I wish I never bothered

[Darren From England]

What a sh*t Christmas I have had, My Ex dumped by Text in October and gave no reason at all, she then proceeded to block me & my family on Facebook over the course of the next 5 weeks and changed her Facebook about me to include ( Looking for men & Love )

( I was under the illusion she loved me ) how I got through all of this sh*t I really don't know, I am not the strongest upstaires to begin with, she left owing money for a Mobile Phone £180.00, I never heard a peep out of her and after I thought about the possibility of her shafting me for the money I decided to buy her it for Christmas ( FOR MY OWN SANITY ) I could not be done with the stress of chasing her for money, she has already all but destroyed me as it is, knowing she would have not payed for the phone would have probably institutionalised me I got a message to her telling her that the Phone was a final farewell Christmas Presant from me to her, I NEVER EVEN GOT A THANK YOU

I sent her a text Christmas day, just wishing her a great day, I NEVER EVEN GOT A REPLY, I am sooo down with all this sh*t, I treated her like a Princess

and I was always there for her, no woman could have asked for a better partner, I can honestly say I NEVER PUT ONE FOOT WRONG IN THE RELATIONSHIP, she moved away to stay with her auntie, and within 4 days I was dumped by text, still f**king hurts like hell, what gets me is why the hell she is completely blanking me, I did nothing wrong, I never even chased her after she dumped me, I just accepted it, I mean I was hurting like hell but I just text her back and said I hope we can be friends, I read the opposite of Love is indifference, surely if she was indifferent she would have no problems with me? at least to the point of saying Thank You for the phone, or Merry Christmas :/ I just don't get it, why is she being this way?

[TaraMaiden]

Because she doesn't give a damn, and knows you do.

hence her getting away with it, and you feeling like schytt.

 

Read my signature.

 

And implement NC.

 

You need to - for peace of mind and your sanity's sake.

[Chi townD]

Wow, we've been preaching NC to you from day one and it turns out that your Ex has been doing a better job at NC than you.

[HurtinUnit]

I'm so sorry this happened to you... I have no insight on why dbags are dbags, seems they just are. Trying to figure out why will land you in an institution.

 

Some people, like your ex, are capable of doing really s*itty things and generally feel no remorse in doing them. It's called being selfish, they just take it to the next level.

 

Maybe it's a game of pay it forward for the broken.

 

Keep your chin up, walk away knowing that you've done nothing wrong and that she's in the wrong, do not contact her again, don't give her the satisfaction and if she does contact you ignore it. She's not worth your time, someone else much better out there for you.

 

How long had you two been together?

[Darren From England]

I was only with her about 5 months but I really fell for her

I think I made a massive error regarding her character, I was blinded by love

She has made me feel worthless to be honest, I feel as though I was used

in fact I think I must have been, I am really angry at myself, the sings were there I suppose, maybe I just never wanted to believe them, I am 38

A very good 38 at that, she was 20 -slim - Blonde -very attractive and came with an alcohol problem, but she did appear to have a very caring personality

I still see her mam who lives in the same town as me but she can't shed much light on anything ( Unless she is just protecting my feelings ) all she ever says is that she ( My Ex ) loves me to bits, which ironically is what my Ex always used to tell me, drunk or sober, in fact the last text she sent me before dumping me was "Love You" I think I am done with love it is overrated !!!

[salmagundi]

listen man, I don't want to judge...but f$&k it, here goes. You're 38? And she's 20? Jesus man, how did you think this was going to turn out? Her attitude and actions may well suck and may well be a little immature but...what the hell do you expect? She IS immature judged from the point of view of a thirty-something. If you want to chase after 20 year-olds for sex and good times then go for it...I. guess. But if you want a mature relationship next time try choosing a mature person. Just saying...

[Darren From England]

I never chased after anyone for sex, be it a 20 year old or otherwise, I fell in love with the girl irrelevant of her age, I work as a doorman, I can have a woman every night if I so wished, but I was looking for love NOT SEX, I was single for almost a decade prior to meeting this girl, I am all good to the core

Your reply is uninformed and judgmental, I am all man, with a heart and with a lot of love in my veins, I unfortunately gave my love to the wrong person

A person who proclaimed to love me, the girl I loved prior to this "Episode" is now 44 but I fell in love with her IRRELEVANT TO HER AGE, I am unlucky in Love I suppose, strange really as I am a great guy, both good looking, and fiercely loyal, it makes me laugh when I think back to when my EX used to introduce me to anyone it always started with "Isn't he pretty"

AND NOW SHE DUMPS ME..........................

[LostOne1]

Take it for what it's worth... love hurts.

 

And you'll never really know WHY she did what she did. That's part of closure most of us never get. What you have to realize is you DID fall in love with someone. And that the love didn't last on her part.

 

Now it's over and you need search out for a new love. And it will come someday and slowly this pain you feel will go away.

 

I know it hurts man.. I too hurt sometimes after my ex left. It was the best relationship I had and part of me wishes it would've survived. But honestly do you want someone, who doesn't want you?

 

That part has helped me move on slowly... the fact that SHE left me and now your ex left you. They had enough in them to not want us anymore. So that there shows that they are NOT worth it. Why would you want to be with someone, who can leave you like that at anytime.

 

I know the feeling of having a girl so obsessed with you. Almost like it's impossible for her to stop loving you or leave you. But it happens and it happened to me too. I NEVER imagined SHE would be the one to leave. I always thought if it went bad.. it would be me leaving not her.

 

But hey it showed me that ANYTHING can happen. And when you get into a relationship or fall in love... well that it's possible that love and relationship may not last forever.....

 

So cheer up and go NC. If you have bills to pay.. pay them and think of it as a loss you had to spend and let it go. And just move on from the fact as it was a good lesson to learn.

[GLDheart]

A few hundred bucks on a cell phone?? You got off easy...

 

This is easier said than done but damn... chalk it up that even at your age you attracted a young little hottie, enjoyed her, and then it ran it's course.

[Sugarkane]

There's nothing I hate more than a coward. I always hope someone will do exactly the same thing to these people. Its a lame way to end things.

[na49]

If you sent HER a text first. You have no one to blame but yourself. She doesn't want her needy ex boyfriend bothering her. Especially on Christmas. Have a little self respect and go NC. Don't just go NC. Try to maintain NC. Start day by day. Then week by week. Eventually you'll be looking at it month by month and on your course to feeling better. Your ex will eventually wonder where you went and text you. She'll wonder if the dog is still on the leash and yank your chain. You'll have dignity and love yourself enough to not respond. You'll know it's over, and have found someone better.

[Darren From England]

I sent her a Text Christmas Day as I am just a nice person, I sent everyone a Text Christmas Day, I am probably to nice at times, I start weight lifting again in January, this will occupy my time, I have lost two stone since all of this sh*t :/ I have even started smoking again, I wish some people would realise how they can damage people emotionally when they do sh*t like this, I always think that if she had done things correctly the outcome for her would have been the same but would have been easyer for me

but she chose to dump me by text and leave me with this emotional train wreck, it has probably been the hardest thing to deal with in my life

dumped by the one I loved so much, and by text, then given no answers as to why, and then completely ignored therafter

I don't wish her anything bad but I do hope that the Karma bus is parked outside where she is living, her mother used to tell her time and time again

( Grab hold of him with two hands and never let him go you won't find another man like that ) but such is life I suppose, I am much better than I was in October, I just get sad when I think of things we did together

I am angry at myself more than anything, I am so streetwise

I know all the curls and wrinkles of the big bad world yet somehow this little b*stard done me over, I was clearly blinded by love, I am happy for this website, I am not happy anyone is going through, or has gone through what I have but it certainly makes you feel better knowing there is others going through what I am going through.

[tori0001]

I can't offer up any advice, except to say I do wish you peace. I hope it comes to you soon. I know all to well the pain of a break up that took me almost 3 years to finally move on from. Devastated is not even close to what I wss feeling. I dated in between to drown the pain. Finally I met someone who's a good guy. There's issues with this relationship. I learned how to deal with myself emotionally so I will never get hurt like that again.

[MyAngel]

Hi Darren, what a crap situation I'm so sorry you're getting right now. I can only hope that you can recover from this soon.