quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I met a girl last night. I asked her if she had a bf, she said yes.. but.. they've broken up three times, he's cheated on her. Seems like that isn't going to last much longer to me.. She said it would be cool to go for a drink or something, dropped her number in my phone.. then I left with smiles and her watching me leave the room.. Now I'm questioning.. what the hell do I say to her?! She seemed cool, dunno what to do.. Do I message her? Tell her I'd like to see her soon? Is this immoral knowing she has a bf?
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 I guess really.. I approached her, told her I find her attractive and I'd like to talk. She was happy to talk, happy to put her number in my phone, seemed like a nice girl.. I dunno. Maybe there's nothing wrong with it. I'm gonna message her when I think of the right message to send.
Angel Heart Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Perhaps she just wants to fool around and have a good time with you. Figure out what you want in this situation and go with what fits your moral and belief systems. 1
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Can't be too much harm in it.. I didn't force her to put her number in my phone. I just made her laugh. She can deal with the boyfriend situation. lol
Survivor12 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 You should have given her your # & told her to call you when she's single.
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 chances are she doesn't respond to my message when I send it.. That would be funny, after considering what to write for hours. Or a fake number.. That would be even better. LMAO
TaraMaiden Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Don't be an idiot. How much more complications and drama do you want in your life? You're still obsessing about your ex, and doing the craziest things - and here you are meddling in someone else's love-life!! Back off! You're nowhere near emotionally equipped to handle this and To Be Brutally Honest? This girl doesn't deserve to have you - in your current state - inflicted upon her. If she wants to cheat on her BF, that's her problem. but don't let it be you.... You already have enough to cope with, without having to deal with a jealous BF and a wayward girl...!
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 You should have given her your # & told her to call you when she's single. I don't know.. I approached her, I want to know about her. Kinda weak, "here, would you mind taking my number from me?". In my opinion.
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Complications and drama will be constant in life, I should imagine. "The world aint all sunshine and rainbows". I need something new to forget my past. Something to move on to. To be fair, getting out more has stopped me thinking about my ex. I approached a girl, she seemed cool, let me have her number. There was no need to ask about morals to be fair. It's on her. I don't care she has a bf, not one that cheats on her and whatever. If she was like "Ye, I love my bf".. there would be no worries, finished. Nice to have met you. Someone loves me. Warts, wounds and all. Maybe it's her. She has a pretty name.
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 I obsessed over her, because I had absolutely nothing else going on. Getting out and making more friends can't be a bad move.
TaraMaiden Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Friends - yes. but don't be so blinkered by your desire to move on that you willingly jump into another situation with ready-made complications.... 1
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Don't be an idiot. How much more complications and drama do you want in your life? You're still obsessing about your ex, and doing the craziest things - and here you are meddling in someone else's love-life!! Back off! You're nowhere near emotionally equipped to handle this and To Be Brutally Honest? This girl doesn't deserve to have you - in your current state - inflicted upon her. If she wants to cheat on her BF, that's her problem. but don't let it be you.... You already have enough to cope with, without having to deal with a jealous BF and a wayward girl...! That's the only thing that you've written that I cannot agree with. I haven't done anything 'crazy' since a week after we fell out (messaging her ex bfs), yes she's been on my mind a lot, simply because I've been sitting around doing nothing else.. As soon as I had a plan to do something, she was a distant memory. I don't feel compulsed to message her, I don't want to talk to her. She's gone and I need new friends. Getting out and doing more things is exactly the advice I've been given. After feeling lonely for so long, making more friends seems like a fairly good idea. Trying to make pretty girls like me, seems like a good direction. "The only way to really get over someone, is to get under someone you really like" I thought she was the only girl in the world (easy to imagine sitting alone in my house), I realised talking to however many girls last night that she is not. My only question was "is it immoral to chase a girl with a bf?" but the truth is, when she drops her number in my phone flirts and agrees to meeting up, no it's not immoral. Like you say, it's her problem. I'm not being an idiot. That's the most un-cool comment you've made to me.
Author quite.foolish Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Friends - yes. but don't be so blinkered by your desire to move on that you willingly jump into another situation with ready-made complications.... hmmmm.*thinking*
Bumaga vsyo sterpit Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Man, don't be afraid of a little adventure. It's not like you're the same guy you were 5 months ago. The fresh memory of your ex is hopefully gonna keep you from getting too emotionally involved. My ex and I were finished October 21st, I'm totally over her, and I talk to many girls. When the strong feelings come, they wear off in a day. A jealous boyfriend and a wayward girl, true. But also some fun and experience. Besides, she won't be the only girl you're involved with.
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