blue_jay_bird Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Iv been on four/five dates with this guy. Sometimes I feel really into him/ and some times I don't and things bother me. All the experience I have from dating is falling head over heel for my first love. I'm I expecting to much. Is this normal. Or should i feel happier, more excited. Sometime i feel myself just going through the motions hoping i'll feel stronger. I'm i just not that into him? I know this is only a question i can really answer. But since my experience consists of 17 teens giddy memories. I want to know if i should stick with it?
todreaminblue Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 (edited) Iv been on four/five dates with this guy. Sometimes I feel really into him/ and some times I don't and things bother me. All the experience I have from dating is falling head over heel for my first love. I'm I expecting to much. Is this normal. Or should i feel happier, more excited. Sometime i feel myself just going through the motions hoping i'll feel stronger. I'm i just not that into him? I know this is only a question i can really answer. But since my experience consists of 17 teens giddy memories. I want to know if i should stick with it? I dont know for you or what makes you truly happy.....i like to feel passion for someone from the get go that happy excited feeling...but i rarely get this so i i have decided to just date regardless of what i feel and ill give it a good shot.....more than five dates to determine whether i could get into soemone or not....seeing i go on values and beliefs......feeling a little nauseous talking about dating...lol....so i wish you luck poster....i think a guy deserves a chance for you to know him.....and see if passion will grow sometimes it does.....in my experience though its either there or it isnt..i am going the opposite of what my heart is telling me because i am rebounding ....so do what is best for you what you really want to do dont lead a guy on though that isnt fair..........be honest with him what you feel or dont feel, then it is his choice if he wants to pursue that with you, or find soemone who is passionate about him..............deb Edited December 28, 2012 by todreaminblue
zebracolors Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 Well presuming you are older than 17, Id say its normal to have a more careful approach when it comes to your feelings. I think that feeling you're talking about the "head over heels" in love, is really just infatuation or initial attraction maybe? When you're older, your dating experiences teach your heart things to look out for, which may be why you're starting to notice when things bother you when your with him. You're right when you say only you can answer your question. Its normal to have doubts but if you're really not sure if you can see yourself with this guy long term, for whatever reasons, you need to decide. and 4-5 dates is not really much of a commitment yet, but just be honest with him with your feelings, and if you decide you need some space.
96 assorted Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 dreamin blue, that is a beautiful Rott in your pic!
Author blue_jay_bird Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 So i guess the advice im getting is stick with it. ... But i'll get the question from family. "Is he the one?" And for me i plainly think no. I don't see myself ever marrying him. I don't think I'd fall in love with him. Isn't this wrong of me to stick with it...
truth_seeker Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 If you're questioning him this much now then it's safe to say you're not into him. You're looking for reasons to continue. I think you only like him because he's fun to be around with, like a friend with some benefits.
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