Meo32 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Been NC for 3 months... He said it became boring/distant.... Before we got together we were really good friends and during the relationship we were inseparable, each other's firsts in pretty much everything. I still see him Mon-Fri (School) A lot of people here seem to have success with NC though... So... I know I shouldn't hope for him coming back... but thoughts on it? And how to cope? 1
Shim_kattty Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I just began NC Wednesday even though we've been broken up since July. He has a new gf & was still having a hard time giving her his all because he loves me. I decided that I would go NC because he began to be a little rude & when I asked him about it he said it was a coping mechanism. He May not be trying to talk to you because he is trying to cope or make himself believe he is over you. You never really know. But just keep going. I feel better already & its only been a few days. 1
sadbunnyy Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I went no contact for a good 2 months after the break up until he emailed me and I gave in which was NOT a good idea...it just opened up old wounds and gives him an ego stroke. I regret replying to his emails. I think its best to heal yourself first until you do decide to communicate with him. 6 months - a year of NC would be good! It wont be easy, it was the toughest 2 months of my life but eventually you'll start to feel better little by little everyday! It helped me a lot to have a calendar and mark each day of NC because its another day closer to being happy again. 1
Author Meo32 Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Shim_Kattty : I guess I'll keep NC ... it hurts so much at first but I hope it does feel better Sadbunnyy : yay happiness~ well... long story short... i had an extra box of Christmas cookies from the ones i was handing out to my friends. Not knowing what to do with it, my instincts kinda just forced me to give it to him. He said he wanted to be friends anyway! Well. I did this without even thinking and Im pretty sure it just made everything worse. NC starts over i guess
Shim_kattty Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Him saying he wants to be friends is just a way for him to peak into your life & see how things are going without him. If the break up wasn't nasty for some reason guys like to check up on who you're with & what you're doing. You should keep it going. Remember that NC is for you & not a punishment or game that'll make him miss you & come running back. That was the hardest thing for me to come to terms with.
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