TaraMaiden Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 That's the point. She never said "I already have a BF - but things aren't good in that area...." which would have been more of a green light. She texts him to simply ask if he knows she has a BF. No clue as to what's happening there....
truth_seeker Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Last chick who flirted with me like this & then said she had a BF I told her I felt sorry for him then ignored her for a week. Then when I did finally respond I asked her for nudes. She stopped contacting me after that. lol.
truth_seeker Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I've never let "I have a boyfriend" dissuade me from pursuing a girl. Boyfriend/girlfriend aren't sacred; there's no vows or contracts like in marriages. People leave their boyfriends and girlfriends for other people all of the time. I've dated girls who had boyfriends before, and girls have left me to date other guys. It's not a big deal. With this logic you're only after the conquest, which is fine, if that's what you're only looking for... but if you want a real relationship with someone who is honest and trustworthy, then doing this is not the way to go. 1
Charlie Harper Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Drama queen ALERT.... get away from her asap. moreso if she works with you. SUPER RED FLAG. Weirdly enough this drama queens, are the easiest targets because they are so insecure, so they bring out the "I have a boyfriend" card. After that comes out of their month there are only 2 roads to choose: One leading straight to the "Friend Zone". One of playing with her , taking advantage of her, destroying the relationship and get a nice extra notch on your conquest history. NEITHER is good in the long run so forget about it and GET AWAY ASAP.
Mrlonelyone Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 With this logic you're only after the conquest, which is fine, if that's what you're only looking for... but if you want a real relationship with someone who is honest and trustworthy, then doing this is not the way to go. Not so. I think the way he does and I am looking for a real relationship. If we both promise not to see anyone else and be exclusive, then we will be. I won't expect random other people to keep away until we are married or engaged. It's like the difference between seeing dealer plates on a car VS real license plates on a car. Just because someone else has taken it for a test drive that dosen't mean the car is off the market.
RR1 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I'd have to agree with pretty much everyone else here. If she has a b/f already then you should be long gone by now. Stay well clear of other people's relationships, nothing good ever comes from cheating, i mean nothing, except maybe hurt, mistrust and regret. I'd have to say that if you get with her knowing she has a b/f you aren't really in a position to complain if the same thn happens to you. I've been cheated on, i've also been accused of cheating, i've never done the latter one though, as much as it hurts being cheated on i just can't see how finding someone else and then cheating on them is any sort solution to being cheated on. It makes you just as bad and the irony is the person you then go and do it too could well have been the one you were looking for all along and then you go and f*"k it up by cheating on them. No way back from that so you end up a double loser. I regard my body and my feelings as special, i don't and won't give them away to just anyone, they have to be special too, and you can't be special to someone if you just give yourself to any person that happens to show some interest. I give myself solely and wholely to one person and one person alone, they will never have to worry if anyone else is getting their hands on me, it won't happen, it never has happened, and that's the way i like it. I have had mates who bragged about how many people they've slept with, i could just never get that at all, i've always been the exact opposite, the higher the number just means the less the person values themselves. Now don't get me wrong, i ain't no prude, when i give myself to someone i'm theirs to do with as they please. I become their property for their exclusive use only. And rather than feeling i'm missing out on something i actually get a real buzz out of knowing that i belong completely and utterly to just one other person, everyone else hands off. You should definitely stay well away from people already in relationships, it isn't yours to play with and if the other person suggests otherwise then remember they can do the same to you. Once trust is gone, or in this case it doesn't really sound like it was there in the first place then you'll always be having doubts. Let it go. And if you are still thinking about it just have a think about how the other guy will feel, if that really doesn't bother you well you probably deserve to be cheated on at some point. 1
ScreamingTrees Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Damnit.. I had a perfect response to this, but it's slipped out of my mind.. Oh well, I'll be back..
CaliGuy Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 It's going to be kind of hard to completely fall off her radar because... here we go I'm gonna catch flak for this, I work with her. But I won't make obvious effort to talk with her like I did in the past. Would it be a good idea to be more flirty with other women I work with? Somehow I feel that if I play games back that makes me the bad guy. My advice for relationships with coworkers is either stay away from them and focus 100% on work....OR....find another job. For me the latter worked best. And the good part was I got a huge raise and though I moved out of SOCAL I'm in a much better place and position in life. CG
AH1990 Posted January 2, 2013 Posted January 2, 2013 ... It's like the difference between seeing dealer plates on a car VS real license plates on a car. Just because someone else has taken it for a test drive that dosen't mean the car is off the market. But that specific model of car is. You wouldn't be tailing that person and then pull up to a red light and say "excuse me, i'd like to drive that car. Please hand over the keys now."
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