irc333 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Lately, there was this female friend that keeps trying to get me to come to a lot of group events lately, esp. these past couple of months. I hadn't been able to make it due to other things I had scheduled. Well, she contacts me last night, and it was about a Sat night I happened to be free for. Turns out I can make it, she said her and her other 2 friends will be there. I am pretty much aware of them, had seen them before with her out in public. One is attractive, the other is...well, obese. Guess which one she is trying to set me up with, lol. Anyhow, she kind of ringed me into it, but I can still back out, but she said that "to dress nice, and talk to her about psychology" (apparently that's her field of study. She's done this once before, but it was a woman that was my mom's age (just about). I do appreciate the favor, but she makes for a poor matchmaker. What I find odd is, she does have friends that I consider personally attractive, but she never tries to set me up with them. Why is this?
xxoo Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 What I find odd is, she does have friends that I consider personally attractive, but she never tries to set me up with them. Why is this? Probably because those women have already nixed the idea. 1
grkBoy Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 What I find odd is, she does have friends that I consider personally attractive, but she never tries to set me up with them. Why is this? xxoo pretty much hit the nail on the head. In your mind, you might wish your friend would set you up anyway, then let the attractive friends reject you personally. However, I'm sure those friends would be angry at your friend for bringing them a guy they're not into. It's like what you said about meetups where you see attractive women show up, then immediately cut out without even saying "hello" to anyone. They simply scanned the room, saw no one they wanted, and thus beat a path to the door. I dunno what to tell you. If the "attractive" women you want aren't interested in meeting you, then you might have to think about what you can get, or how you can change yourself/grow so those "attractive" women will want to give you a shot.
Casablanca Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Probably because those women have already nixed the idea. This Also I've noticed women sometimes don't realize how unattractive some of their good friends are...since they are friends, she sees them as attractive (or at least not as unattractive as reality is) I had someone suggest this about setting me up with a teacher at their school, who I've met, but just like the OP she is fairly obese and I don't find her attractive at all
Els Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 She can only set you up with friends who have already agreed to go out with you. She can't possibly ask you first and then have her friend turn you down - that would be rude. If you're not interested, just tell her you're not and thank her for the favour.
AD1980 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 At least she tried to set you up my friends wives love me but have never tried to set me up which means im not attractive.Theyve tried to set up my other friend whos attractive numerous times Its mostly about looks in the dating world
LazyPomato Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Why don't you tell this friend to stop doing it so that the ugly fatties aren't constantly set up for complete embarassment?
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