My wife cheated and new to the forums

[Jazziator]

Hi Ive been married for 3 years been together for 5 and have 2 young children.. My wife recently cheated on me with one of her best friends who recently came back into her life.. he had been non existent for 3 years since me and her got married. He then came back professing his undying love for her with out me knowing.. my Wife and i have had some troubles we both didnt feel respected or valued. I suspected sexual activity when they hung out more and more But I was always one to trust my wife.. then one night I feel asleep on the couch while her and her friend went to a local coffee shop, when she returned I pretended to be asleep when she went into our bedroom and laughed and joked with him.. I curiously waited outside the door until I didnt hear laughter anymore. I heard them smooching and my heart was beating rapidly. I couldn't bare to catch them in anything further So I busted open the door. I found her blushing and him sitting on the corner of my bed. Anger had come over me but despite anger issue in the past I asked him to please get the ^&*# out of my house. She came back after an hour of walking him to his car crying and saying how sorry she was that she hurt me, She admitted to sleeping with him once a few night prior whilst I was asleep in the other room.. I was numb and forgave her.. The first day was pure anguish every other thought was them together A deep rooted pain in my stomach all day. The next day that pain gravitated to my heart. I am still working through it. It has been a week and I have tried to be the Man I was in the beginning of our relationship.. Cards, Unique Ideas, helping out more around the house after a 14 hr work day.. But instead of her being UN dyingly grateful for my forgiveness and recent change she just wants to go work out, or hang out with her girlfriends, or do whatever else. I just want to be better and rekindle our love for one another.. She is hanging out with one of her friends right now as I have had a bottle of wine to drink and ready for ventilation to commence. I dont know what to do she accept that what she did was wrong yet I am still to blame for not being there more emotionally for her. And I am trying to do the best I can and I only get distance. Aside from the children involved Does this seem worth pursuing anymore?? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[Serbai]

I think she's made in clear that she has no respect for you. I know that I would never ever ever cheat on someone, ever. If I ever did start to have feelings when was with someone ( especially if I was married and kids were involved) I would never act on them and if the feelings didn't fade I'd have a serious chat with my partner and explain myself. She didn't even consider you before she jumped into bed with this old friend, neither did she consider the children and the impact on your marriage. In the end it's totally up to you whether you stay with her and your feelings for her won't disappear over night. But just remember the way you are feeling now and would you be prepared to feel this way again should she slip up again? All the best and make the decision based on the quality of life you want for yourself