Touch of Innocence Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 Here it goes, I have not dated anyone for about 6-9 months. Not because there has not been anyone interested, but I just had a lot of things going on, school, work, and I had ended a long term relationship. NOW I am ready and willing to date!!! So there's a guy that I have known for about 2 years. He is very, very, very handsome and that's actually the problem!!! He has always been very interested in me, but I have always turned him down because I feel that it will always be an issue that he has so many girls after him. He is not conceited but he does know that he's very handsome. On Saturday he asked me out on a date for next weekend and I told him I have to see, I don't know if to give him a chance or not. Any advice?
Girlie Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 Well, just because girls chase him doesn't necessarily mean he's a player. You've known him for two years...is he? If he is, and you don't want to deal with that, don't. But if he seems like a decent guy, I really don't see the harm in going out on a date and seeing if the two of you hit it off. I have an old friend who said she will only date men who are viewed as unattractive by society, because good-looking men are pigs, or so she says. I think that's a sad way to look at the world. If he's nice, go out and have a good time and see what it's like to date him. If you don't like it, don't go out again. But there's no harm in trying it out, is there? Don't knock it till you try it, as the old saying goes.
morrigan Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 Do you both seem to have a lot of shared interests and views? When you two talk, are you more interested in what he has to say rather than just staring at him? Would you be as interested in him if he was an average looking guy? If so, go ahead and enjoy yourself. He may not place priority on his looks, or even be aware of the reaction his appearance causes. It still may bother you however, even if he seems oblivious to it. Is he egotistical about his looks, or overly enjoys or brags about all the attention he receives from women? If he acts that way, go ahead and go on a few fun dates, but figure out that it probably not going to be a serious relationship. Good luck, whatever you decide to do!
YellowLioness Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 If you like him, then don't let silly things stop you. If you are unsure about dating him, then go on a date or two with him, get to know him, then decide.
Author Touch of Innocence Posted August 17, 2004 Author Posted August 17, 2004 Thank you all I am just so scared of getting my heart-broken again. My ex was a gorgeous man, at first he was so down to earth, but as time passed by and all that attention started to sink in he started to change and he just became a total assh*ole. I hope that this goes well
cat girl Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 Hi, i do hope everything goes well for you, I just want to say precede with caution. If you already have fears this person will hurt you please heed to your intuition, us women have that. I had a very similar situation, i was in a long term relationship and a friend of mine for years had always been after me, yes he was hot, but to be after me knowing i was in a long term relation ship, was not at the least very respectful. So you can see where this is going. Unfortunately when the long term of 6 years ended , he was on me like flies on ... well you know what i mean. We dated for 4 months it was wildly passionate and so much fun, i was very very busy with school and work, i guess I couldn't give him the time he needed and he started sleeping with a mutual friend. both of them stabbing me in the back, this went on for another 2 months before I found out and felt the fool. it was totally humiliating and extremely depressing considering i wasn't even over the long term grieving process , so it was a double whammy. I think you should go for it , but please be cautious, and if anything voice your concerns, he should totally understand take things slow and make you feel comfortable. If he is not man enough to handle it, he's not man enough to handle you! Good luck and keep me posted!
Author Touch of Innocence Posted August 17, 2004 Author Posted August 17, 2004 Dear catgarlo, What you just posted made me think even more!!! I hope I'm just being silly and that he does not turn out out to be a total a**hole. Maybe I just worry too much, who is to say that I am even going to date him (if I do) long enough to worry about these type of issues! I will keep you posted. Thanks
UCFKevin Posted August 17, 2004 Posted August 17, 2004 He could be a total waste of time, and he could not be. Point is, there's no way of knowing unless you try. So try it.
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 That's exactly what I tell her!!! The worst thing possible is not knowing what could have happen. If it turns out bad then you can move on and learn from it! But don't deny yourself of knowing what is out there.
YellowLioness Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 (this is to Touch of Naughtiness and Touch of Innocence) Maybe I should have already guessed it, but I want definitive proof. lol. I've been wondering since your all's two names appeared. At first, I thought it was the same person just using different names, and I was all like, "Why in the world would someone do that?" But hey, to each his own.
Touch_of_Naughtiness Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 Originally posted by YellowLioness (this is to Touch of Naughtiness and Touch of Innocence) Maybe I should have already guessed it, but I want definitive proof. lol. I've been wondering since your all's two names appeared. At first, I thought it was the same person just using different names, and I was all like, "Why in the world would someone do that?" But hey, to each his own. LOL, Touch of Innocence is my sister, we're twins. She came on here before me because of a problem (if we can call it that) we had amongst each other. My cousin told me to come on here and read what my sis has posted about me and I decided to stay on here. By the way my sister and I are getting along great now. I can understand the mix up or confusion
YellowLioness Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 I get it. Well, glad you all are getting along well. Fam. problems can be the worst. Sorry to take away from the post; inquiring minds just had to know.
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