LoveHurts88 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Hi guys so I was at an event and got pretty messed up and saw this girl that i used to know and whom used to like me so we danced all night.... The day after we chilled together, she came over watched movies but during this time I am still missing my EX and I couldn't do anything else. Even till today I am still missing my EX who broke up with me about 5 months ago of a 2 year relationship. I got drunk last night or buzzed and slept over at her house and I can tell that she likes me quite a bit. I don't want to hurt her because she seems really nice. I need help.. on what to do
cavalier99 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 All depends on how EVIL you are feeling and how horny you are? Lol Ok seriously now. Well it sucks that a new girl makes you think of your ex still. But this seem to be pretty normal. Just means you aren't recovered 100 percent. Now a far as the moral dilemma. Did you like this girl before? Probably not enough to date her im guessing. Is she sooo nice that you cant say you aren't interested in anything serious. If she is the type of girl that you can just have fun with.. NO ATTACHMENTS I say go for it as long as it is CRYSTAL CLEAR. Now even If you just think she might fall for you even after telling her..no attachments.. id cut the cord and not hurt her even if she states otherwise. You aren't ready yet to have somebody into you. Bad for you bad for them.
OJ loved Nicole Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 what to do Ahhh, just tell her... "I'm still missing my ex, I don't want to hurt you". I don't understand the question, do you like this girl, are you just using her to get over your ex, do you just want sex?
cavalier99 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 (edited) Im rethinking things. You aren't recovered. Having a new girl now that likes you more than just FWB makes you think of your ex... BAD for you recovery. Also you will most likely hurt her..also BAD But what do i know. Im all for getting laid but definitely would be wary of somebody being into me right now. Im 3 months out. Edited December 29, 2012 by cavalier99
OJ loved Nicole Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Also you will most likely hurt her..also BAD. You don't know this, you don't know what she wants. Hell, we don't even know what he wants (other than his ex back obviously). OP, let's say your ex comes back to you and says "whew, I've had a great 5 month sexual adventure", you think you might regret passing on opportunities then? You're either falling behind or progressing, life doesn't stand still!!
Mr.White Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 You don't know this, you don't know what she wants. Hell, we don't even know what he wants (other than his ex back obviously). OP, let's say your ex comes back to you and says "whew, I've had a great 5 month sexual adventure", you think you might regret passing on opportunities then? You're either falling behind or progressing, life doesn't stand still!! It could be true but at the same time it could be false. Regardless in my POV this girl is just progressing you backwards if you do not state that you are just looking for a 'friend' or a possible FWB. I have met new girls and my friends stated I'm not looking for anything more then a friendship and we all had a good night. Sometimes stating your viewpoint can be good but sometimes is uncalled for. Personally I would not mind the sex with her, but hey that is me and I am single now. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/images/red/icons/icon10.gif
cavalier99 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 (edited) You don't know this, you don't know what she wants. Hell, we don't even know what he wants (other than his ex back obviously). OP, let's say your ex comes back to you and says "whew, I've had a great 5 month sexual adventure", you think you might regret passing on opportunities then? You're either falling behind or progressing, life doesn't stand still!! Im all for getting laid and having adventures even FWB while getting over my ex. I just said that he should be very clear with the girl. If she is ok with it then great! I just think he needs to be careful about himself. In the past i wouldn't of cared less about hurting a girl but i guess with time im not into leading a girl on if i know form the beginning that i don't see them that way and they get too close too fast. None of this applies to girls form clubs or even after a couple dates and sex. If it gets more serious for them id tell them how i feel. Not right off the bat But your right i have no idea about the girl but he is obviously concerned. Edited December 30, 2012 by cavalier99
Author LoveHurts88 Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 I used to like her back in high school and she used to like me but nth happened. She's really nice to me right now and I don't want to hurt her because I don't know if I like her enough to be in a relationship and I still like my ex. I told her the situation about me still liking my ex and she said she could tell and I said maybe we can can take it slow and be friends for now
Samilia Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I used to like her back in high school and she used to like me but nth happened. She's really nice to me right now and I don't want to hurt her because I don't know if I like her enough to be in a relationship and I still like my ex. I told her the situation about me still liking my ex and she said she could tell and I said maybe we can can take it slow and be friends for now I would say don't make this girl your rebound. She's been warned and she's a grown up and can make her own decisions but you know how it goes, they all think they can change the guy.
OJ loved Nicole Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I told her the situation about me still liking my ex Perfectly done. You've been 100% truthful to her, you don't need to hide your shame/guilt of harboring feelings for your ex. She's a grown woman and can make her own choices.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Where do I go from here? No contact?. Or just remain friends?
Author LoveHurts88 Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Anyone?? I been texting her. Maybe I will have stronger feelings Down the road?
cavalier99 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 (edited) Well i dont think you need to go NC on her unless she is super annoying lol. Just keep it friendly and see what happens. Nobody has invested anything at this point. So just play it by ear. Don't make it complicated. You told her the situation so do whatever you feel like! Id personally shoot for a threesome ..yes I'm sort of kidding lol Edited December 30, 2012 by cavalier99
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