Justtiredofit Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I miss my kids so badly. I miss waking up every morning and seeing my daughter (20) in the next room, being able to get up and do anything with her that she and I wanted to do at any time. My son (16), he used to always ask me to come play video games with him and I would put him off. WHY did I do that? I just always took for granted that there would be another time. GOD I screwed up! I would give ANYTHING to be under the same roof as them again! I will NEVER have those times back again! I took for granted my time with my children, and now it's GONE! THIS HURTS SO BADLY! Knowing that I will never live under the same roof as them again. (I will NOT stop the divorce). I know I'm making the decision to not stop the divorce, but I was in a loving, committed (110%) relationship, and it was yanked out from underneath me POOF, it's gone! I will NOT beg her back, I'm just EXTREMELY sad over the pulling apart of everything. It is killing me! You are 110% into your marriage, and then the other person is NOT. It's getting to me. I go back an forth between: "That BITCH!" and "Why the HELL would she do something STUPID like this?" But I just have to stop this. HA! Easier said than done. Venting 1
veryhappy Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Can you keep some perspective here? Your babies are 16 and 20 and will soon be out of the house. Whatever quality time you'd have with them while living there, you can have it without living there. You are certainly not going to be together 24/7 at their age. Stop dramatizing and do the best of your time together. Plus, they're old enough that you can spend time with them whenever they want. What, is she such a b that she can keep the 20 year old from staying at your place?
UpwardForward Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Can you meet with them and let them know how you feel. That you miss them, embrace the memories, and reiterate that you will always be there for them. And to possibly let them know that there can still be good times and experiences ahead for the three of you. In the situation of D .. or even separation, kids have ways of taking on the burden and of also feeling the same rejection - no matter what their age.
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