alvarehe Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 (*** I AM REPOSTING THIS FROM ANOTHER SITE AS IT GOT ALMOST NO VIEWS IN THAT SITE AND I TRULY WANT FEEDBACK***) First off... I'm in NO RUSH to make this relationship move into "marriage" or even "living together" territory. Just wanted to say that first before anyone made assumptions. I had a previous thread about him doing the "backing away" routine after a romantic night together. Long story short... we are still together and discussed what was expected communication-wise and since then things have been really good. We began our relationship as casually dating (not just casual SEX but dating with no pressure of commitment). I have not pushed the exclusive talk but over the last few weeks he has been bringing up how he "used to date" girls that would be "princesses" and how he liked that I wasn't insecure or complaining about him being busy at work. He said he really liked me (in a very sweet way as he looked in my eyes) and felt our chemistry was amazing. He talked about how sex was very important to him in a relationship and was a big part of building a real relationship for him... then says how our sex life is amazing. He started asking me about my relationship with my ex-husband and how I dealt with everything. He wasn't being pushy about it, just curious about how I felt. Recently he casually brought up his dating profile (we met online) and said how he decided he didn't want it anymore. (FYI - I had noticed he had been inactive for a while before he even mentioned this bc he is a "favorite" on my profile and not bc I go to his page) He made jokes about some of the women on there and I said I had pretty much left mine as well (I only had gone on to read messages but was not actively looking or talking to anyone). That's when he asked "Why? Because you met me (giggle giggle)?" and I replied "yeah, something like that". He just smiled and we continued the conversation. We have been dating 3 months. Both of us have kids (me 2, and him 1) that we have not met yet and I'm fine moving VERY slow with that. We live far enough away that meeting each other's friends and family hasn't easily happened yet. He has let me in on some fairly deep "skeletons" which I feel was his way of getting closer and testing the waters (could have been a deal breaker for some). I really like how this is going but just wanted some outsider feedback. You think this is moving slowly toward Commitmentville or is he just passing the time? His "dating profile" comment made me really stop for a minute and think. And yes... I would like a commitment but feel good just being in the moment with him and not forcing things.
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