sweetkiwi Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Because the younger ones cant read body language OR take your truthful answers seriously!!! Last night while drinking i kissed a 20 year old guy. I was developing a crush on hin and it was obvious it was mutual. Well we made out sooooo much. I woke up on the couch with him at 7am. Fully clothed. No sex. But i have a hickie on my neck. HUGE ONE. And one on my cheek. Yes. My cheek. So this morning he asked If i wanted to go for a walk to talk. Right away he asked me what i think of him. I told him Im in love with my ex (the one Im still sleeping with). And that i wanted to be his FRIEND. Which is not possible now. But this kid. Instead of backing off comes on STRONGER to me. Telling me i should be over my ex. (DUH). And he wouldn't stop putting his hands on me. Trying to hold my hand, put his arm around me, kiss my cheek. He's a nice guy and i should have realized where this was headed in his mind. I feel bad about leading him on. But after being honest and straightforward, he still isn't backing off. /young guy rant
mammasita Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 My biggest issue with this story is the hickie on your cheek. EW!!! Thats so junior high! Yeah, younger guys can be very pushy. I always end up dating guys younger than me.....I'm older though, so younger than me is late 20's (lol) and they aren't that bad.....but from 18-24 - yeah I can see that happening.
Keenly Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 well thats a little confusing. Making out with him and kissing him and such and then in the morning telling him thats not what you want. Not all younger guys are so inexperienced too. 4
Pyro Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Hickeys? I never enjoyed giving or receiving them.
Angel Heart Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Older guys typically date younger women cause they know their crazy. Share with me why they're crazy? I don't understand where you're coming from.
TheZebra Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Story of my life when I was in high school and college.. though the main reasons I date older men have more to do with maturity, stability, and calmness than anything else. Remember though, knowing when to take a hint is also attributed to experience. Sometimes even a 30 year old can show those behaviors if he has absolutely no experience with women. 1
mammasita Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Older guys typically date younger women cause they know their crazy. Crazy knows no gender or age - it comes in all ages, shapes, sizes and genders..... 3
Divasu Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Younger guys cannot read body language? You made out with him. 4
Author sweetkiwi Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 well thats a little confusing. Making out with him and kissing him and such and then in the morning telling him thats not what you want. Not all younger guys are so inexperienced too. So i should just disappear???? Or maybe lie and say i do like him? No thanks keenly. I can only do damage control. I enjoyed kissing him. Oops. I figured how i handled it is MUCH better than simply ignoring someone i will continue to see.
Author sweetkiwi Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 20? How old are you sweetkiwi? Im 25. But i prefer 28+
edgygirl Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Im 25. But i prefer 28+ Yeah I understand why 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 LOL I am 24, so I must fall into this high schooler foolishness too. Actually, I know when to stop and what I want...as far as a woman goes. I wouldn't place myself in this type of situation. Not all young people are reckless. Not that I am young really. Older guys aren't better, LOL, they see the younger babe as arm candy. Maturity is not age, but a mindset. Handling a woman is not age, but a mindset. 1
Eclypse Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 I wouldn't lump all young guys in the same pile. I'm 22 and I know when to back off! Although, you did spend all night kissing and cuddling and exchanging hickeys. That could almost be mistaken for giving him a green light And you did say you had a crush. I dunno, I don't go around kissing people I only want to be friends with. 2
grkBoy Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Because the younger ones cant read body language OR take your truthful answers seriously!!! Last night while drinking i kissed a 20 year old guy. I was developing a crush on hin and it was obvious it was mutual. Well we made out sooooo much. I woke up on the couch with him at 7am. Fully clothed. No sex. But i have a hickie on my neck. HUGE ONE. And one on my cheek. Yes. My cheek. So this morning he asked If i wanted to go for a walk to talk. Right away he asked me what i think of him. I told him Im in love with my ex (the one Im still sleeping with). And that i wanted to be his FRIEND. Which is not possible now. But this kid. Instead of backing off comes on STRONGER to me. Telling me i should be over my ex. (DUH). And he wouldn't stop putting his hands on me. Trying to hold my hand, put his arm around me, kiss my cheek. He's a nice guy and i should have realized where this was headed in his mind. I feel bad about leading him on. But after being honest and straightforward, he still isn't backing off. /young guy rant Many younger guys believe "no" means "try harder". 2
Keenly Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 I wouldn't lump all young guys in the same pile. I'm 22 and I know when to back off! Although, you did spend all night kissing and cuddling and exchanging hickeys. That could almost be mistaken for giving him a green light And you did say you had a crush. I dunno, I don't go around kissing people I only want to be friends with. this is what I am referring to. Dude was under the impression that you liked him. ****, WE were under the impression that you liked him. Then you woke up and you weren't into it anymore. To me, that's pretty confusing. I'm not saying he shouldn't have backed off at that point, because he should have. What I am saying is , even if you are drinking, try not to give some one the wrong idea. 1
TouchedByViolet Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Age is most certainly not maturity. Also, people handle rejection differently, I don't see how this warrants a rant. The hickey is a bit immature, but you could have stopped him during the act... especially after the first one. The problems some people have I can only dream of sometimes.
Author sweetkiwi Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 Younger guys cannot read body language? You made out with him. Yes i made out with him. Omgggggg. Im talking about my body language today. Read. He kept trying to hold my hand and i was avoiding it. Stiffening up. Avoiding any contact. ALONG with verbally telling him i wasn't interested.
TheZebra Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 this is what I am referring to. Dude was under the impression that you liked him. Sure, but people are allowed to change their minds. Just because someone's into it at one point doesn't mean they're obligated to be into it at a later point. If she decided for whatever reason she didn't want to be with the dude anymore, telling him really WAS the best way to show that. 1
Eclypse Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 this is what I am referring to. Dude was under the impression that you liked him. ****, WE were under the impression that you liked him. Then you woke up and you weren't into it anymore. To me, that's pretty confusing. I'm not saying he shouldn't have backed off at that point, because he should have. What I am saying is , even if you are drinking, try not to give some one the wrong idea. Yep this. Please expand on this Sweetkiwi. Why the sudden change of heart? He should have backed off but damn, women are confusing! 1
turt Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Couldn't you just say you don't like him. You're the one giving him confusing signals. You admit that you like him and show this physically and then tell him that you have an ex. So obviously he thinks you're not with anyone else. 1
monicaelise Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Hickey on your cheek?? As in your face? That's a bit disturbing, from a general health perspective. Facial skin isn't usually that fragile, or that easy to suck. You may need to increase your iron and/or vitamin C intake. Guess he took "sucking face" literally. As to the rest of it, tell you him you want to marry him and have his babies. That you can't wait to see the home he'll be providing for you and the seventeen children you'll be having together. Oh, and be sure to tell him you have always dreamed of being fully supported by a good man who would totally look after all of your needs, especially the financial ones. That should fix things pretty quickly. 2
TheZebra Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 As to the rest of it, tell you him you want to marry him and have his babies. That you can't wait to see the home he'll be providing for you and of the seventeen children you'll be having together. Oh, and be sure to tell him you have always dreamed of being fully supported by a good man who would totally look after all of your needs, especially the financial ones. That should fix things pretty quickly. Don't forget, she should also completely blow up his phone day and night with calls and texts. If he doesn't respond within 5 minutes, send an 'OMG WHY ARE YOU IGNORING ME??' text. Accompany said text with similar voicemail. 2
soccerrprp Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 This thread is confusing. Nevermind the OP. I'm just shaking my head and wondering why the OP even posted this topic... btw, misinterpretation or or disregard for body language or space is not age specific. jerks exist in all age groups and he was being a jerk at that moment.
Author sweetkiwi Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 Hahaha some of the male responses are funny. I can change my mind. I was developing a crush. He was a friend. Then he asked me to dinner making his intentions clear. I went. Had a nice time. Then the next day he's apologizing for not talking more. Apologizing for being quiet. Apologizing for things i didn't even notice or care about. Then yes. Last night we kissed. Kissing is nice. And while drunk i wasn't thinking "oh man this guy really likes me and even though i really like making out with him and he's being a gentleman (not trying to finger me or remove my clothes) i really should stop him just in case he doesn't take what i say seriously when i tell him i am not ready to have him as a boyfriend".
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