golk Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 So a little update from the holidays. We have been in no contact for 3 weeks ever since i said stop talking to me. Got a merry Christmas text. So I replied merry Christmas to you too, just being nice. Then I get the I wana talk txt. Oh boy. I have been hanging out with one of her old friends from high school a little bit. They barely talk anymore even though they used to b close. We went to a strip club together and another friend of ours and someone saw us together and told my ex. Basically, she's furious! Absolutely went off on me how I'm so terrible and how it's a slap in the face. That she really thought that with more time we would get back together, but not a chance in hell now. I acted like I didn't care what she thought and we can do whatever we want because that's what she wanted. Now me and her friend have been a little physical but my ex doesn't know that. All she knows is that we went to the club together. I am in no way doing this for revenge or to hurt my ex in any way. I just like having a female to hangout with and me and her have a good connection. So does my ex have a right to b mad at me for hanging out with one of her old friends? Even after all the lies and bs she put me through??
Treasa Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Your ex needs to get over herself. She has no right being upset once she tells you she doesn't want to be with you. 2
Missing Him Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 If she wanted to be with you, she had her chance. What you do with your life after that is none of her business. Most likely this is just a blow to her ego and not an indication that she actually cares and wants to be with you - don't give her the satisfaction of a response any longer. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Your ex has no right to any sort of anger in this situation. She left you, too bad, so sad for her.
fancy feast Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 Take a victory lap, you've won the game. 1
coltsfan1 Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I dk man, kind of a low thing to do. There are plenty of other ladies out there that will spend time with you, no need to chase the ex's friends. Even if they are not close, if you meet this girl through your ex she should be off limits!
stillafool Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I dk man, kind of a low thing to do. There are plenty of other ladies out there that will spend time with you, no need to chase the ex's friends. Even if they are not close, if you meet this girl through your ex she should be off limits! I agree. Personally if I were OP I wouldn't want to have anything to do with someone who even knows her. There are just too many fish in the world to go fishing in the same pond. 1
Keenly Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I agree. Personally if I were OP I wouldn't want to have anything to do with someone who even knows her. There are just too many fish in the world to go fishing in the same pond. I disagree completely .... You are saying he has to limit his dating options because they were once friends ? That's bs... Oh no! They talked in third grade once ! Can't hang out with her! Ignore these people man. If you guys have fun together , that's the ONLY thing that matters.
CptSaveAho Posted December 27, 2012 Posted December 27, 2012 I endorse this thread and OPs actions 100% Keep it up... tell your ex to go F^*( herself if she continues to have a problem with it 2
Author golk Posted December 28, 2012 Author Posted December 28, 2012 Thanks for the responses guys. Just to clear it up, I've known this girl for a long time. We all went to the same high school so I didn't meet through my ex. In fact, I almost dated her before my ex but it never went through. And the way I'm feeling is that her friend shouldn't hang out with me. It's not MY fault. Her friend should know that she shouldn't but I feel like I'm not in the wrong here. Just wondering how everyone else feels?
Samilia Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 So a little update from the holidays. We have been in no contact for 3 weeks ever since i said stop talking to me. Got a merry Christmas text. So I replied merry Christmas to you too, just being nice. Then I get the I wana talk txt. Oh boy. I have been hanging out with one of her old friends from high school a little bit. They barely talk anymore even though they used to b close. We went to a strip club together and another friend of ours and someone saw us together and told my ex. Basically, she's furious! Absolutely went off on me how I'm so terrible and how it's a slap in the face. That she really thought that with more time we would get back together, but not a chance in hell now. I acted like I didn't care what she thought and we can do whatever we want because that's what she wanted. Now me and her friend have been a little physical but my ex doesn't know that. All she knows is that we went to the club together. I am in no way doing this for revenge or to hurt my ex in any way. I just like having a female to hangout with and me and her have a good connection. So does my ex have a right to b mad at me for hanging out with one of her old friends? Even after all the lies and bs she put me through?? Another kid wants to play with the old toy she discarded, now she wants to claim it again. Meh... I'd ignore. 1
coltsfan1 Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 If you knew her first that's different. I guess for us older vets our friends are our property per say and the ex's friends are the ex's property. As you get older you have less friends but more people you may know, ie networking. Talking once in 3rd grade is a bit different than we hung out till I started hanging out with her. 1
Oberfeldwebel Posted December 28, 2012 Posted December 28, 2012 She can feel happy, sad, whatever she desires, but has nothing to be with you. She left, you are no longer accountable to her. Also don't buy the "I was going to come back, but now" story she is spinning, that is horse-hockey.
Author golk Posted December 29, 2012 Author Posted December 29, 2012 Yeah that's how I was feeling as well. I'm pretty sure that the thought of "getting back together" wouldnt have even crossed her mind if she hadnt heard about this. I hate how women think lol. I break up with you but your not allowed to hangout with anyone else but I can do whatever I want. It's absolute crap!
Author golk Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 So my ex contacted me again apologizing for her hostility and then tries to make small talk. Then goes on to tell me she wished we were still dating and regrets everything. She's back to her normal self and feels bad for treating me bad. She said she really wants to see me and wants to meet up. Breadcrumbs? Obviously jealousy right?
Mr.White Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 So my ex contacted me again apologizing for her hostility and then tries to make small talk. Then goes on to tell me she wished we were still dating and regrets everything. She's back to her normal self and feels bad for treating me bad. She said she really wants to see me and wants to meet up. Breadcrumbs? Obviously jealousy right? Do you still harbor the same feelings for her? I think she is trying to lure you back so she could hurt you again. 3 weeks NC and you would think she would contact you during that time of how she really is sorry, how much she misses you and how stupid her decision of not being with you was. I see this as total BS from her side.
Simon Phoenix Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Smells like BS to me. She only wants you because her friend likes you. The moment she gets you back she'll discard you again. I'd ignore her breadcrumbs -- three weeks isn't enough for her to have an epiphany on you.
Author golk Posted December 31, 2012 Author Posted December 31, 2012 I would say I'm not attached to her anymore. I still have strong feelings for her no doubt but I'm not madly in love with her anymore. Idk how to feel really. I should ignore her but its getting tough. She texted me goodnight last night.
ThatJustHappened Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 She can feel happy, sad, whatever she desires, but has nothing to be with you. She left, you are no longer accountable to her. Also don't buy the "I was going to come back, but now" story she is spinning, that is horse-hockey. I don't know why, but the word horse-hockey made me spit orange juice all over my keyboard. :laugh::laugh::laugh:
stillafool Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 So my ex contacted me again apologizing for her hostility and then tries to make small talk. Then goes on to tell me she wished we were still dating and regrets everything. She's back to her normal self and feels bad for treating me bad. She said she really wants to see me and wants to meet up. Breadcrumbs? Obviously jealousy right? What difference does it make? You are with her friend now aren't you?
flitzanu Posted December 31, 2012 Posted December 31, 2012 Thanks for the responses guys. Just to clear it up, I've known this girl for a long time. We all went to the same high school so I didn't meet through my ex. In fact, I almost dated her before my ex but it never went through. And the way I'm feeling is that her friend shouldn't hang out with me. It's not MY fault. Her friend should know that she shouldn't but I feel like I'm not in the wrong here. Just wondering how everyone else feels? your mistake here is replying to your ex's text. that's the only mistake was communicating with her past the "merry xmas" text. just sounds like people want to cause drama. if the girl you're hanging out with has no guilt about it, then you shouldn't either.
Author golk Posted January 4, 2013 Author Posted January 4, 2013 I'm not with her friend, just hanging out having fun. But her friend doesn't feel too bad and I don't either really. So I agreed to meet up with her and hear her out and she says she wants to wait a couple weeks because she doesnt know when is "too soon" when she was the one begging me the day before lol. The Games that women play.
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