Anyone recently separated?

[Angel Heart]

Have you started seeing other people? Is it difficult to date?

[buckeyeblue]

I recently left my H due to his unwillingness to work through his choice to cheat on me. I am not dating as we are still legally married.

 

If you intend to date while you are separated (and before you are divorced), just make sure that you are upfront about this decision with your spouse and that this is a choice that you can live with.

[BeerCheeseSoup]

I'm in the middle of a divorce. It's hard, because I don't really like people in general and feel I'm too old to play the courting games, and my soon-to-be-ex-wife is really the only person for me.

 

ON THE OTHER HAND, I am very lonely and my life consists of working and rotting away, alone, in my apartment.

 

I don't have any furniture anymore - just a bed in an empty room. I lay in bed from the time I get home from work until I have to go the next day, depressed. I figure that isn't good, but I just don't have the energy to do anything about it.

 

I have signed up for an OKC account, but that hasn't yielded anything of interest (it doesn't help that I'm extremely shy and have very low self-esteem).

 

I hate bars, but was thinking of going to one. I picture myself just sitting there alone, by myself, and getting even more depressed than if I had just stayed home though.

 

just make sure that you are upfront about this decision with your spouse and that this is a choice that you can live with.

 

Why? She dstroyed my life. I have nothing now.

[ataloss8270]

I'm in the middle of a divorce. It's hard, because I don't really like people in general and feel I'm too old to play the courting games, and my soon-to-be-ex-wife is really the only person for me.

 

ON THE OTHER HAND, I am very lonely and my life consists of working and rotting away, alone, in my apartment.

 

I don't have any furniture anymore - just a bed in an empty room. I lay in bed from the time I get home from work until I have to go the next day, depressed. I figure that isn't good, but I just don't have the energy to do anything about it.

 

I have signed up for an OKC account, but that hasn't yielded anything of interest (it doesn't help that I'm extremely shy and have very low self-esteem).

 

I hate bars, but was thinking of going to one. I picture myself just sitting there alone, by myself, and getting even more depressed than if I had just stayed home though.

 

 

 

Why? She dstroyed my life. I have nothing now.

 

Im sorry to say but thats no way to live. No matter how old you are there is always someone out there for you. And If you dont want to divorce her maybe you should stand tall, get out there and do something for yourself and maybe she will see it and reconcider.

 

My wife moved out today, and she is already with someone else. We are still married. She tells me that they were just "talking" before she decided we were done. But now she is dating him. I feel she is doing it to hide her true feelings for me. I'd like to think its because she's not 100% over me lol. Wishful thinking I know. but thats whatever.

 

As for me I am not ready to date yet. But as my heart heals and even if we are still married but not sure where we are at then yes I will date. I just dont want to rebound. I would like a real relationship. But just because we are not together, whats the point sitting around doing nothing. And its not like your going to marry that person if you guys decide to reconcile.