sadbunnyy Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 My ex emailed me few days before Christmas. I told him if he had any bad intentions, I didn't want to hear from him. He said that since the holidays were coming he thought of us? Anyways we exchanged a couple of emails just catching up on each others lives. He was good about responding quickly. He then asked me about school and work so I told him. I brought up some things such as our favorite restaurant and movie in the email. That was on the 24th. Today is the 27th..haven't heard from him yet... I don't know if I seemed to needy by emailing him back so quickly and talking about the past. I feel like I scared him off. I was feeling too anxious hoping maybe we might reconcile..but I guess he just wanted to know how I'm doing I was doing so well with no contact and I started to feel better, now I feel sad again I feel so weak towards him. He is like my kryptonite.. I guess I'm going back to no contact. I'm scared that if he sends me another email I might reply back .... I'm scared that if I don't reply back he might forget about me and move on to someone new... I want him to WANT to get back together not stringing me along. I guess I'm just scared of the uncertainty of it all. What should I do if he sends me another email??? Do I just ignore it, maybe it'll make him think that he's lost me forever and want to come back? or should I reply back ...if I do what would I say so that I wont get strung along?
Author sadbunnyy Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 somebody help me ...I don't know what to do at all...I'm at a crossroad.
Toddbt12y1 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 You should ignore him. Giving up N/C was a bad idea. N/C is not meant to bring about reconciliation. It is meant to end, to begin healing oneself. We start N/C so this healing washes over us; this washing is dammed up, when you break N/C. He isn't interested in reconciliation, if he was, he would still be talking to you, this day. It was the Holidays, and he was lonely. Everyone is extra alone and sad during these days. They remember what they had -- he remembered you. He used you to get through these lonely days. Keep up N/C. As you said, you where happier with N/C, so why break it? Block his email address. This brings me to another point. If you went as far as to go N/C with him, you must have had a good reason. Remember that reason. He isn't worth spiraling down despair again. Take the happier route for you. 1
Missing Him Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 aw The best thing for you to do is to just not respond to those emails. If he's sending you an email around Christmas and wanting to see how you are and what you're up to, there's no reason to believe he wants to get back together. Unless he explicitly states that he wants to get back together, you should not respond. 2
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