Guide to: Unsuitable Relationship Traits & Broken Love (inc NoContact/reconciliation)

[Samurai Life]

Samurai Life » GUIDE TO: Unsuitable Relationship Traits & Broken Love

 

Just a little something I penned, from experience

 

(with a particular shyster who embodied every single unsuitable relationship trait in the book; infidelity, frequent breakups, relocation, multiple no-contacts, manipulation and game-playing, the works)

 

Hope it helps someone. Any and all feedback appreciated, cheers

[LostOne1]

A really good post.

 

I wish I had read this before.

 

Lots of information I wished I had known or accepted. Such as my ex isolating me always from my friends and not allowing me to see them. That should've set alarms off for me to bail out then and there.

 

But some good lessons learned!

[NoMoreJerks]

OP, your ex sounds like a narcissist, and some of these traits that you mentioned remind me of my narcissistic ex as well...

 

A good post. The reason that NC worked so well with your ex might be that narcissists hate being ignored, for as long as they consider you a source of narcissistic supply. Once they devalue and discard you, though, I doubt NC would work in getting them back.

[Samurai Life]

OP, your ex sounds like a narcissist, and some of these traits that you mentioned remind me of my narcissistic ex as well...

 

I'm not sure if it's narcissism, given the MASSIVE insecurities - which either sex, or my affection/sex/love helped alleviate - or if it's sociopathy, or just massive self-esteem issues, or if it really is narcissism/entitlement.

 

Perhaps all.

That's one thing I couldn't quite work out... reconciling the loving person from the other one. Jekyll and Hyde story.

 

Would be easier to dismiss and just think "what an absolute cunt"; sadly life and love don't work like that. We're complex beings

 

 

A good post. The reason that NC worked so well with your ex might be that narcissists hate being ignored, for as long as they consider you a source of narcissistic supply. Once they devalue and discard you, though, I doubt NC would work in getting them back.

 

Makes sense. Even to this day, same pattern. Now I don't bite