Els Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I love to play the devils advocate here but Somedude is not that first person in the history of humanity to suggest that a certain portion of the female population seeks violent abusive men. A woman who worked with domestic violence victims and founded the very first domestic violence shelter for years, saw the same people come back to the same man or type of man again and again wrote a book about this. Prone to Violence: Erin Pizzey, Jeff Shapiro: 9780600205517: Amazon.com: Books A full free PDF of the book. http://norskgoy.files.wordpress.com/2012/03/erinpizzey_pronetoviolence.pdf The basic idea is that there are certain women who are a type of mentally abusive. It's not that they choose abusive men again and again... they mentally and physically attack whatever man they happen to be with until he abuses them. Hence those women are "prone to violence". While this is not the case in all abusive relationships if a person is in one abusive relationship after another after another you have to ask yourself...what's wrong with them? Are they really the victim? Then there are women from certain old world / third world cultures where they think it's normal for a man to hit a woman as a matter of course. If somedude has seen more than a normal share of such women around him then it wouldn't be surprising for him to think what he thinks. Especially if it was a woman he cared for or a close relative. There are some women in the world who think that a man is only passionate about them if he is the jealous, possessive, abusive type who will slap them for even looking at another man or being too assertive with them. That isn't the point, really. We could debate til the cows come home about this (FWIW, I agree that your point is valid in some cases, but not all), but it wouldn't change anything. If SD had said exactly what you said the way you said it, I sincerely believe that people's reactions would be different. The issue is: 1) the way he said it, 2) how he doesn't realize why or how what he said could be found offensive, and 3) how he completely denies the possibility of this lack of realization manifesting IRL. He is going to support your post (which is phrased in a totally different way from all of his, btw) as justification for what he did, while still not acknowledging that what HE said could be offensive, or apologizing for it. He's living in a grotesquely large bubble of denial, with you guys enabling it. Of course, that isn't any problem to any one of us - except himself.
Necris Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Well, let Somedude come here for cherry picked advice that doesn't really help him, so he can be here and dateless in another 4 or 5 years, seems to be the most likely outcome considering how he's that bad at connecting with people as it is. Connecting with people is extremely difficult especially women in my personal experience. Some people just aren't good at that, I know I'm not I can't connect with hardly anybody. Anyway I don't this whole "you have a bad vibe" thing matters in real-life considering that women aren't psychic and do often times go with guys who truly don't have their best interests in mind, if women were so good at picking up bad vibes, less women would go with players, abusers, etc. Somedude is probably lacking in charisma, charm, social status and physical attractiveness making him undesirable to women.
Els Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 You most certainly are the Kim Kardashian of LS, SD, I'll give you that. You should be flattered. I personally think you're waaaay more fun to talk about than some bitchy celebrity.
somedude81 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 You most certainly are the Kim Kardashian of LS, SD, I'll give you that. You should be flattered. I personally think you're waaaay more fun to talk about than some bitchy celebrity. ROFL! Now it's starting to make sense. Personally I've never understood why Kim was famous except for being sexy as hell. It's certainly not enough to warrant all the media attention. Guess people just like to gossip and talk about drama and other related things.
Teknoe Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 Somedude is probably lacking in charisma, charm, social status and physical attractiveness making him undesirable to women. He's a message board legend. Now if he can only translate that to real life...
somedude81 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I think it's about time to talk about something other than somedude81 on this thread.
Necris Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I think it's about time to talk about something other than somedude81 on this thread. This is now somedude81 thread, where we talk about somedude for days, since we love him so much:lmao:. Anyway meant no disrespect when I said you probably just aren't all that attractive or charismatic making women around you not feel as attracted to you. But I do believe that's a much better explanation then you are giving off these mystical woman repellent "vibes", which strangely enough if we assume this is true this means players, abusers, etc. actually give off woman attractant vibes.
somedude81 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 This is now somedude81 thread, where we talk about somedude for days, since we love him so much:lmao:. This is the somedude thread that never ends, yes it goes on and on my friend. Some people started posting in it, not knowing what it was, and they'll continue posting in it forever just because...This is the somedude thread that never ends, yes it goes on and on my friend. Some people started posting in it, not knowing what it was, and they'll continue posting in it forever just because... Anyway meant no disrespect when I said you probably just aren't all that attractive or charismatic making women around you not feel as attracted to you. But I do believe that's a much better explanation then you are giving off these mystical woman repellent "vibes", which strangely enough if we assume this is true this means players, abusers, etc. actually give off woman attractant vibes. Oh no, I completely agree with your previous post. I'm not attractive or charismatic or bold enough for women to develop feelings for me. Those are the things I need to focus on. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I think it's about time to talk about something other than somedude81 on this thread. I agree. What's a "vipe," anyway?
ScreamingTrees Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 I agree. What's a "vipe," anyway? Poor spelling on the behalf of the OP.
Teknoe Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 Poor spelling on the behalf of the OP. More than poor spelling, though, as he repeats "vipe" throughout his post. So it's a matter of him not getting it in the first place. Similar to me and the many years where I thought it was "intensive purposes" (it's "intents and purposes" lol)
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 3, 2013 Posted January 3, 2013 This is often used as shaming tactic in dating against males to shut then up\blame them. "You have a negative vipe". First of all non of you have seen me irl, how could you possible know how i present myself to people only by my writing. Second: Ted Bundy, if women where so cleaver they would never have been fooled. He is the perfect example that women cannot pick up your bad vipe. Unless you walk around depressed as uck obviously. But very few are like that. I agree to an extent. Negative comments may show lack of confidence and that is a turn off to women. Anyway, women give off negative vibes all the time. Talk about how all the guys they've dated put them down and how guys don't like 'em cause they're 'just one of the guys'. But they attract men anyway. It's really a double standard, but hey, that's how it is. Learn the rules and play the game.
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