Missing Him Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 So recently I've been struggling with wondering whether I'm actually upset that my ex and I broke up or whether my pride is bruised that I was dumped. I kind of knew the break-up was coming and I had suggested breaking up a couple of weeks before we actually did. A part of me wonders if maybe I was just upset that he did the dumping? Thinking about it... the break-up was probably in both of our best interests. I wasn't challenging myself at school, or making friends, or having a good time at all really because I was so comfortable having him to talk to. I feel a sense of freedom now that we're broken up. I miss him a lot, but I think that I miss the more friendish things about him. I miss some of our hobbies and I miss just talking to him, but I'm not even sure that I miss the actual relationship that much? Is this kind of phase that you go through after a break-up or is it possible that my ego was bruised more than anything all along?
na49 Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 Being dumped sucks. It's a shot to our ego and it hurts to know that someone else doesn't want us anymore. Our pride is definitely bruised. I was in a similar situation with my ex. I had her and didn't really feel like I needed to meet anyone else. Well now I don't have her or anyone else. I missed out on the opportunity to meet new people during the beginning of college because I figured why bother? I spent all of my time with her during orientations. It was completely my own fault, she had no problem talking to new people and meeting new guys to cheat on me with and new friends to talk crap about me with. I didn't and now find myself having to go to school next semester with a brand new start. Not what I wanted, but it is what it is. You miss the friendship, that companionship, having that one person who is always around for you. That person is gone though, it takes a while to deal with but obviously you can't be friends. Look at it as a way for you to meet new people. There's a lot of people at your school who are just as nice as your ex, but you just have to go meet them. They won't come to you if you're always keeping to yourself.
MyAngel Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 I agree. I miss the friendship, companionship and the constant knowing that I had her love. Or so I thought. There are many things about our relationship that I do not miss, but when it was good it was fantastic and I felt on cloud 9. Sadly, those highs were getting less over time, nothing to do with my part because I as always wanted to be with her and spend time with her and just be in love, but it's hard when it seems only one person wants to make an effort. So we have an empty space where our loves used to be and we need to fill this up with friends, hobbies, passions.... Anything to fill that hollow they've left us with.
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