SilverStar Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Okay, guys especially. Help me out? So I met this guy online on a dating site. We hit it off and began texting tons. But, he just turned 21. I'm 28. Now, he says he doesn't care about the age difference and nor do I. Whenever I see him he's sweet and affectionate and says he's into me. So here's the situation... We have had a few dates and things were going great. But he left to visit home for the holidays for a little over a week. We continued to hang out and then he gets called in to work the last day before he goes on vacation when we were supposed to get together. It's cool, he works for the government, I understand. He says he'll miss me, etc. So I add him on Facebook. Here's why I hate Facebook. As girl, I pay too much attention to it. I noticed that He has a close group of good friends back home. A few boys along with himself and a girl. The dreaded "girl best friend" I am assuming. Not to be full of myself, but I'm educated, a Collage graduate that models in L.A. on the side but also owns my own business and house. Plus, I am very smart despite my appearance (as some people judge a book by it's cover. The "Oh she's pretty, she must be stupid," thing.) And, the "best girl friend" he has that I speak of, is only 19, very immature, makes a ton of annoying posts on his facebook wall, and is plain looking at best. But I'm old enough to know that all that doesn't always matter. Because they have history, they must have spent some of their teen years together. So for his whole vacation, save for the last days, he's always being tagged by this chick. But they are always with those other several guys in their close circle. All tagged doing things together. But, she also took a picture of just her and him and tags it, and titles it with a heart. But I actually see just her in a lot of facebook pictures with the other guys in their circle. I am so confused. Is this a "one of the guys" chick? I can tell she's really into the guy I'm seeing, but it seems pretty one sided. But how do I even know!? He came back yesterday, which was my birthday. He lives here and isn't moving back home anytime soon. His home is thousands of miles away. But, I also didn't hear from him much while he was out of town. I get it, he hadn't been home in years and he was catching up with friends and family. While he was away, I text him only twice. Once to say I hope he was having fun, and once to say Merry Christmas. He responded, but never wrote me first the whole time he was there. But then again, when I hang out with him, he never texts. Which is refreshing after dating tons of guys that would text all the time on dates. Maybe he's just polite? So he got back yesterday in the afternoon according to a Facebook post. He as yet to text me. And yes, yesterday was my Birthday and he didn't even bother to say Happy Birthday. I was told to never text a guy first. That doing that comes off as "trying to hard" and "desperate." But, I really like this guy, what if he never texts me? I thought he was into me from the way he acted, but now I'm not so sure. Should I give up on him? Text him? Wait for him to come to me? I have just met a lot of player types sadly. And I'm scared I may have been played again. We've only know each other for a little over a month and have been on 3 dates but...I dunno. Any advice would be VERY appreciated. My friends think I'm over reacting and I'm just confused. I really like him, I don't know how to act without seeming crazy. I wanted to give him space while he was on his trip but now that he's back, what next?? Any input is appreciated.
PogoStick Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 If you're a hot, intelligent, 28 y/o then how are you going to get played by a 21 y/o boy? I really can't tell what he's thinking for sure but I suggest you don't get too attached. Maybe he's just not that into you. Plus young guys are just as flaky as young girls so be aware what you're getting into. I have time to properly date a hot intelligent woman. Hit me up if you want to move near me and date 7 years the other direction
Casablanca Posted December 29, 2012 Posted December 29, 2012 So he got back yesterday in the afternoon according to a Facebook post. He as yet to text me. And yes, yesterday was my Birthday and he didn't even bother to say Happy Birthday. I was told to never text a guy first. That doing that comes off as "trying to hard" and "desperate." But, I really like this guy, what if he never texts me? I thought he was into me from the way he acted, but now I'm not so sure. Should I give up on him? Text him? Wait for him to come to me? Forget him, and move on, I dont think this is a problem related to his age, just him not being that into you anymore I guess...21 year old boys are immature, I was, I wasn't as immature as say maybe this boy, but I was oblivious at times He should have called you, taken you out for dinner and a nice little gift, nothing major since you two just started dating, but that is a huge red flag FYI, I'm an educated 25 year old who wouldn't do anything like this guy did to you
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