlietheginger Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Honestly? That's such a huge turn-off for me. Mr Muscles always care more about catching themselves in a reflection than I do.... sorry - that's just ruined it completely for me. And you still look gay to me. Especially after those.... I have to be muscular i have a kinesiology degree and thats how i pay my bills.
TaraMaiden Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Kinesiology degree? from which university/college? Surely not all kinesiologists look like you.... (I got 'seismologist' in my spell-checker. Fortunately, I paid attention.... )
eleanorhurting Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Thats it. I am never, ever going to do OLD p.s. OP, smile in your pictures 1
Author charlietheginger Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Kinesiology degree? from which university/college? Surely not all kinesiologists look like you.... (I got 'seismologist' in my spell-checker. Fortunately, I paid attention.... ) Health science azusa pacific. Weightraining has been a hobby For the last 15yrs on and off
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