xpaperxcutx Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 What's the general consensus that exes can be friends? Especially if it's an amicable break-up?
Divasu Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 What's the general consensus that exes can be friends? Especially if it's an amicable break-up? Not sure what the general consensus is, I can only share past experience and that I have only remained friends with one. We broke up 15+ years ago and have touched base every couple years or so just to see how the other is doing. If he were single and I was still sexually attracted to him, we'd probably be married by now.
TheZebra Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 2 of my exes I have opted not to stay friends with. 1 of them I still talk to every once in a while and we did agree to stay friends. The reasons I chose to remain friends with him have to do with the fact that it was an amicable break up, he's a smart guy, and I don't have feelings for him anymore.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I'm friends with a couple, but the friendships did not really get going until well after the breakups were behind us.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 I'm friends with a couple, but the friendships did not really get going until well after the breakups were behind us. I believe this although I have never really stayed friends except with one other ex, and that friendship involved us exchanging holidays and birthdays greetings with limited contact. The recent breakup with my current ex is mutual because we both know the relationship is going nowhere yet, we both care for each other too much to fully want to cut the other out of each other's life. We still hang out and text each other good morning everyday. I wouldn't exactly call it normal but it is somewhat of a routine.
Onelife66 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I am amiable with a couple exs . Close w 1 ex gf. Just be aware and communicate clearly, it can be a good thing once each person has come to terms w the breakup and dated again I'd say.
RedHead33 Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 Friend is a big word. You mean friends like hang out together, regular communication and whatnot or a friend if you saw on the street would stop and say hello.
Angel Heart Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 I've never stayed friends with any of the guys I dated. I just didn't want to; I imagine too many memories rehashing in my head and never wanted to deal with that mess.
Tony T Posted December 30, 2012 Posted December 30, 2012 What's the general consensus that exes can be friends? Especially if it's an amicable break-up? It takes two EXTREMELY mature individuals who have completely shed all romantic feelings for each other to be friends. It does happen but not often, especially if one or both are honest. There is usually one faking desire for friendship in hopes that one day the romance can rekindle. Most often one or both see no point in a friendship because such could seriously interfere with future romantic encounters. Most people are immediately suspect in dating a person who is friends with an "ex." BUT there are some who have excellent self esteem, confidence and trust and don't care. I think it's a much better idea to postpone the idea of friendship with an ex for a few years unless you are totally uninterested in pursuing other romantic relationships at this time and you are absolutely certain that both you and the other person have no other vision for the friendship but friendship.
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