ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I know I shouldn't have but I held out some serious hope that since he and I could be back together and be happy and he would just love me again. So Christmas Day I included him in a mass text just wishing him and his family a merry christmas and stuff well pretty much everyone I sent it to responded he didn't and I was sad because I would still give anything to be with him but whatever it's fully over I guess. I deleted him finally and all his texts and him from twitter again so whatever, new year new boys and I'm taking dating super serious this year I want to be in a serious relationship by 2014 and maybe even have a baby no more wasting time
TaraMaiden Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 You have learnt absolutely nothing on this site, at all, have you? Not a thing.... 4
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 You have learnt absolutely nothing on this site, at all, have you? Not a thing.... I definitely have.. I have stopped online dating, I deleted his number which is pretty permanent because I have no other way to contact him now, I am funding hobbies and things that I like, I think I have done some pretty great things that I like a lot I did screw up by messaging him but I deleted him do it won't happen again, I haven't had sex in months because I'm holding out for a relationship so I think I'm pretty good right now. I think the website taught me alot
TaraMaiden Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 It's one thing to teach. it's another to learn. If you know breaking NC is the worst idea ever - then why did you go against everything you knew - and do it anyway?
Gottabestrong Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I deleted him finally and all his texts and him from twitter again so whatever, new year new boys and I'm taking dating super serious this year I want to be in a serious relationship by 2014 and maybe even have a baby no more wasting time Good for you. I know it hurts when your ex ignores you, but at least it sounds like you now have the resolve to move on with your life and away from the relationship you had with him. Good luck with everything!
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 It's one thing to teach. it's another to learn. If you know breaking NC is the worst idea ever - then why did you go against everything you knew - and do it anyway? Because I really didn't think I was in no contact with him. He retweeted me on election night so I definitely thought it was all good. I honestly just didnt want to admit you know? I wanted to think he was thinking of me and we can work it out because he is still single, I'm single, he said he wanted to be married with more kids by 25 and he is 24 now, I obviously also want those 2 wonderful things ASAP and we were perfect for each other and it was just easy with him. And he is really picky about girls and so him liking me obviously meant that I was pretty enough for him to like me
veggirl Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Wait I thought you were taking time off dating? Or was that just OLD? Well, date if you'd like...just keep your head about you, keep some boundaries, don't fall "in love" in a month! Take things a bit slowly, it's your best bet at finding what you want and not falling victim to some charmer that just says all the right things. (sorry about your ex. so no more contacting him, at all!)
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Wait I thought you were taking time off dating? Or was that just OLD? Well, date if you'd like...just keep your head about you, keep some boundaries, don't fall "in love" in a month! Take things a bit slowly, it's your best bet at finding what you want and not falling victim to some charmer that just says all the right things. (sorry about your ex. so no more contacting him, at all!) I was taking a break from dating in general but I just hoped he would like take me back and I could only think to contact him on Christmas. Oh well I am not going to seek out men but if they come to me its on lol
Zammo25 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I was taking a break from dating in general but I just hoped he would like take me back and I could only think to contact him on Christmas. Oh well I am not going to seek out men but if they come to me its on lol My advice is if you want him back FIGHT like you have never fought before. Send a final closure e mail saying what you want, he is the World, you love him, you want to try again. Then DO NOT make contact again. Be true to yourself that is all you can do. I did this. And I failed. The chances of a happy conclusion ? Around 10% I would say.
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 My advice is if you want him back FIGHT like you have never fought before. Send a final closure e mail saying what you want, he is the World, you love him, you want to try again. Then DO NOT make contact again. Be true to yourself that is all you can do. I did this. And I failed. The chances of a happy conclusion ? Around 10% I would say. I think I'm done I don't want to make a fool of myself anymore than I already have 1
Amelie1980 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I definitely have.. I have stopped online dating, I deleted his number which is pretty permanent because I have no other way to contact him now, I am funding hobbies and things that I like, I think I have done some pretty great things that I like a lot I did screw up by messaging him but I deleted him do it won't happen again, I haven't had sex in months because I'm holding out for a relationship so I think I'm pretty good right now. I think the website taught me alot Why stop online dating?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 Why stop online dating? The only men who online date are douchers looking to screw
bentnotbroken Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 You have learnt absolutely nothing on this site, at all, have you? Not a thing.... Nope...nada.
Pyro Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Yeah that sounds like a super idea, will the male in question be included in the decision to have a baby or will you be "forgetting" your birth control? and if this male in question doesn't take any precautions himself then he deserves to part of any dumbas$ decisions. 2
Pyro Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Oh I completely agree, but not every man is intelligent enough to know never to trust a woman. Im more concerned about the inevitable whine topics about him not manning up and taking care of his offspring. He should man up if the unfortunate were to happen. That is the risk of having ONS with women whom you have no idea who they are. Meet a woman, get to know her, grow some balls and put your guard down and commit. A woman you meet like that is very trustworthy. I'm sorry that you are incapable of meeting any quality trustworthy women. That is what happens when you go for naive young girls who are probably more similar to the OP then we all realize. 1
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 30, 2012 Author Posted December 30, 2012 The OP states she wants to be in a serious relationship by 2014, presumably she then wants a baby ( or, she also wants a baby by then which.. well ). I personally wouldn't trust a woman after a century but im aware that most men feel differently, hence why I asked if she was going to "forget" her BC or if he was going to be included in the decision making. No thank you, my balls are quite sufficient. ****trapping men is a practice primarily reserved for women nearing the end of their reproductive capabilities. I don't intend to trap anyone, I want a man who will love me and our baby
Pyro Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 The OP states she wants to be in a serious relationship by 2014, presumably she then wants a baby ( or, she also wants a baby by then which.. well ). I personally wouldn't trust a woman after a century but im aware that most men feel differently, hence why I asked if she was going to "forget" her BC or if he was going to be included in the decision making. No thank you, my balls are quite sufficient. ****trapping men is a practice primarily reserved for women nearing the end of their reproductive capabilities. A serious relationship does not automatically mean having a baby, or plans to have one. Everyone should know that. Again, anyone who takes part in sex better be ready to have a child with the other person because nothing is 100% safe when dealing with sex.
Sugarkane Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Oh I completely agree, but not every man is intelligent enough to know never to trust a woman. Im more concerned about the inevitable whine topics about him not manning up and taking care of his offspring. If you don't want a baby, use protection it's that simple. A grown man has no one to blame but himself. Its not like a man's going to be forced into it. Are men that stupid? It takes two people, right?
Author ImperfectionisBeauty Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 There was one time with my ex that we had sex and I knew I missed my pill that day but I for sure told him and he went with me to get Plan B the next day and so I don't really trick guys into unprotected sex.
Pyro Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 I do appreciate you agreeing with me that one can never trust a woman though. If it makes your little bitter self feel better thinking that she agreed with you then good for you. You deserve a little bit of happiness in your life. 1
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