gwennebe Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 So, here is my deal. I just moved to a new city about 10 hours from my home town. Wouldn't you know it, I run into a guy in my apartment complex from the same home town. He's my age, he's cute, we enjoyed talking to each other. He chases me for two weeks and I go out with him, he's aggressive, complimenting me, telling me he thinks I'm great blah blah blah..... We make plans for a Friday night. He calls me at 10:30 PM and says "Hey, please dont' be mad but I met this new dude that just moved in and I"d really like to get to know him and hang out with just the guys because I don't have any guy friends here yet. (He just moved here too) Coincidence? So that doesn't make me mad I'm like sure go for it have fun. He told me to call him the next day to go to the beach so I try at noon and I get his answering machine. I leave a message, "hey i'm leaving in a half hour give me a call" No call so I call again at 12:30 "look I'm leaving, guess your not coming I think your an ass**le for kist blowing me off". So I go spend the day myself, I'm mad because my ex used to blow me off all the time after making plans and I'm so used to being **** on that now I just can't deal when someone doesn't keep their word. He calls at 3:00 AM that night after they get back from going out again and we talk about my message and he apologized for not being availiable that morning and explains he just didn't hear the phone. He invites me over, I go over and they are all drunk but they are funny so I enjoy myself. The next day he decides not to see me and blows me off to go do something with his neighbors, says hell call when he gets home. I never hear from him. He calls Monday night but I decided not to answer his call and he leaves a message. Tuesday I see him in the parking lot he waves and says hi from across the way, I do the same and I don't call him that night. Finally Wed I call him and we talk and I make it clear that I feel we are not on the same page as far as where we want this relationship to be headed. He just got out of a long term relationship and I just figured we would be happier being friends than dating. He agress and invites me over so I go over we hang out have a good time he starts flirting with me one thing leads to another we have sex. He tells me he'll call me the next day. Well I dont' hear all day so I go to bed. I wake up and have 3 missed calls. He called me at like 1:00 in the morning and left a message saying something like " How are you just not going to call anyone all day" So I'm confused by it and dont' think much about it. That night I go out with my friends and get a call on my cell, It's him so I answer and he asked me what I was doing I tell him I'm out and where and he said that his friends and himself were planning on going there too so I say great, I'll see you in a while then. Well he talks to me for like 10 minutes and ignores me for the rest of the night. So I decide to just forget it and I tried to call him that night after the bar but his regular phone wasn't even working and he didnt' pick up his cell. I wanted to tell him that even as friends I don't like the way he makes me feel about myself and maybe it would be better to not associate. I didn't want to leave a message so I didn't get to tell him this. So the next day we get a fabulous hurricane and he didn't even call or check on my roomate and I. I even tried to call him again and I left a message to ask if they were alright and if he had a chance to could he please check in on us because we actually were having trouble with our neighbors being drunk A** holes and the police were too busy to come the the defense of some young women that had drunk neigbors adn we were left to our own deivces. So I dont' know what to think I havent' heard from him since Friday night and he didn't even come over to check on me. Don't you think if he thought of me as a friend I would be getting the same respect his other friends are getting? So I dont' know if I should just let it go or not? I'd rather someone be honest and tell me the truth if they no longer enjoy my company than to just have someone not ever call again. It's so much eaiser on a person to hear the truth even if it hurts than to wonder. It's not like I dont' have other friends or dates either because I've met like 2 guys in the past 2 days I just hate having enemies especially in the same apartment complex. What and idiot I am!!!
kellydontwanttasleep Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 first off don't **** where you live. now you need two leave this alone, he's 100% loser. don't be mad just let it go. positive energy sister
Author gwennebe Posted August 16, 2004 Author Posted August 16, 2004 Thanks. I was kind of thinking he must be a loser too!! I know I made such a huge mistake since he lives near me. That is why I was leery about even getting involved with him in the first place but too late now. I guess I'm the one that will have to suffer.
savethedrama4allama Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 You are very well spoken and you sound intelligent, which is why I'm surprised you slept with him like that, but we all make mistakes. Sounds to me like he is a jacka**, I wouldn't worry about it, and please don't think there is something wrong with you. Just [font=arial]don't give him the time of day again.[/font] What a loser.
Author gwennebe Posted August 17, 2004 Author Posted August 17, 2004 Thanks, I am usually pretty intelligent. That is why I am so upset with myself. I really should have known better. What drama I don't need!! On top of everything I'm putting up with concerning my roomate but I'll save that for a different forum. Thanks for all of your advice though at least I know I'm not alone in it all.
Fire Inside 29 Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 Hi,Well im guy & I think he might not really like you all that much but he is probally using you for sex especially when he gets drunk all the time and is actions might not be conciously thought out,especially when it comes to your emotions.Either that or he is scared to get into anything serious because of the relationship he just had.That might spread some caution.I think that if he liked you though he would have atleast gave you the time of day and not sold you out on a date especially more then once for some other guys.I think you need to walk away from this just be friends and dont expect anymore from this guy he is probally playing im sorry!Hope everything goes better for you!
honey2005 Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 I don't really think he would treat you better if he thought of you as just a friend. He sounds like a real jerk that doesn't care about anyone but himself. My advice is to just forget about him. If he sees you and speaks, say "hi" but don't go into conversation and DON'T make anymore dates with him. It's pretty obvious he likes standing you up and breaking plans. I agree with the other posts, what a loser.
snilljente Posted August 18, 2004 Posted August 18, 2004 Here's the deal, he is clearly not Mr. Wonderful...no matter what is going on in his brain, you can't rely on him, even as a friend...I don't know about you, but I have a busy life and after being blown off a few times by someone, friend or more, I don't make an effort to contact them...my time is precious and I want to spend it with/on people who treat me well....You made a mistake by sleeping with him, learn from it, and don't let him think you give a hoot....just move on..he doesn't need the ego boost.
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